Support Groups for Crossdressers

While perusing the magazine section the other day, I came across an article in OUT magazine called “When Your Wife’s Bra Wont Fit You” by Chadwick Moore which talked about the underground world of support groups for gender diverse people and their families.  Specifically, the article featured the New York-based group Crossdressers International (CDI) - a members only support group that works in tandem with Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls.  Ironically, the academy is run by a woman named Veronica Vera who operates the school out of her Chelsea apartment.  


Part of Miss Vera’s mission is to “help wives understand and embrace their husbands’ cross-dressing desires.” The academy also offers a locker room so that closeted crossdressers and people in transition can come together to get dolled up, get make-up and wig lessons, practice walking in heels, or just relax in peace.  Anonymity is crucial so real names are never used.  Essentially, it is a day spa for crossdressers.  

Similar organizations in the USA include:

  • CHIC (Crossdressrs Heterosexual Intersocial Club)

  • Over the Rainbow Transformations in Portland, OR

  • Carla’s Boutique in San Jose, CA

  • Tris Ess Crossdressers

I am definitely a fan of these organizations because, let’s face it, it’s hard out there for a crossdresser, especially heterosexual crossdressers who can’t seem to find a place in this ever evolving world that has to put a label on everything and everyone.  

We would love to hear recommendations from our UK/EU customers on similar support groups on your side of the pond!  Let us know in the comment box below if you are a member of any support groups or crossdressing organizations. Are they useful?  Do you know of any other groups?  Would you join one?

Until you have found your support system, Xdress is proud to be your outlet.  You can always rely on us for cross dressing topics, trends, and of course, amazing panties!  So, put on some heels, let your hair down and fix yourself a cocktail.  It’s happy hour somewhere!


I have been interested in wearing women’s clothing since I was a little boy. It started when I found my mother’s pantyhose in the laundry hamper many years ago. I’m now 45 years old, and I still dream about wearing pantyhose and high heels and I indulge in this practice whenever I have the opportunity. I am married now, and I brought this up to my wife many years before we were married. We tried it once but I didn’t feel she was interested and I have never mentioned it again. We’ve been together almost nine years. I don’t like doing this behind her back but I don’t want to be pushy and force her to feel obligated to do this. So for now I dress when she is not at home. I would love direction on how to handle this situation.

Michael January 13, 2021

Like many I began experimenting in adolescence. Today I have a loving supportive SO who also enjoys my cross-dressing, however it’s kept behind closed doors. We would love to socialize with other couples with similar relationships. Here in middle Tennessee, the buckle of the Bible belt, when I let my hair down or up and apply a perfect acrylic Mani and pedi socializing isn’t an option.

vanessa October 19, 2020

I wish there was a group in my area(Chicago suburbs. I would like to meet other men and talk about outfits and such. Some one who could help my girl friend understand I love her but enjoy wearing a sexy outfit also. It feels great to come home after work and slip into my lingerie and relax.

Jim January 06, 2020

I sat around for a long time trying to put this together, crossdressing and being a heterosexual. I am. If I was, then there had to be more out there. It’s always present though…if you wear panties, if you wear nylon stockings, then there must be something wrong with me? Yes there was something wrong with me. I had to believe me before it was real. The jump, the realization I was not gay-and I never did participate in any other than hetero activity-and that’s when I started feeling better in my journey. I would really enjoy meeting other crossdressers and making friends, my wife would like to talk to other wives and crossdressers too, and we need a support group here in Vancouver, Oregon USA.

Rusty October 31, 2019

I have over 20 years experience in the industry of hairdressing and would love to provide a bespoke service to anyone needing support/guidance with hair stying, wigs, extensions. I would love to help people ‘get ready’ for a night out. Let me know what people think. Tracey x

Tracey March 09, 2019

hi my name is Richard I am very new to this but I am looking for a cross-dresser to join me in teach me new things how to crossdress and see where it leads to I love wearing silky satin and PVC and more but just want to talk to a crossdresser see where it leads to a maybe invite them to my flat and try stuff on and have fun I live near Lancaster in a quiet village if you want to know more please get back

Richard December 19, 2018

Thank you Gigi. Sounds like heaven.

Ally August 28, 2018

It’s not a support group as such, but in the UK, for someone who is nervous and wants to go out in female attire for the first (or second, third or fourth…) time I and my partner would wholeheartedly recommend Scarlets Hotel in Blackpool. The hosts / hostesses are very friendly and easygoing and can help by booking you a makeover lady if needed. Everyone meets in the hotel bar before heading to one or more of the T-friendly bars nearby. It is very good value too, and the price per night drops the more nights you book.

Gigi August 20, 2018

There are a number of dressing service providers in the UK but very few places where you can go and be with other cross dressers in a relaxed atmosphere. There are gay bars but not necessarily cross-dress bars. Least of all day-time cross dress bars or clubs. It would be great to be able to sit and relax with others that share the same interests.

Ally August 12, 2018

A good support group for cross dresser would be having a private e-mail domain to communicate with other cross dressers like myself. So, I am more than happy to open my email domain: for any cross dressers!!! Please do get in touch!!!

Ni August 11, 2018

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