Ahhh, Shopping!

June 12, 2019 31 Comments

Ahhh, Shopping!

 

Greetings, my dear readers. I hope this blog finds you well and in some nice lingerie. I got to thinking about the advantages and challenges involved in the different modes of shopping in which we can engage. There are basically three ways to shop; online, brick and mortar and hard copy catalogues.

 

Hard copy catalogues are pretty much going the way of the dial telephone, but I have found a nice Capri set and a pretty nightgown in one of the catalogues we get. I found the experience pretty flat, and overall the lingerie was pretty boring. I think it is designed for an older set of ladies, with a lot of granny panties and bras that would probably deflect a speeding bullet.

 

The internet is ideal for those of us who are shy about our inner femme. There is such an array of nice lingerie out there. We are fortunate to have XDress and Body Aware, who specifically cater to us of the femme persuasion. Thank goodness for XD and BA! There are also some nice ladies sites out there. When looking at the customer reviews on a pair of ladies panties, you’d be surprised how many of the reviews are done by males. We number more than you might think. The upside of  the internet is you can shop in complete privacy with no risk of unintentionally outing yourself. One of the risks is the issue of fit. You can’t try it on. To further complicate the matter, what one store considers a size large can differ greatly from another store. You just have to learn by experience.

 

 

One thing I really like about the internet is in the shoe department. I have large feet – size 13. For those of you that don’t know, in order to find the right size of women’s shoe, add two sizes to your men’s size. If you are a size 9, you would be a size 11 in women’s shoes. Doing the math, you can see that I am a size 15 in women’s shoes. You don’t just go to the local shoe store to find a women’s size 15. You won’t find them. I can, however, find size 15 online, and I have several pair, from boots, to sandals, to loafers, and of course Mary Janes. Also shopping for shoes online spares you the exposure involved in shopping at a brick and mortar.


Speaking of brick and mortar shopping, there are advantages and challenges there as well. First the challenges. The obvious challenge is outing yourself without intending to. There are ways to deal with that. If you are married to a gg who is supportive of your cross dressing, she is your cover for shopping. My wife and I love to go shopping and we have the closets and drawers to prove it! We’ve gotten to the point that a new skirt means you have to donate one to the charity shop. A new pair of panties? Find an old pair to throw out. Such a nice problem to have! One of the up sides to me personally is just the thrill of being in the store with other women around while I’m shopping. Also, you can feel the texture of things and some things, like women’s jeans, you can try on, eliminating the problem of proper fit.


If you are either not out to your gg or single with no relationship, you can use a trick that I used before I was out to my wife. As with most of us, I started by secretly underdressing. When there was a pair of panties I just had to have, I would also pick up a birthday or anniversary card for my wife. Ah, I’m shopping for her, not me. One time I was doing our grocery shopping by myself at Wal Mart and threw a nice pink lacy pair of panties in, thinking they would be lost among all the groceries. Wrong! The clerk scanned them and said, “I’ll bet you’ll look cute in these.” I just smiled, thinking anything I said would just dig the hole deeper.

 

 

The pre-Christmas shopping season is a pretty safe time to do both under and outer wear shopping, as everybody is buying things for others. Pretty safe time to get that skirt and blouse you’ve been wanting.


One of the things my wife and I love to do is hit the thrift shops. You’d be surprised at the quality outer wear you can find if you just look. Men’s shopping is pretty straight forward – shirts in one area, slacks in another. With women’s shopping, it’s more like a hunting expedition. Everything is everywhere. You have to take your time. I have skirts and blouses from higher end labels that I got for cheap. One thing that I don’t get is that some of the thrift shops sell used panties. Really? That is so gross. Would you wear panties previously owned by a total stranger? Not this gurl!


So, I’ve rambled on long enough. How about you – what are your experiences and preferences in the wonderful world of shopping? Please share your thoughts with me, as I always love to read your postings. Until then, let’s get out there and go shopping!


Fond regards,

Angie

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31 Responses

yaniv
yaniv

June 26, 2019

After I asked my wife to wear the thong that she got with her new corset (12 years ago), she bought me few panties and garter belts. I bought for myself only when I was abroad and it was really exciting but back at home I feel very shy to go to lingerie shop alone but more shame to go with my wife (don’t know why) so I started to order online but not all my choices were good … My wife sometime shows me something that will be sexy for me or buys me something from time to time but I decided that if I want to wear sexy lingerie I should buy them myself, so lately I bought for myself a few times… the problem is a few of the saleswomen that I’ve met weren’t so helpful or pleasant… it feels like a man at a lingerie shop makes the saleswomen stressed more that the man himself…but I don’t care, I’ll go to buy my lingerie at the stores that I’ll feel welcome as I do at other shops. I don’t hurt anyone with my passion to wear something sexy and feminine

Keri
Keri

June 25, 2019

Hi Everyone,

I think this is a place where anyone can stop, shop if you like and comment. I for one am open to the entire community of people in this space. Like Ally and others I am not sure what label I should use. I just enjoy and embrace my feminine side. ALOT.

As for shopping I most enjoy doing it on site and in mall stores. I’ll try on almost anything. Several years ago I found several bras in a mens fitting room and figured there were others like me shopping there. I took the lead and try on all kinds of women’s clothing. It’s fun and slightly naughty. Awkward sometimes and certainly it was the first few times. But that will pass as you get used to it. I have never had anyone stop me.

Keri

Kit
Kit

June 25, 2019

So many sweet supportive responses! Thanks XD! This whole experience has been a big part of me figuring out who I am. Thanks for being more than ‘a shop’ and creating such an awesome community space! I’ve never felt more me. Xok

Ally
Ally

June 22, 2019

Dear Kit – there is room for us all here.
I hope so anyway as I’m not even sure which of those categories I fit into!
Be lovely
X

Pauley
Pauley

June 21, 2019

Just finished some XD shopping and ordering …. again lol … got me some new panties and the new nightie. Can’t wait for it to arrive and show my wife. Keep shopping everyone.

Stevie
Stevie

June 21, 2019

Dear Kit
I’ve been on this site a long time. It is the most inclusive non judgmental site I’ve been on and I’ve searched the internet for years looking for a place to be accepted. The exchanges of ideas is awesome, its a clean site that you could share with your wife if she were on board. I accept you completely and I m interested in you view on any and all topics. The concept of gender fluidity is a welcomed take on what’s going on for me. Though I haven’t completely assigned that to my self I m exploring it as it comes closest to the vibe i m feeling.

Wow, I’ve really gone off topic but I thought it important to welcome you and make you feel at home so that you will continue to chime in on these topics

Wear something pretty today!

Stevie

Kyrstin
Kyrstin

June 20, 2019

Hi Gurls!

As usual I’m a little late to the blog party due to travel for work, but I’m glad to see everyone has been engaging in some much needed “retail therapy,” both online and in person. I’ve done both and although online is easier for a variety of reasons others have mentioned, in person can be fun too. As an example I recently went to several places looking for pumps and sandals and just walked in and began calmly trying on several pairs. A few women were there and no one even gave me so much as a second look so far as I could tell. I’ve mentioned before that I can’t pass in public and I usually go with my GF but she was out of town so I didn’t have my usual “cover.” Even though I live in a conservative part of the country people are nonetheless very accepting so I’ve never had a problem. However I realize others might not be able to be so bold about shopping brick and mortar stores.

Anyway, best wishes to all in the quest for the perfect femme wardrobe! And thanks Angie for your kind comments a couple of weeks ago. You’re right about the eyelash thing. My GF and I are going to test light mascara and eyeliner on me for our next date. Less is definitely more when it comes to makeup.

Xs and Os Sisters!!

Randy
Randy

June 20, 2019

Hi Kit:
As per your last post, I think this is a very inclusive community. I am openly gay and my boyfriend has gotten into exploring femininity as well. We are definitely not alone!

Rob
Rob

June 19, 2019

Hi David
Thank you for your kind response. It is what it is – I have got accustomed to the situation although I hate being deceitful. Occasionally, I find I have the house to myself as the family are all out, and I can wear a complete set of lingerie and relax. It feels so good! I sometimes work from home and I’ll spend all day working in my lingerie – those are the best days!

Ally
Ally

June 19, 2019

To David @xdress – that’s so good to hear you’re working on a click and collect option for your new website.
I’m sure it will be really helpful for your customers.
And your sales should take off – like panties from a laundry line in a strong wind!
Can’t wait!
X

Kit
Kit

June 19, 2019

I’m really happy that this is a place for cisgender heterosexual men to explore and embrace femininity. Femininity is awesome. I’d love to know, though, that this community is as happy to include queer, non-binary or non-conforming, and trans folks, as well. Are we a fully inclusive community? I don’t have a wife. I have a not-so-into-it husband and a super-into-it daughter. Is there room for all of us here?

Kit
Kit

June 18, 2019

David — we are so grateful for this space! Personally, I’d love to find a strappy heel, more in the sandal family. Got to show off this pedicure! And I’ll echo Andre — more bralettes!

Tracking my latest shipment like a kid waiting for Santa. :)

David
David

June 18, 2019

Hi Rob,

I am sorry that you feel you have to hide your feeling from your wife, this seems to be a common thread (see Angie’s excellent posts on Getting the Wife Onboard). The ladies appear to be able to wear anything, feminine or masculine, and as a result we feel its unfair that they don’t understand how the desire to wear something feminine is an important part of many of us.. But in actual fact I think women feel just as constrained by society’s conventions of what is acceptable clothing based on their weight, age, looks etc., and particularly by the perceived judgment of their fellow gender. So perhaps women and men are both limited in what they can wear, essentially out of fear of embarrassment or ridicule.

Fortunately the world view is changing and I love to see that the younger generation is embracing gender fluidity, and gender boundary-defying clothing is a common feature at the top fashion shows. For now, online shopping is a great and safe way to purchase lingerie, although hopefully in the future there will be more gender neutral brick & mortar stores like The Phluid Project in New York (thephluidproject.com). Does anyone know of any similar stores? Pluid were mentioned in this interesting article: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/culture/2019/03/gender-bending-fashion-rewrites-rules-who-wears-what/ Apologies, Angie, for going somewhat off topic!

Rob
Rob

June 18, 2019

I tend to buy online and mainly from Xdress. I am an underdresser mainly. Always wear panties to work. Depending on my office shirt, I might also wear a camisole, but can’t afford to be noticed! I have purchased some underwear from places like Sainsbury’s or Tesco’s but being a female cut, they don’t fit that well (my scrotum keeps falling out unless they are boy shorts!). I prefer paying the extra and getting those designed by Xdress/Bodyaware. Unfortunately, although being married, my wife does not know I wear these under my work clothes – she just doesn’t understand how it makes me feel. It’s so nice to see others on here like wearing the things I do and I’m not so strange after all!

With regard to future ideas, maybe it would be good to have a photo upload section, so those of us who do not look like the models showing the lovely lingerie, can see what it look like on the rest of us. I’m overweight and probably twice the age of the models!

Thank you Angie, Xdress and everyone who contributes on here.

Ally
Ally

June 18, 2019

Hi there Stevie
I can’t do stilettos. I just don’t feel comfortable in them and I find their shape is a little too narrow for my body shape. Lucky you if you can pull them off! The jewelry counter is a really interesting are to explore. I’m more of a silvery bangles and multi-layered necklace type of person. Jewelry done well adds accent and highlight I hadn’t been aware of. Ceramic, stone or plastic jewelry in big chunky colourful beads works well too. The model in the article has a nice chunky chain necklace on.
I love the new xdress satin print panties by the way. They are definitely on my list.
Does xdress do a click and collect delivery? I’m not sure they do. It would be so much more convenient for me if they did.
Luv to you all and happy dressing
X

Reply from David @ Xdress Thanks for your comments Ally. We do not currently have the option for Click and Collect, but we are working on updating our website and hope to add this or a similar service in the near future.

Angie
Angie

June 18, 2019

What great replies! I just love reading your comments and stories about shopping. Kit, regarding your question about how to find shoes, you can go to Google and type in your search criterion. For example, I have a couple of pairs of Mary Janes. I located them by typing in Mary Janes size 15. I’ve also found shoes by simply typing in Women’s Shoes Size 15. I find that a bit hit or miss, but I’ve found some nice loafers, ballet slippers and sandals that way. Good luck, and happy shopping!

A special shout out to Ally, Pauley, K, Randy, and Nathan. Thanks so much for your suggestions of topics. Sometimes I start searching for ideas and topics, and you have been tremendously helpful. Consider yourselves hugged by your sis Angie!

Fondly,
Angie

Kit
Kit

June 17, 2019

I love shopping in a department store because I feel like no one is really paying attention to anyone else, and that if I just exude the vibe that I’m trying to decide “if it will fit her?” that’s what people will think. Also, the places with self-checkout save a lot of anxiety. On some levels I kind of hate Walmart—but for this I am grateful. Please please, though, share the resources of where else you are buying larger size shoes online! I’m an 11.5, which means I can’t walk into a Payless and find 13 wide either!

Stevie
Stevie

June 17, 2019

Ally
Great addition of something I hadn’t thought of; jewelry is a great way to add a femme touch in a stealth way. In the summer an anklet made of leather works great on the beach AND any necklace or ring can be added in addition to ear rings
The addition of a little make up especially when going out can easily be done in stealth mode OR NOT. Club time begs to do all of that plus a pair of stilettos
Stevie

Ally
Ally

June 15, 2019

Hi gurls
Jewellery is an area we don’t hear much about.
I’ve recently been experimenting with some and have been surprised a the results. For instance, I recently bought some quite cheap, but girly, boho style jewellery online and teamed it with male casual wear and some women’s metallic platform sandals. I was surprised at the accent the jewellery gave. The necklace added decoration but also seemed to lengthen my neck a little, the bracelet glittered and drew attention to my hands. If I’d have had longer nails on and had them painted the effect would have been superb. The jewellery items I’d chosen were silvery and so matched my metallic silver sandals. I felt proper fem! And so pleased with myself I just had to put on a little lipsticck and mascara too! And, of course, I had a lovely pair of xdress lace panties and a bra under my casual wear. So comfortable for every day.

Pauley
Pauley

June 14, 2019

Shopping for panties/lingerie is so much fun whether online or in brick mortar stores. The shopping experience between these two venues are different and exciting in their own ways. At the brick mortar stores it is more risqué and daring because when you are shopping you have sales clerks, cashiers, and other customer encounters that can determine or surmise the lingerie is for you. This has always brought the added dimension of excitement to me when shopping in stores. Additionally, if you have that special someone in your life and she is a female than shopping together in the stores adds a unique and fun experience to shopping. It can be fun matching, displaying, and purchasing the items as you shop, especially if you are different sizes, and you don’t mind answering any questions together if asked. It is also fun to see the reaction of a nearby customer when the wife hold up a panty and asks if these will fit you. Online shopping is a bit different as you don’t have that public interaction but can go more risqué with the items you find and buy. It is fun to look at the models and wonder how that item might fit on you. Online shopping also allows me shop at work and text my wife back and forth getting her opinions on certain items before purchasing them for me and/or us. XD is our favorite site and their lingerie is quality so we do visit weekly. Anyway, however you shop, just enjoy experience and have fun with it. Enjoy this side of us and share it with others … it is the only way we can make male lingerie wearing even more mainstream.

As to topics;

What is your favorite material to wear in lingerie?

Giving male panties as a gift

What would you like to see XD add to their merchandise?

When traveling has anyone discovered your lingerie in your bags

Caught in panties or lingerie because of an emergency situation and how did you handle that.

Wearing fem swimwear at the pool or beach.

Randy
Randy

June 14, 2019

Hi Everyone:
Great topic and very appropriate for our group! I love shopping! I must have inherited the trait from my mother. I shop both online and in stores. Shopping for women’s clothes at big box retailers can be very easy and using a self service check out is sometimes better. Also, I have had good experiences shopping in small boutiques where I can establish a rapport and relationship with the person who is working there who is usually the owner and fully understands what I am doing. Since I am openly gay, I go to a number of boutiques not too far from where I live where the owner is gay or they cater to a gay clientele. As for make up I find Sephora is the best place to go as they usually have men working there who I find that are more than happy to help. Also, the self service cosmetics in big box retailers are usually good for a quick purchase. I have also made purchases at Victoria’s Secret. When checking out, I usually say that I am buying for myself. One time when I was traveling I was in a Victoria’s Secret and there was a guy working there. We struck up a conversation and he said that a lot of guys come in and buy for themselves. Since I was the only person in the store, he let me try on bras and panties.
Nice conversation going on this topic. Would like to see more topics about make-up, shoes, and crossdressing in daily life.

K
K

June 14, 2019

Topic:

Leg Wear as I’m crazy obsessed with it.

K

Stevie
Stevie

June 14, 2019

Topics
I d like to bring back some topics that weren’t commented on a lot in the past
Are you a sissy
Crossdressing in public
Stevie

sidney or cindy58
sidney or cindy58

June 14, 2019

I do most of my shopping at thrift stores, the owners know that I am a crossdresser and welcome me in their store. They even help me my choice.enjoy your blog

Randi
Randi

June 14, 2019

I love shopping here, great selection and great quality, I buy what I need,like, or want. But recently been looking around a lot more
to see pics of that HOT model with the tattoos to see what he is wearing :)~ LOL
thanks for the great site and items!!! would love to see more corsets though :(

Ally
Ally

June 14, 2019

Hi there gurls – hope you’re all being lovely
Online is easiest for me but it is a limited and hit and miss experience because of not being able to try things on. A good thing about online is being able to collect in store or at a parcel collection point. Items are wrapped so that no one can see them – and if you’re worried about comments; you’re collecting for your wife/daughter.
I think these days you should be able to ask an assistant if the changing caters for trans people. I’ve not tried that yet but imagine it would provoke a freindly and helpful response.
Incidentally, in Europe, women’s shoe sizes are the same as men’s. I’m quite lucky in feet as I fit within the women’s sizes. Just so long as I watch out for width – nothingbtoo narrow and wide is a safe bet.
Happy dressing everyone.
There must be a suitable acronym for us all. Something derived from something like, the ‘Society of Men the Dress with a Feminine Persuasion’. That doesn’t do it, but you know what I mean. Something to rival the African ‘Sapeur’ movement.
Luv x

Paul
Paul

June 13, 2019

Although I have Victoria’s Secret panties and other makes that I have bought in stores (under the cover of the holidays!), and I like the idea of wearing them as they are truly women’s, they usually are not the most comfortable. The edges of the panty cuts across the boys, rather than cupping them as regular men’s underwear does, and there is often not enough room up front. That’s why I prefer men’s lingerie panties for every day wear, particularly xdress, as they make them with plenty of room up front. The other thing I really like about the women’s styles is the picot elastic as its so gentle compared to the thick strong elastic in men’s underwear. My everyday favorite from Xdress is the picot ribbed panty, it is the most comfortable panty I own. I am waiting for these to come back into stock in my size (please note XD!).

Stevie
Stevie

June 13, 2019

Hi Angie
Thanks for another intriguing post.
Well when it comes to shopping I am primarily an online shopper. Google men’s lingerie and a whole new world opens up to you
What I’ve found is that if in between sizes order 2 sizes, try on the on you think fits and if you are wrong go with the other pair. Works great for pants jeans and dresses camis tanks which i buy femme garments

I also live to shop in person so holidays are a must. Absolutely no one pays attention and really assume its a GF or wife you are buying for. Now I must admit since i buy mainly panties and bras from BA and xdress (two other male lingerie sites as well ) the holidays are the only time i go to box stores. If i want to get a thrill I ll tell the Victorias Secret sales person I’m buying for me! Lol

When i first started dressing more completely i had to go to box stores and it was a little scary but after 2-3 times it was hell its my money so screw em.
No need for that anymore I just go in there buy what i want and leave

The internet is so good now if one is afraid just go there instead

For make up I’ve found saphora and ulta very friendly to men wearing it so its a good place too

Wear something pretty today

And PS Halloween is a great time to shop and dress

Nathan
Nathan

June 13, 2019

Hello Angie, and thank you for another fantastic topic! I will start off by saying that shopping is something I thoroughly enjoy, whether it be online or in store. There isn’t a day that goes by where I don’t go online at least briefly, to peruse various sites for clothing.

So far, I have purchased clothes exclusively online, and have had nothing but fantastic experiences. Just this last week, I purchased a lingerie set including a long-line bra, garter belt, and high-waisted panties. I was able to talk to the seller personally, and give them my measurements in order for it to be a perfect fit.
This seller was very accommodating and polite, and has made lingerie for men before, which was a pleasant surprise as it was a lingerie site intended for women. I can’t wait to try it on!

I have gone shopping in the mall with my GF a couple times, but never really found any clothes I liked. This was during Spring however, which typically has bright colors that I am not too fond of. I did however find a very nice pair of high heels, which I purchased with my GF alongside me, and the cashier didn’t bat an eye.

So far, I prefer online shopping. The variety in clothing is unmatched, and is far easier to find items tailored to my style preferences. I have yet to find a store in my area which sells Gothic styles, aside from Hot Topic which is usually very limited. I’m sure this isn’t an issue for most who prefer styles which are less of the alternative persuasion, so I may be alone in this dilemma.

Anyway, these are my experiences thus far. While I may not have as full of a wardrobe as some of you (yet), I absolutely love the one time of the month where I get to buy myself clothes, and my wardrobe will certainly grow in the coming months/years.

-Nathan

P.S. Some subjects I would love to see are:
-Shoe preferences
-Style preferences
-Hair Removal
-Obstacles cross-dressing causes in daily life
-Lingerie styles / preferences

K
K

June 13, 2019

Hi Ang,

Great blog but what the heck, you left out the ultimate out and about freebie, you left out Halloween!
What better time of year to be whatever you want to be without too many freaky-deakies raising their eyebrows getting in your direction. I’ve stocked up so completely on so many Halloween’s. Pants, gowns, skirts, blouses, cardi’s, blazers, panties, bustiers, stockings, pantyhose, tights, bodysuits, garters, make up, wigs, shapers, lifters, bras, waspies, baby-dolls, nighties, merry-widows and whatever else my frill obsessed little heart desired. I hit makeup shops telling them I was going to a costume party en femme, asking for a free makeover and I learned what works well with my skin tones and how to properly apply it (just make sure you shave first). Halloween shopping starts earlier every year so you’ll have two to three whole months to try on, stock up, doll up and most of all have fun being you and in the end it could also help to bring you out of your shell. Going to a lingerie store to sift through their mountains of panties and lingerie might not freak you out. Grabbing a couple boxes of everyday wear pantyhose from a grocery store while you’re out shopping won’t be a big deal. Spending a few hours thumbing through outfits at the mall will be a fun filled day out, you don’t even have to try them on there, just make sure they’re returnable. It’s only weird if you make it weird and try not to be taken aback if a clerk figures you “out” let them help you, you never know where it will lead you. If anything you’ll get a little rush, it’s exciting and liberating to be your inner you outside and the more you do it the more normal it will feel. To hell with societies views of what’s normal anyway, you decide what’s normal, it’s your life, it’s your world, be the you, you want to be, normalcy is what you make it, right? Ugh! You’re so right about the shoes though, impossible to find anything in an actual store that fits but there’s way more selection online anyway, just pay attention to the reviews about the fit and you’ll be strutting it in no time.
All that being said, through all my years of offline shopping I’ve settled into a life of online shopping as it is the best, most convenient and most reliable place for me to find exactly what I want and need, I don’t know, maybe I’m getting too old. Xdress, most expertly, keeps my panty and lingerie drawers overflowing and other sites keep me flush for leg-wear and clothing.
I guess what I’m saying is don’t pass up the opportunity to offline shop, it’s some of the most fun a guy can have being a girl.

K

Joe
Joe

June 13, 2019

I have bought a ton of women’s clothes and many times I thought I would have a heart attack doing so. It is really stressful. For the most part , I have found that checkers don,t really care WHO you are buying for.

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