If Only You Knew


Greetings dear readers. I hope you had an excellent Christmas and that you found some pretty things under the tree. Today I’d like to share some thoughts about underdressing. Most likely, you and I are in the same boat. I can’t really wear outerwear beyond the privacy of my own home. Perhaps some of you can pass and outerwear is an option. If so, good for you! Frankly, I am a very long way from passing and, living in a very conservative part of the country, I’d have to have a death wish to even try.


All that being said, we can still connect with the inner femme by underdressing. There are so many wonderful options – panties, bras, camisoles, garters with stockings. Ah, such fun. By the by, I didn’t include pantyhose. If you can wear them, more power to you. I tried it a couple of times, but by the end of the day, I felt like I had been cut in half and neutered. Not a nice feeling.



Do you underdress for work? I have found that underdressing under my power suit has greatly reduced the stress of my job. I like sitting in a meeting with all the other power suits and feeling the caress of my bra and thinking, “If only you knew.”  If you have to put on your binary male face at work, that makes it even more fun.


There is nothing more comfy than feeling the slinky smoothness of a camisole under a dress shirt. If you are more of a blue collar worker, a cami may not be the best idea, but you can certainly enjoy some nice satin panties. I had an internet friend who unintentionally outed himself at work. He works on a high voltage power crew. He was wearing a thong. His tee shirt was untucked and he was bending over working on something and his whale tale was exposed. Busted! A coworker pulled him aside and said “You’d better pull your pants up.” The coworker fortunately was cool with it and made no further comments.



So much for work. What about in your leisure time? What do you like to wear under it all when you go to the mall or grocery store? In moderate weather, I enjoy wearing a garter belt and hose under my jeans. I only wear women’s jeans, and if you haven’t tried them, you really must. They are far more comfy than those heavy, scratchy men’s jeans. The denim is thick enough that the garter tabs don’t show.


How about when you go to the doctor? I’ve chatted with some folks online who wear panties to their doctor’s visit and the doctor is fine with it. Is yours? Mine absolutely would not be fine with it. Funny story: a couple of years ago I was getting dressed and felt something sticking the sole of my right foot. I lifted my foot, only to discover I was standing on a wasp. That hurt like a bad dog. I’m allergic to wasps, so my wife packed me in to the car and off to my doctor’s office we went. I had on lacy pink panties and didn’t even give it a thought. We got there and the doc examined my foot. He told me to stand up and drop my drawers so he could give me a steroid injection in my hip. My wife and I looked at each other like a couple of deer in the headlights. Fortunately, the doc had his back to me as he prepared the syringe. I pulled my pants down while concealing my panties well beneath them. In retrospect it is really funny - especially the look of panic my wife and I gave each other.  Ah, the challenges of being a cross dresser!



Just for fun, I looked up the Latin translation of “If only you knew” and it is “Si modo iam nosceres”. What do you think – could we form a sorority with the motto “Si modo iam nosceres”? Heck we could even have tee shirts with our motto emblazoned on the front. It could be our secret handshake when we encounter each other at the mall.

So much for my ramblings. I’d love for you to share your thoughts and experiences in the wonderful world of underdressing. Get that keyboard warmed up – I’m waiting to hear from you!

Fond regards,



Good to have found it on your blog. How many and how many times in the office, on the street, in the supermarket and on other occasions I ask myself “If you only knew”. From a very early age, lingerie fascinated me, because I played with my cousins, I always noticed that I felt more like a girl than a boy. I discovered this with my neighbor with whom I played and always had me as a girl. It was with him that, for the first time, I tried on briefs. I never left until today!
I use it in my day to day, work, weekend and vacation. I have several briefs, from thong, Brazilian and shorts. Usually at work I prefer floss and Brazilian. Otherwise, I use whatever gives me more pleasure at the moment. I never had any awkward situation. I have some care when I bring jeans and I have taller pants so no one can see. I often look around me and think if people knew what I bring dressed !!!! It is not easy for us who live in a stereotyped world to be ourselves.
Kind Regards.

Francisca January 29, 2021

X-D, I am so pleased that you have provided us with an “outlet” as to express some of our experiences and desires. Just when we may think that we are the only ones that have had a certain experience, we read where some one else has also gone through the same. Example..Brent…when you made mention of the time that a fellow colleague must have seen your panties, I was quickly reminded of my situation. Even though it was years ago, I remember it like it was yesterday. I was still in the military and it was in the middle of summer. We were erecting 20- man pup-tents. My co worker was a female soldier and it was very warm that afternoon. I decided to remove my uniforn dress shirt and kept my brown t-shirt on. At some point, my t-shirt must have pulled out a little from my trousers and I was wearing some yellow nylon panties with a 2" wide yellow lace band around the waist. She MUST have seen it because a short time later, I walked into one of the many tents we had completed setting up where several of the other troops had been inside taking a break, when I heard this female soldier saying two words…yellow panties!!! I was really embarrassed! A quick silence fell over the tent. In my situation, no one ever said a word to me about it. It did not stop me from wearing panties while on duty but just made me be a little more careful in the future. Thanks for sharing your experience with us!

Ron December 01, 2020

“If they only knew” is so correct! So, so often I have had women, girls and guy’s, comment on the nice paint job on my motorcycle. Because I do wear panties 24/7 (and have been like forever) I often wonder what they would say if they knew that I was wearing nylon/lace panties and most of the time they match the color scheme of my motorcycle??? On more that one occasion, I have worn a 6 suspender garter belt & nylons under my jeans while also wearing a leather jacket, boots, etc. While approaching a stop light and one must put their feet down, you are quickly reminded what you are wearing when you feel the nylons pulling on your suspender belts. I often wonder while riding, how many other “bikers” are also wearing the same.

Ron December 01, 2020

Keri, I was very pleased to read about your experience with perfume. Once while at a dept. store, an elderly passed me and I was so attracted to the perfume she was wearing. I approached her and indicated her that I really liked the perfume she was wearing. She not only told me the name but also as to where she had purchased it. Now even though I do not wear perfume “on-me”, I did purchase several bottles and I always spray my freshly laundered panties before placing them into my “panty drawer” as well as all three of my panty/lingerie drawers as well.

Ron November 30, 2020

The hidden panty and bra fetish is fun but so much better when others see your wild side! I began wearing panties and bras in public the past few years but would always go conventional when or if I had an appointment where I needed to undress, such as a Doctor’s visit. The only place that really knew my fetish for wearing panties was the Gentleman’s Club and the champagne room dancer. These dancers loved the idea and often commented on my selection and where I purchased them. Xdress got full credit as did a few other women’s stores, like VS. When I became friendly with one of the dancers, we would shop together and buy matching panties and then hang together at a hotel. Recently, I started wearing panties to my Manzillian appointment and I “accidentally” left my XDress Red Satin and Lace Brazil panties on top of my pants. My waxologist didn’t bring it up in conversation on the first visit but I know she saw my panties. On the second visit, I wore my Xdress Yellow Lace Tanga and did the same. This time she said she liked my choice of underwear and asked why I wore women’s panties. When I explained that these were made for men and bought at XDress, she was quite intrigued. She was unaware of the site and the offering and asked me to model my panties for her after the waxing service. She was very complimentary of my panties and we talked about the differences and what styles we liked versus other styles and I admitted to her that I do sometimes wear women’s panties as well. It was a nice and open and honest conversation and she was very thankful for the discussion. She asked what I liked most and I said the feeling of the fabrics against my skin which made me feel confident and sexy. It is great to branch out and show off your panties and you shouldn’t feel ashamed of who you show off to!

Scott September 25, 2020

Although my fianceé knows I wear thongs and lace underwear and honestly she doesn’t mind it, if anything she thinks it’s kinda hot, I’ve even tried on undies for her, but she doesn’t quite know I like some femme things like garters and pantyhose and heels. It’s a borderline thing. She doesnt mind if I wear mens heeled boots during roleplay or with a sexy costume but she doesnt know I also like wearing stilettos in private. She knows I wear thongs and all sorts of sexy things but doesn’t know I love stockings. I think she’s very okay with my underwear obsession as long as it’s made for men. She always knows I wear harnesses and finds them very hot. But there is a fine line. I don’t think she would like if I wore women’s heels. She’s quite okay with me wearing feminine things but as long as it was designed for men in mind. Which I can totally understand. But if your girlfriend or wife knows your sexy underwear obsession and is totally fine with it, it makes things 100% better.

Drew April 08, 2019

Great to hear the joy in your words
I feel you
I too had a special similar day today
Lace briefs from xd womens skinny jeans
Toes freshly pedicured black cami from xd
Felt so good to be me

Stevie March 31, 2019

I had a wonderful day out in my underdressed style during the week. Matching lace, lilac panties and bra underneath my suit and shirt. Xdress foam inserts in my bra – a nicely understated size (well done Xd) and opaque hold ups underneath my trousers. I can’t tell you how good and true to myself I felt – on the train, in cafes, walking down the street, shopping. It was gorgeous.

Ally March 30, 2019

Lovely comments.
I have worn knickers for about 40years,
A couple of years ago at work my tee shirt must have rose up to expose my Lacey knickers in the breakout area ( brew room ), shortly after that I was on site with a male and female colleagues, the female never used the breakout area., When she approached me and asked if I wore knickers, I went red faced and admitted I did and realized the male colleague must have told her , I can only imagine the comments made behind my back at work ? O well it must be common knowledge now that I underdress, I am over it now even though it was very embarrassing, I still underdress as it is who I am and my wife loves the look and more she likes the feel of the material in bed, and sometimes puts silky night wear out for me to wear.
Wishing everyone s happy underdressing life.

Brent March 23, 2019

I totally agree with your comments Andrew. I find men’s underwear ugly and uncomfortable. For years I have been wearing what I want—I tend to live by my own rules anyway.

Randy March 14, 2019

Hello, my dear friends! My name is Andrew. I have some questions! Who made the rules about clothes? Who is that man?I have never seen him yet! Do you know him? Why all the men have to wear an ugly underwear? So, myown rules! I want to wear a nice lace lingerie! I do it right now! I do this every day! It is my life!

Andrew March 09, 2019

Ally and Stevie, you are the best! There is nothing like wearing panties and bra under your men’s suit to remind you of who you really are. The stockings are just an extra touch. You might want to consider wearing a satin cami also, just for that extra something. As far as nail polish, I wear clear polish that supposedly strengthens my nails. I have a real problem with splitting nails. All the folks around me just accept it as part of who I am, in addition to wearing stud earrings, and I never get negative comments. Dress pretty, my dear friends!

Angie February 26, 2019

Some super conversations going on here. I was in Xdress perfect lace purple panties and bra all day yesterday and felt fantastic. Reference nail polish, I rather like the nude varieties. I find they are quite subtle and look well with a suit and light make up.

Happy dressing to everybody. This is a wonderful conversation. We need to be out as our femme selves more!

Ally February 24, 2019

More power to you! Its great to be free to wear want you want when yku want. This is a great forum for discussion and friendship

Stevie February 21, 2019

It is great to see everyone here coming together and sharing their experiences. I feel this is almost essential in providing us the feeling of normalcy, opposed to the rejection some of us may feel due to societies standards.

Since I last posted, I have started dressing publicly. Last Saturday I got some pants fitted at the tailor, went to the mall, and had lunch with my girlfriend while wearing pantyhose, 2" booties, and an asymmetric LBD. I also wore a long line hoodie over it, and some eyeliner and jewelry to put it all together.

I was nervous, but my girlfriend kept assuring me it would only be weird if I made it so. She was right, and I now apply that way of thinking every morning when I decide what to wear, and you should too. Since Monday, I have been dressing completely to work as well. The aforementioned long line hoodie has been worn each day, with pantyhose and either a midi skirt or dress underneath.

I have gone to several places after work wearing these outfits, and have yet to receive any negative comments. In fact, the only comments I have received thus far were positive (three so far). This is extremely validating and inspires me to share these experiences with you all, in hopes it may motivate anyone who is struggling with the confidence to dress publicly, like I was.

I too paint both my toe and fingernails, usually black though as my style is Gothic. I would also like to try some deep purples or reds. (Hint: I want some of these shades for bras/panties on this website!) I also love hosiery, so I wear pantyhose almost everyday. I will transition to stockings once the weather gets warmer though, as pantyhose can make the private areas a bit warm after 8 hours of working.

My shoe choice today is a bit more feminine than the previous times I’ve dressed publicly, as I am wearing 5" knee high boots. Moving up to these after wearing the booties for a few days made it far less intimidating. Speaking of which, once I wore all of these outfits both in public and at work, I no longer feel intimidation.

As per my original statement, sharing these experiences can help us gain the much needed confidence we all strive for to be ourselves. If you haven’t already, create an account on Quora. It’s a social media site in which you can follow several topics and ask questions/share experiences on them.

Have a great day everyone, and remember: If it’s both scary and awesome, you should definitely pursue it.

Nathan February 21, 2019

Hi Angie
Yes love me some toenail polish, that’s one of the reasons I started xdressing but that’s another conversation. I agree the garter belt thigh highs are prettier but I cant pull that off at work, I can wear the stay ups without any problem.
I love this blog
Wear something femme today!

Stevie February 19, 2019

Ah Stevie, so you like toenail polish too? My fav is frost pink. When I go to my esthetician, she always compliments me on my toenail polish. As far as the thigh high hose, a word to the wise. I like thigh high stay ups. One day I wore them to work and just kept them on the rest of the evening. Bad idea. The silicone bands around the thighs that keep them up left me with a hicky all the way around me thighs! That’s when I went to garter belts and hose. Looks prettier anyway.

Angie February 19, 2019

I feel you on that.
I’ve developed my own hybrid style that includes panty and matching bra
Occasionally stockings I prefer thigh highs, I add a morning face treatment and some make up.
And keep my toes polished and I’m good.

Stevie February 18, 2019

I’ve been underdressing for a while now and find it tremendously empowering in expressing my feminine side. I’ll often wear Xdress matching bra and panty sets under a suit and shirt together with opaque hold-ups. If I’m feeling a little more adventurous and know I’ll be on safe territory I’ll also put on a pair of mid-height ankle boots with a neither broad nor stilletto heel and insert some Xdress pads into my bra. A touch of make-up finishes it off. Taking these small steps one by one has helped me find my own style and grow in confidence. It’s amazing how many people don’t bat an eyelid.

Ally February 17, 2019

Kathia, welcome to our little sorority and XD and BA. As far as wearing a bra to work, XD sells many bras that won’t give projection (meaning giving you a bust line) and can safely be worn under a shirt. Of course, it depends on what kind of work you do and what kind of shirts you wear at work. My work involved dress clothes, and bras worked just fine under heavier weave shirts. If your work involves wearing only a tee shirt, that could be a problem. Good luck, and again, welcome!


Angie February 13, 2019

Hi Angie. I just found this place. I have always wear pantyhose, men’s and women’s. For the first time I found a place that make lingerie for us. So my first instinct was to buy some bras. I haven’t got the courage to wear them, to underdressing them at my office, someday I’ll try. I have found that is very difficult that people would find out. I wear garter belts and stockings and even if the garter tabs shows, people does not notice, and of course that makes it more fun. All the time I’m thinking “If only you knew”.

Kathia February 11, 2019

I agree with you; if these clothes are men’s lingerie then whats the big deal? Its not even crossdressing! I started with women’s panties and I still wear then BUT xdress and Bodyaware are Men’s Lingerie so I can wear as normal underwear even the bras

Angie I’m anxiously awaiting the next blog topic


Stevie February 06, 2019

I believe that if it is made for a man, and a man is wearing it, there should be no guilt. Although I started out wearing women’s underwear, the fit just wasn’t right. Being caught by anyone in women’s underwear would be embarrassing to me, but I feel differently when I know it is men’s underwear. I love the fabric, but I also love the support, and in my opinion a thong provides support just like a jock strap, only a thong disappears and a jockstrap I feel all day.

I also love pantyhose; however, other brands have made these for men and they feel fantastic. I also love the look of garters, but have not built up the courage to wear them out.

Maybe someone could write a blog for others who are new to the girly thing? Anyway, I am so glad I found BA and XD…they make my day…everyday!

Fred February 05, 2019

I love the term “underdressing”, I honestly can’t think of a better way to describe what it is that I do and XDress has made doing it so rewarding. Woman’s panties are of course fantastic and they worked well enough but they aren’t made specifically for us. This company and their products have made being me everything it should be!
I work in the oil and gas industry, out in the field, and I wear panties and pantyhose or tights (depending on the time of year) every day under my fireproof overalls and I love it. I feel like I have some kind of advantage over everyone I work with, like they have no clue what their missing. Just like I think you may be missing out on pantyhose, it rang my undressing bell at a young age and is the whole reason I do it. There are so many colors, styles, thickness’, finishes, feels and looks, you just need to know where to look and to not stop looking until you find the right ones. My wife’s leg-wear drawer barely rivals mine and more then half of the pairs she has are only because I’ve recommended them to her, I’d say she’s pretty lucky to have a guy like me ; ). And for me there’s nothing more fun then wearing pantyhose with torn jeans, its like undressing with just a hint of outer dressing.
Take care, have fun and thank you so much for the opportunity you’ve given us all.

K February 04, 2019

Thanks Angie glad to have a “sister” in Dress!
For those who want to dress but can’t this is a great way anddont forget the nail polish on your toes (looks much better if professionally done)

Stevie February 03, 2019

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