Crossdressing is a blast when you're at home, but I know many wish to be out in public while they are their femme selves. If you haven't gotten to experience this already, I'd recommend doing some research first. Especially, for the town you may be living in. It's easier to go out to a place that is supportive of the LGBT community. Prior to going out all dressed up, go out as your usual self. Scope out the areas you want to go to. Check out the bars, or even restaurants. Have a conversation with the servers and bartenders. These are the people that will help you out, and give you some insight on the vibe of the usual customers. Some people worry that they may get recognized, but typically no one does, unless you want them to know.
Perhaps while you are traveling may be the best time for you to step out as your femme self. Either way, when you do go out. Own it! This is you, being friendly and having confidence is everything to have a good time and connect with those around you. Even bringing someone along may give you that extra confidence. It's much easier going out dressed up when it's an occasion that is crossdresser friendly. Perhaps an event of some sort, such as a showing of The Rocky Horror Picture Show as an example.
These are our top three cities for cross-dressing and some things to do while you're out to have a blast while doing it! Usually cities such as these have strong roots in the LGBT community and create events to celebrate and entertain during the night and day.
1.) Los Angeles, CA is known to be the mecca of entertainment next to Las Vegas. It also has many conventions and events to attend such as DragCon that is coming up in April. This is a wonderful segway into being able to be out in the open while crossdressing without having to worry about getting backlash. Plus, you'll be around other like minded people who can share this experience with you. If you are wanting a little bit of help before stepping out, The Boudoir LA is a full makeover service that gives the full experience of crossdressing with the help of three ladies. They even have an escort service to help you be out and about if you want to go to a Nightclub, Lunch, or even a shopping trip. So there is no need to bring any of your own clothing, just bring yourself to Santa Monica and they will hook you up and make you feel your best. Maybe you'll even learn a thing or two for yourself during this transformational experience.
2.) San Francisco, CA has a large LGBT community where whole neighborhoods are accepting and open-minded, full of artists, writers, and entertainers. Even if you don't identify as being gay or trans, this is a wonderful city to be who you want to be. There are plenty of spots to hit up that put on amazing Burlesque shows. What better place to be than with others who like to dress up and feel sexy as their femme selves? There are so many theaters around such as the Metro Operahouse bound to have an excellent show with their most acclaimed shows put on by Tourettes Without Regrets. We highly recommend checking them out! They may be putting on a show near you! The Exit Theater is another excellent spot to check out that has a large array of acts with various talented performers.
3.) Provincetown, MA is the vacation destination if you want to get away from a busy city such as New York. Commercial Street is the epicenter of all the excitement and abundance of LGBT community acceptance in Cape Cod. The town itself is laid back with plenty of cute little shops and restaurants to indulge in during the day, but when night time rolls around the clubs and bars are a blast! The Atlantic House is one of the best and longest standing nightclubs of Provincetown where all are welcome. If you are craving a busier atmosphere and the hustle and bustle of the city, Soho and The Greenwhich Village are all excellent places in New York to do just the same, but be aware, things get a little bit pricier in the city for both shopping and dining. Although, New York has many things to offer that are free, such as taking a stroll through beautiful parks, attending art galleries, and window shopping.
If you have had any experience going out as your femme self for the first time, let us know in the comments below! We would love to hear some of the best places you have gotten to go to and what had helped you feel comfortable being out and about.