OK, what actually are men’s panties? Are we talking about the conventional boxer brief? Here at XDress, we don’t do boring and to us, men’s panties don’t have to be plain and simple. Men’s panties are fun, lacy, silky, and everything in between. So, what do women think about this? We’ve come to realize that so many women don’t care. Not only do they not care, they actually enjoy the quirkiness of it all. Women want to make their men happy and if her man is happy wearing a sexy lacy number, then why not? It’s time to break the typical rules on men’s panties, and here’s how:
1. Give Your Man Some Unique Gifts
We all know that gift giving is one of the most difficult things in life, the sheer panic and instant stress that happens as soon as one foot enters the shop. Even if you know the person really well, it can be so hard. A great idea would be to invest in some unique gifts for your man. A gift you know that no one else is going to give him. If you’re married, reenact your wedding night with a frilly garter for him. Not married? A bit of role play is always a bit of fun! There’s also the option to go for a bra for men. Yes, we know most women can’t wait to take off their bra at the end of a long working day, but many men love wearing them and a smooth satin bra is going to feel smooth against his chest. Whatever unique gift you decide on, you’re sure to both reap the benefits.
2. Have Fun
Lingerie isn’t just about something you stick under your clothes because you have to. It’s about having fun! If you’re a woman, do you have fun dressing up for your man in lace underwear? We bet the answer is yes. You feel good and you look great. You have fun. Switch it up a bit with some lace panties for men. Lace is arguably one of the best fabrics going, especially for underwear. It’s sexy, bold, daring, kinky and it’s for men and women! However, life doesn’t have to all be about lace; there are plenty of ways to have fun with your underwear. How about some funky socks and short shorts for men? Match it up with a leotard, or mix it up with your own combination of patterns, designs and fabrics (the more creative, the better). Whatever your style, remember to have fun and enjoy it!
3. Stop Listening to Others
People are opinionated. Whether that be the gobby bloke who lives at the end of the street, the media, or a work colleague, they just are. Whilst it’s true that everyone is entitled to their opinion, it doesn’t mean we all have to agree, or that their opinions should influence the way the rest of us think. If you’re a man who enjoys wearing underwear traditionally deemed as feminine, or you’re a woman who supports her male acquaintances who like to wear said panties, that’s great. At XDress, we fully support your decision to live your life the way you want to and like we said before, if you’re worried about what the females in society think, they’re a lot more open-minded than you probably originally anticipated. If you do come across someone spouting off a load of abuse, ignore them and continue to BE YOU. Plus, it’s none of their bloody business anyway!
We’d love to hear your thoughts on this. If you’re a woman, what are your thoughts on men’s panties? Would you let your boyfriend or husband wear lace underwear for men? If you’re a man, how does wearing these undies make you feel?
Danielle, when you described your b/f, you were describing me in every thing you said, with the exceptions of big and tattoos. Yes, I do wear lace panties when “riding”! Silverdao, 4" lift.
The feeling you get wearing panties has so much more sexual energy than regular underwear. Finding a woman that is open to it is easier than one might think. The first showing may be greeted with a strange glance but you are at your most vulnerable at that time and over time, the acceptance gains. Sometimes to the point where she will start buying items for you! Enjoy the experience and be brave to show it off! If she cant get her head around it, maybe she is not the one for you.
It is a double standard and I understand why. Women want a manly man often I believe because there really isn’t many left in the world. I asked a friend that I have had off and on relationship with for years who always said she loved the way I talk and carry myself. So I asked her would she have thought different of me if when she first pulled my pants down and seen bikini underwear. Mind you I was slowly wondering what she would have thought if I started to wear ladies panties. The truth is I’ve never really worn panties but with my first wife I did have bikini and thong underwear. The bikini I had bought because they were super adorable and the thing was just so I could be freaky with my wife at the time in the bedroom. So back to my lady friend who ended up telling me she probably would have thought less of me, but then mentioned I should wear what I want and that some women get turned on by men in panties. But that’s not the way it works i would be judged by women negatively.
I am a 30 yr old woman and met my man 8 yrs ago, I’ve always been a little Kinky, my partner was straight, one night at a night club we had a few to many and I wispered that I just slipped out of my panties and my bra and because it was dark inside I said I wanted him to put my panties and bra on, he looked weird at me and said only if the single girl on her own comes over to our table, I said deal, I went over to her and asked her to join us she was drunk but came over, I wispered to him a deal is a deal, Sally who just joined us asked what was going on I said my partner made a deal to wear my panties and bra if you came over, after a while he slowly put them on, I quickly took a picture of him, he put his clothes back over the lingerie after 20 minutes. Sally noticed he was enjoying what he is wearing, so we asked Sally back to our place. On the way home I said stop and I got out and removed my long Black maxi skirt and purple blouse. Sally said to my man that seeing how wearing lingerie is turning you on then you need to dress properly, so put on the skirt and blouse. He got out removed his clothes and put on the skirt and blouse, he said what if police pull us over, I smiled and said that the chance, we got in the car and headed home. Sally said to Ryan there’s nothing wrong with guys who wear female clothing then she put her hand up his skirt and felt and said yes he is really turned on, now 20 yrs on I can’t keep him out of cross dressing.
I’ve been wearing panties for 5 years now.will never go back. They are way more comfortable than men’s.
I prefer all lace brief panties ,pink or blue.
Men wearing them is more common than one thinks. I am married and heterosexual. Who cares what you wear but the person who’s wearing them.
Who cares what society thinks. It’s not cross dressing. If it were then more women are cross dressers as many wear ,ens clothing without being judged.
Love the comfort of high rise all lace pink panties. My wife doesn’t care. She shouldn’t as what makes me comfortable is all that counts.
I’ve see several men wearing panties in the gym locker room too.i guess it’s very common these day.
Who cares what we wear. Women wear men’s undies so who cares what we wear.
Wear what makes you comfortable.
My wife wanted me to wear panties and bought me some. She loves the lace brief panties but not as much as I do.
They are so comfortable and I will always wear them. I have seen more men than you can believe at the gym shower room than you can believe wearing them. Guess it is very common these days and why not? Comfort is the thing and I don’t care what anyone thinks.
I started wearing high waist panties several years ago after trying on a pair of my then girlfriend, now wife. I was immediately hooked on them because of the comfort.
I started buying my own and only wear panties now. She thinks they look sexy now even though it took her awhile to accept me wearing them.
She loves me in pink, red and blue silky lace. And yes, all the parts do fit.
It seems women I. The lingerie department are aware that at least half of their customers are men. They have always been helpful and accepting.
Women wear men’s pants, shirts and some men’s undies for some unknown reason, and, that’s ok by society. So what’s the difference as it is only material. Wear whats comfortable and makes you feel good.
Quit judging people.
What can I say about wearing panties? I have been wearing them for many years. I probably have more panties then 10 women combined. I love the way they feel on, and makes me feel sexy. My wife loves me in them. She also shops for new ones for me.
About 20 years ago I was looking at some satin panties in Victoria’s Secrets magazine. The colors just jumped off the pages. I did not know they were satin and I thought why can’t men have the fun of buying and wearing fun panties. Why should that fun be limited to women. I will admit I felt the same thing about silky nylon panties and had acquired 4-5 over the years. I loved the silky feel of them and wearing them at home.
About 2 months later I got my nerve up and walked into Victoria’s and bought my satin panties. Two were copper and green so I would not be noticed in the locker room and for a more feminine look I bought Ivory and pink. Since then I was given 2-3 pairs of panties with lace and I was really excited how much more feminine and pretty they were. Now 95% of my panties have lace. Probably at least half are 100% lace
I love wearing stockings with garter belts as well but do not have many opportunities to wear them.
Wish more women were as encouraging or least as understanding as your post indicates. I’ve found they are a very small minority. With one woman, she was fine with panties, small bras. When I got larger ones with breast forms, she was out of here.
My boyfriend single handedly changed my opinion on what men’s panties could be. I was intially caught off guard, but it didn’t take long (or much of an open mind) to realize that an appreciation for feeling sexy, attractive, and wanted belongs to no one gender.
I love my boy. I love when he feels sexy, but more, I love knowing it was me that helped make him feel that way – Thanks to you, XDress!
This subject was what i would call taboo up until about 4yrs ago. I had no idea what to thiink the first time I saw my now husbasnd in panties. It didn’t take long before I saw the benefits of this. He felt sexy and slightly feminine and it turned our sex into something that was nothing less then immaculate. It’s increased from occassionslly to almost everyday, but what more does girl want than two wardrobes of panties and an excellent shopping partner.
I absolutely love what you do and sell, but…
You say “if you’re worried about what the females in society think, they’re a lot more open-minded than you probably originally anticipated.”, now, I haven’t seen any researches in that matter that could confirm the quoted sentence. I know, that the majority of women (about 95% or even more) actually do not like the idea of seeing either their man or just any man in lingerie traditionally associated to women. They love to see a man that is rough and hairy etc, not smooth-silky-skin male who wears frilly lacy lingerie or a pair of stockings with heels. They just don’t feel safe and secure with that kind of man and they absolutely think it’s “gay”. I also know it somehow gives them an impression of living with a lesbian not with a man they once knew, it puts them off you know. Women (aka the society, because anything related to fashion is controlled by women) are not ready for this, it’s like intruding into their territory. So what happens when they see a man in that kind of lingerie?? They laugh out loud, and no man wants to be laughed at, ridiculed and joked about, believe me. I have a lot of female friends and many through my wife and whenever this kind of subject has come up in talks you can actually see and hear and even feel in your heart that this is something they absolutely hate. So, if you want to live in loneliness, go ahead and try it out. Maybe that is why there’s so many “gay” men out there or men who are forced to only secretly rock this female lingerie when their wife is not around, hidden in the closet? Noone wants to live alone, absolutely no man wants to live alone as men are driven by testosterone constantly looking for ways to get laid you know. Should we choose the lacy way this would not be possible anymore. And because of that, this is considered a fetish. Anything related to this word – you’re on your own. Another comment I have picked up is – there used to be men out there, now there’s only women with dicks, insecure men who can’t decide whether they want to be male or female. That is unfortunately the truth of how women think.
I’m one of those men who would like to try something new, out of the ordinary, nice and soft lingerie but I can’t do that – I just don’t want to lose my wife. Men are forced to stay away from this field because it gives an impression of a fragile man (because the lingerie he wears is fragile) Imagine seeing a man saying oh sh.t there’s a run in my stocking…
My wife calls my sexy xdress.com undies my Fundies. She reaps the benefits of me feeling sexier wearing them. I’m 65 but don’t carry near that age. Wife’s who have an issue with it are that way because society says don’t it, mostly the religious society or their parents influence. I’m buying more including garters and camis. Life is too short not to live it to the fullest.
The first time I wore panties, my girlfriend gave them to me to wear. I wore them all day at work and couldn’t stop thinking of her.
@Ivo: I don’t know where you came up with that 95% figure, but I’m pretty sure you just made it up. I’ve revealed my love of lingerie to seven different women, and the worst reaction I got was “I’m not really into it, but if you like it, more power to you!” The same woman wound up enjoying my “dressing up,” and even contributed a few items to my wardrobe.
In my experience, many women do like seeing a “manly” man, with boxer briefs and chest hair and all that, but that doesn’t mean they can’t appreciate seeing a more sensitive, feminine side to the man in their life. There’s no reason it has to be all or nothing. Showing some vulnerability every once in a while can be extremely attractive to a woman.
That being said, I’d imagine older women would be more likely to have a bias against cross-dressing, but every woman is different, and there’s no reason to assume that you’re gonna be criticized or mocked. It’s not that hard to get a feeling for how adventurous a woman is just by talking to them. If they’re obviously conservative or critical of others, then yeah, you probably don’t want to share your private preferences with them, but if they’re open-minded and sexually adventurous, then the worst reaction you’re likely to get is “eh, that doesn’t really turn me on.”
Good blog and posts. From my experience most women were interested and enjoyed the level of excitement. There were a few that had a take or leave it attitude but none never said Hell No or left me for wearing panties and lingerie. My wife of today and I love to go shopping together and finding matching panties, lingerie, and sleepwear. It brings an excitement into our relationship. Many times we can’t even wait to get home to try on the new lingerie and find ourselves changing in the car. If a woman is so closed minded about a man wearing panties than I say good riddance because there are more women out there who enjoy their men in panties than you could imagine.
@JM: yes, I kind of made it up but it’s a fair guess at least in my part of the world. The women I’ve talked to are mainly in their 30’s, and many are seamstresses or some fashion-related “something” as is my wife. Which makes me wonder even more – how could you not like these clothes on men!? I’ve had a very long talk with my wife about this and not once but several times and she is strictly against it, the same position from other women (and there are a lot of them). There were couple of women though who said “rather not” so that is like the 5% range :)). My wife mentioned about it to my mother-in-law that there’s actually lace and stockings for men to which MIL said – oh no that’s sooo gay!! So that tells me – unless women are ready to change, nothing will change for men. Those women who actually love this move are either malfunctioning or a God’s miracle for the male society, and thank you for that! At least I’m not blessed with this and most likely the whole northen Europe is the same. It has had some media coverage also in my area and if you read through hundreds of comments it becomes clear – women want to kill you should you dare to wear these clothes.
This site is amazing along with bodyaware. The way i see it..underwear is just underwear. Wether its boxer briefs or a string bikini or a thong. Calvin Klein makes thongs for guys..so does xdress and bodyaware. I just so happen to like our thongs amd bikinis more. My girlfriend absolutely loves every 50+ pairs of “panties” that i have. We call call them manties. Or panties. Or just plain ol underwear. Because thats what they are. I don’t see it as a fetish or taboo. We both see it as a different style of underwear that I choose to like and wear. Im bisexual, ive never came across any boyfriend or girlfriend who has never liked my undies. They are sexy! Ive learned to not hide my unique underwear Style but in fact to not hide them at all as everyone else does with their underwear garments. Because they are just underwear!
The best strategy if you’re single and you feel that you absolutely won’t be happy in a relationship unless your partner is understanding of your cross dressing is to be open about it from the beginning. Also, you’ll have to be honest about whether you’ll be happy with a partner that’s simply tolerant of your cross dressing, or you desire one that’s more supportive of it.
For men that have been in long term relationships, I’d advise easing your lady into the idea. Keep in mind that after years together, your wife feels that she truly knows you so anything you do that demonstrates the opposite will be unsettling to her. Lots of TLC and reassurance will go a long way.
My trick with new sexual partners has always been to jokingly try to put on their underwear in bed just to test their reaction. It’s pretty easy to tell who’s a hard “no” to the idea, and who is open minded, and you can still save some face with the women that are against the idea by playing it off as only a joke. Just be aware that a lot of women that are open to it will still need to get some nervous laughter out of their system.
Sometimes the idea just needs to grow on them. I dated one woman that was tolerant, but unenthusiastic at first. She’d always giggle and tell me I was silly for wearing them. After a few weeks of seeing her, I happened to be staying over at her place on a day I was wearing boxers. She was actually disappointed that I wasn’t in panties, and got me a pair of her boy shorts to put on!
When I saw SR’s comments I agreed with his points. I was already married when I introduced my wife to the idea of my wearing panties. I had bought some pricey men’s nylon undies which she seemed to be okay with. She didn’t like the price though. That led to her making the suggestion one day while out shopping that I buy some less expensive women’s panties. The ice was broken and the game changed. I was now, with permission, wearing panties. Initially she bought, we bought, just white. That changed over the next several months and soon I was wearing pastels, prints and lace. I floated the idea of bras by her and camisoles. The bras were a definite NO but as long as the camis did not have lace they were okay. Her fear was I would be seen with lacey camisoles on somewhere or the lace would show through. I accepted the terms. By the time I had exclusively gone over the women’s panties she gave me a fabulous Christmas gift. She gave me my first nightie. Over the years she had accepted that I enjoyed crossdressing. Women’s shorts, select tops, sweaters and sneakers all became part of my wardrobe. The shorts etc; had to pass her unisex test. That test did loosen up as she became comfortable over the years. Now even my bath, perfumes and toiletries are all female products. In the end she accepted and I didn’t push. I actually think, I know, she enjoys having a husband/girlfriend.
About 3 years into our relationship, my fella confessed to wear knickers. At first I was very shocked, but after a couple of weeks taking the situation on board, my feelings changed completely. The first time I actively embraced his panty wearing sexually was absolutely fantastic.
Since 1990, I weared women panties. I have one hundred panties. I love and I wear everyday. Now, I try to wear bra
I became a crossdresser some years ago and since then I have always cross-dressed until my first marriage. My first wife did not like the idea, so my dressing was left on the back burner. My marriage failed after 5 years so having got divorced, I went back to getting things I like dressing up in.
I met my second wife and having known her for over 6 month’s I ask her to move in with me. When she did, I went to work and said look around the house so you know where everything is. She did but I forgot about the case I had hidden that had all my panties bra’s suspender’s stockings, you name it I had it.
So she found this and after I got home from work and had my tea, she ask me if there was anything I wished to tell her. I said no, only that I had a bad day at work. She then came into the kitchen with my case. My heart sank as I thought that was it, she would be the second to leave me. Anyway she asked if I was seeing another women and I said no, they’re mine (confession time). After I told her about them she said she would like to see me in them so I went up stairs with her and put on all my gear. She looked at me dressed up and said I looked wonderful, and the rest is history.
I now get for every birthday and Christmas new pantie bras etc, and I wear panties all the time now, either lace silk satin frilly or French. I just love them and we have our fun and I’ll leave it at that.