Giving Yourself Permission to be FABULOUS!

I was young, like most of us probably were. I didn't think there was anything wrong with wanting to wear what I wanted to wear, but I somehow knew it had to be a secret.  I was around five years old when I finally did it.  I opened the closet and I took my mom's high heels and brought them into another room to try them.  Of course, I was in love with how they looked on me.  I couldn't wait to grow up and have a pair of heels for myself.

The excitement was quickly overtaken by... fear?  The fear of being caught, I imagine.  No, what took over was guilt.  I grew up being told that boys wore certain clothes and shoes and did not wear pretty dresses and makeup.  I knew that, but I didn't know why not.  I couldn't understand why everybody didn't want to wear pretty dresses.  Weren't skirts and heels more fun?

These days I have more heels and dresses than I ever could have imagined.  The latest addition to my lingerie drawer is Xdress' Glistening Satin Camisole (in pink of course) and the Little Miss Muffet Tea Dress hangs in my closet begging to be worn.  I think I need to match that cute little dress with a pair of white platform heels.  What do you think?

Having a lot of beautiful panties to chose from didn't happen overnight.  It takes time to fill a lingerie drawer... but is there anything more fun than building your lingerie wardrobe?  Picking out high heels and cute dresses takes more than just doing some shopping.  You need to give yourself permission to be fabulous and to give yourself permission to wear whatever you want to wear.

We've all wondered why we do this.  What does this mean?  Why do we want to wear bras (with matching panties, garter belts and black seamed stockings, of course)?  We see beautiful dresses at the mall and there's this.. longing in our hearts to wear it.  We love the sound of high heels clicking on the floor and we imagine how amazing it would be to walk confidently in the office wearing a pair of black patent stilettos, too.

Are we gay?  Is that what this means?  No.  Wanting to wake up in a cute little nightgown does not mean you are gay.  It's a normal thing to think, and it's usually the first thing we are asked when we tell someone that we love wearing what we love to wear.  There's no connection between sexuality and clothing.  Some of us have a hard time allowing ourselves to wear that satin camisole under our business suit because, well, men don't wear lingerie.  Men aren't supposed to wear panties (with ribbons and bows, naturally).  Many of us have this...fear, this guilt, perhaps even shame of wanting to wear what we want to wear.

I'm sure you know this, but it never hurts to be reminded of this:  There's nothing wrong with wanting to wear lingerie, beautiful dresses, towering high heels, winged eyeliner or whatever you want to wear.  It also doesn't mean anything.  It doesn't change your sexuality, it doesn't mean you were born with the wrong body, it doesn't mean that you are meant to transition.  The only thing it means is that you love wearing lingerie.  Whether it makes you feel sexy, beautiful, relaxed or confident, you don't need a reason to wear panties.  Or a bra.  Or a miniskirt. 

Once I fully embraced who I was, that's when my closet started to fill with dresses and my panty drawer and my stocking drawer started to overflow.  I look at my wardrobe and I remember it took more than shopping to have such an amazing closet.

It took giving myself permission to be who I am... to be FABULOUS.

So, buy that corset you've been dreaming about!  Fall asleep in that nightie like you've always wanted!  Wear a matching cami and panty set under your boring business suit! 

Lingerie is a gift you give yourself... and so is loving yourself.

Love, Hannah



You should always give yourself permission to be fabulous! Being fabulous is different everybody. I do think the clothes we wear help with our self esteem and confidence which leads to our fabulous selves so wear what you want, when you want and how you want!

Scott October 02, 2020

That is the most fun in the world to build an xdress wardrobe. Starting with panties then baby dolls and learning how to apply makeup such as eyebrow makeup.facial and body creams ,etc.

Holly January 09, 2019

I fear like most men my love of wearing lingerie is a secret to all but my closest partner(s). However I find myself torn between 2 schools of thought on the subject. On the one hand there is something incredibly exciting about wearing sexy lingerie in public without anybody knowing what is actually lurking beneath your conventional outer wear. On the other it is somewhat hypocritical not to be open about such lingerie wearing just because people might object. We shouldn’t care what others think but we are human and that’s exactly what humans do. I may need help but not when it comes to knowing what lingerie to wear.

Fritz August 28, 2018

Hi Hannah – I enjoy matching bra and panties or a cami if its colder. I prefer hold ups to garters as the bumps of the fasteners show through my trousers otherwise. Small inserts in my bra are also good and a bit of make up and not too high heels if I’m going somewhere friendly. Xdress has the perfect range that fits me too.

Ally x

Ally July 01, 2018

I know what you mean Ally! What is your favorite lingerie to wear under your male clothes? I love a cute matching bra, panty, garter belt and stockings…but usually do a cami and matching panties.

Love, Hannah

Hannah McKnight June 29, 2018

Hi Hannah – you’re right, it is so much fun! I love co-ordinating different bits to arrive at a complete look from top to toe. It’’s just fabulous to have pretty matching undies and an outer look that feminises my otherwise drab male contours. It’s almost art.

Ally x

Ally June 16, 2018

Hi Ally! I agree, I love the sheer variety of lingerie. I love having the choice of panties with lace, panties with bows, panties with ribbon….it’s so fun!

Love, Hannah

Hannah McKnight June 13, 2018

It’s entirely up to us all what we wear. I prefer the prettiness of colours, materials and shapes that are available in what is traditionally regarded as feminine wear. As you experiment more you find your own style. Hang it all what that might be. I enjoy the feeling of looking and feeling feminine.

Ally June 11, 2018

I am indeed married to a wonderful woman and for her privacy I don’t discuss her up much. She is supportive and amazing, though!
Who’s to say what is and what is not a masculine interest? If we want beautiful lingerie to be for everyone regardless of gender, then everything else should be for everyone as well, whether it’s a sport or meeting a friend at a pub. My interests are reading and art, to be honest. My wife and I do not share a wardrobe. She is a tiny and petite whereas I am really too tall to share clothes. Jewelry, yes, dresses, no.

Love, Hannah

Hannah June 08, 2018

Hi Andy! Good for you! No one is going to give you permission to wear your yellow silk tea dress…but no one can stop you. :)

Love, Hannah

Hannah McKnight June 08, 2018

I let myself feel guilty and ashamed of my love of feminine clothes for forty years. No more. As of last fall, I have been going out in pretty outfits that are appropriate to the seaso. I don’t need anyone’s permission or approval. If you don’t think I look nice in a yellow silk tea dress over a lace camisole while I am out shopping, then tough nuts to you. Say it loud, I’m skirted and I’m proud!

Andy June 07, 2018

This is exciting but puzzling. You say you are straight, with no mention of what you present to a wife or feminine partner. You are non-transexual in any further desire, but no mention of masculine interests – sports, mates in pubs,and so on. Do you share the pleasure of your large wardrobe with a partner? Tell us more

vestita June 07, 2018

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