Greetings, my dear readers. I’ve been thinking about makeup, hence the title of this blog. I’ve been exploring the subtle art of makeup for some years now, and I have a wonderful wife that has helped me learn the art of makeup. As the title suggests, less is more. When you think of makeup, you might think of drag queens, with their flamboyant makeup and hair styles, but that doesn’t really work for us who have to interface with the conventional world. Still and all, we can indeed wear makeup without fear of social ostracism.
I find it interesting that companies are now marketing facial and body moisturizers for men with names that are macho enough not to make them cringe. I’ll bet you a dime to a dollar that the products they are marketing for men come out of the same vat as the moisturizers for women; just under a different label. I will say, however, that Xdress has some very nice makeup products for us of the gender fluid persuasion. Go in and take a look. You can also go online for some good tutorials simply by typing in “men’s makeup.” Having said that, let’s dive into the wonderful world of makeup.
Let’s start with the face in general. I have a rather ruddy complexion, and my dear wife introduced me to the pleasures of foundation makeup. I won’t name brands here, as that would be inappropriate. Go to your favorite store and check out foundation makeup. The trick is to match it to your skin tone. As I said, my facial skin is a bit ruddy, so I wanted to tone it down a bit. I found that mixing equal measures of foundation with a basic facial moisturizer brought down the tone of the foundation so I don’t look like a clown. A note to you that are clean shaven: be sure to blend the foundation into your jaw line. If your facial skin tone is different from the skin below your jaw line, it will shout “MAKEUP!” Again, less is more.
Product: Smooth Satin Bodysuit
Next, let’s consider eye liner and eye shadow. Here you want to be very discreet. If you walk among the gender binary of our society, you want to be very cautious regarding eye liner. You don’t want to end up looking like the pirates of the Caribbean! Less is more. Regarding eye shadow, match it to your skin tone. Again, less is more. You don’t want marked contrasts – you want colors that enhance your natural beauty.
Next, let’s move to eyebrows. I have mine waxed in a nail salon on a regular basis. I find that the salon techs don’t even raise a lovely eyebrow at my request. I like a nice arch. I will warn you that the first time hurts like a bad dog, and the area around your eyebrows will be flaming red for the rest of the day. Also, be sure that the salon tech waxes between your eyebrows. The last thing you want is a unibrow. I occasionally also pluck between my eyebrows. Get a nice pair of tweezers for that.
Speaking of nail salons, get yourself to a nail salon/spa and get a manicure and pedicure. You’ve not experienced pampering until you do. The leg massage is heaven! It wouldn’t be surprising if you see other men in the salon getting the same treatment. I like clear polish on my fingernails, and frost pink on my toenails. Again, most salon techs don’t freak out – they’ve seen it all before. I’ve had clear polish on my fingernails for many years, and all I get from other folks (ladies) is a compliment on my manicure. If men notice, they don’t say anything. Bare in mind that I live in a very conservative part of the country, and I’ve never had an adverse comment from anyone. As far as my toenail polish, well, I keep that to myself.
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Lastly, let’s consider lipstick. As with eyeshadow, it’s important to match your lipstick to your complexion. Here “less is more” is really important. I find that a shade just a bit deeper than my natural lip and complexion color works best. If you want to feel comfortable in general society, flaming red or pink is probably not going to work.
Attending to the subtle parts of our femme side – the beautiful side – can be a wonderful experience. I love nothing more than getting ready for the day, standing in front of the mirror after my shower, wearing my matching satin panties and bra from Xdress while applying my makeup. It really sets up my day to be truly who I am.
What about you? Have you discovered this wonderful side of your inner femme? Are you still exploring it? Have you not yet entered this part of your femme side but are curious? I would love to hear your input. Your stories are always so fascinating and entirely welcome.
Fond regards,
Angie
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Hi Angie and everyone! I´m impressed. Last weekend I bought my very first set o make up, from foundation to lip gloss. Still I’m not very good at it. I’m a 55 years Mexican (with more Spaniard looks) and it jumped to my attention your “less is more” surely I will try it. I like to read all this stories, feeling I’m not the only one. I like to enjoy my feminine side, like to wear my undies and my panty hose under my manly suit, every day since 35 years ago. Surely I would like to dress full as a woman and to go out with an outfit. I don’t know if I have the nerve, but I enjoy to crossdress at home every now and then. I really love to read this stories and to share mine.
What wonderful stories and comments you all have shared! It seems we have far more in common than one would think. George – you absolutely must share with us your experience this weekend. As the British would say, don’t you dare keep us on tenderhooks! Keep those comments coming, my dear sisters under the skin. I love reading them!
Fond regards,
Angie
Lance, I definitely agree with your notion of wearing your clothes/makeup with confidence. Bold colors can still look great, so long as they aren’t overdone.
A thin layer of eyeliner matching your nail polish (and possibly lipstick) is a great way to pull a whole look together with just cosmetics. Of course to wear such colors, confidence is just as vital.
Stevie, your comment on androgyny is very accurate for a lot of us I think.
While most of us are completely comfortable within our male skin, we still subtly beautify ourselves to be considered androgynous.
Even if we are fully dressed and wearing makeup, we still are the men in our relationships and still enjoy male activities, with the added benefit of enjoying some stereotypically feminine activities as well! I personally love it!
Ally, I definitely agree as well in that I do enjoy expressing my feminine side, without the complete impersonation.
For me just wearing feminine clothing/shoes with light makeup is thoroughly satisfying, and I am extremely lucky that I get to do so in my day-day life.
That kind of satisfaction is something I hope everyone here is able to attain.
It’s been said before and I will only reiterate, this is a great place to meet amazing people all over the world who share the same challenges, and each have unique experiences in this journey towards being their true selves.
-Nathan
Ally and George you both are so right; some of us don’t want to transition! Oh how I remember looking so bad with too much make up. I didn’t take the time to go to a make up counter or watch you tube. Now I realize a little means a lot towards feeling that little something when we know we have on a little lip gloss some light foundation and our underthings.
Now, do I wish I could have some nights or days with a full transformation? Why yes but I m fine with daily pushing the envelope in male mode. Underdressing light make up and some women’s straight leg or skinny jeans my toes painted and girls top but still appearing male is plenty to satisfy my hunger for femme
That’s what it is, a hunger for femme
Ally you are right what an outlet this is glad you like me found a place to discuss these issues and George we look forward to hearing all about it
Stevie
You and I are definitely on the same page Stevie.
I love expressing my feminine side by dressing in a feminine way without impersonating women. Make up is a big and subtle part of that. It’s artistic and beautiful if done in a way that complements and enances our features.
Well ok, I like the occasional full on female impersonation too. But it’s not something I can carry off all day long, every day.
Being comfortable and comfortable in yourself is so important.
It’s so lovely to chat with other men that feel the same way. I wish I could meet you and the accepting women too. We’d have a lovely time I’m sure.
Ally