When I read the responses to the blogs that I, or others write, I am looking to see if there are trends, or commonalities in those responses. One of the trends that I have seen come up fairly often is the question of “am I gay”? Now, to be clear, and get this out of the way, I am writing this with zero judgement. If you are gay, and purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. If you are heterosexual and you purchase lingerie from X-Dress, great, enjoy it. The point that I want to discuss is the fact that, most men, myself included, who enjoy wearing lingerie, have questioned their sexuality. If I enjoy wearing bra’s and panties, and other sexy lingerie, that must mean that I am gay. Well, I for one, can tell you that I am a heterosexual male who loves wearing lingerie. In fact, so much so, that I have more than my girlfriend, and I wear it daily.
As I have written in previous blogs, such as What would she say? or What's wrong with feeling pretty? I bring up the point of, what would happen if you told your spouse or your significant other of your secret obsession. Victoria isn’t the only one with a secret. So, if you did “break the news”, or have “broke the news”, was the first question that you got asked, “Are you gay’? As I have read, many have asked themselves that very question, and they have also been on the receiving end of it.
As I write this blog, I am at home, and am wearing the Glow Lace Brazil Panty with the matching black Glow Lace Popover Bra, and Sexy Lace Garter with stockings underneath my skirt and blouse. I love how it makes me feel, and I love to look pretty and sexy for when my girlfriend gets home from work. She will give me “the look” for sure, and then a big grin, and I know that there will be a sparkle in her eye when she see’s the garter. So, when I wear what I enjoy wearing, what does that have to do with my sexuality? Why do our and other’s minds go directly to sexual orientation when it comes to what we wear? So, because I am wearing satin and lace panties, I should automatically then be attracted to men? Or the reverse, if you are gay, and do not wear lingerie, and don your tighty whity’s, should you then be attracted to women? I think that this is such an interesting issue.
Society sure likes to place rules and labels to things. If a women decides to put on work boots and her boyfriends t-shirt and heads out on the town, no one would even look twice. No comment, no questioning of sexuality internally or externally, and all would be well. Now, I put on lingerie, and wear a dress or a skirt, and have my nails painted, BAM, can you imagine the looks, the comments, and well, the shame. Interesting, isn’t it? For this reason, I do not dress and go out in public. I do it in the comfort and safety of my home. Although, I do underdress everyday. I am so thankful to XDress to provide a great product that not only fits great, made well, but also lets me feel pretty and sexy on the inside and the outside.
I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. I find it incredibly powerful to read these blogs and know that I am not alone. It took my quite a while to embrace the self-acceptance of my feminine side, and to really enjoy the XDress products without feeling shame. As I mentioned, I did go through a period of self-questioning about my sexuality. But then quickly came to the conclusion, that, it’s just who I am a heterosexual man who love the finer things in life such as satin and lace. I am also very fortunate to have a girlfriend who loves me for me, and encourages me to be myself. We both win.
I would love to hear your thoughts, stories, struggles, and outcomes of your XDress journey.
WB
28 comments
My initial response on reading this blog was that sexuality has nothing much to do with whether anyone loves the look and feel of pretty lingerie, its more to do with the individual sensitivity and perhaps appreciation of beautiful things. But on reflection, I think of my gay friends and I don’t know anyone who wears panties, they express preference for the traditional branded boxer briefs like Calvin Kline’s. So maybe lingerie is more appealing to heterosexual men, especially if they are regularly exposed to seeing their wives and girlfriends wearing nice underwear, and are therefore more likely to try it themselves. What do you think?
I have just received my Valentina lace Bra and matching panties and they are amazing. The built in pouch fits my package perfectly. This is my first time wearing lingerie and I now will never look back. I will certainly be buying more sexy items in the near future. I am 61 years old and should of started wearing Xdress lingerie sooner.
Awesome commentary After reading I was thinking, wearing lingerie may make us think “am I gay?” But do gay men routinely wear lingerie? Should the question be am I gender fluid? Even if that were the question, is that a fair question as well? Food for thought I m enjoying my xdress g string today!
Great blog WB. I see myself in everything you write, I also had doubts about my sexuality. But as a kid, with a friend and neighbor, it was with him that I discovered my feminine side and started my sex life, yes I’m gay and I started wearing underwear to this day. I haven’t tried my hand at Xdress yet, but I like wearing lingerie on a daily basis. I don’t think I remember using anything else! It’s good to be able to share all the experiences we’ve had along this journey with this community. Happy New Year 2024! Lets be happy.
Francisca
While I have been a regular buyer and wearer of lingerie from both Xdress and what I could find on my own on EBAY and other sites. I find the most difficult part is reassuring myself that what I am doing is completely normal for a straight guy. I first started back in the day with just wearing thongs for guys, then I found this site when it was still called Bodyaware, I was intrigued so I bought a couple of satin thongs because I liked the cut, styles and colors, after a while wearing these I was hooked and have never looked back. Since I have only exclusively worn panties, I don’t worry about stealth too much as I don’t care what other people think. But if you prefer other people didn’t know what you have underneath stick with blacks and whites and save the more louder colors for private or wear regular men’s boxers over the top until you feel confident enough to wear normally. (This is how I originally started wearing my panties) Lastly, as others have mentioned you are not Gay if you wear panties but these are made especially for guys, and also if you are Gay that’s OK too. Life is short, enjoy what you can while you can, and Live Your own Life.