What Does "Lingerie" Mean to You?

If we mentioned the word “lingerie” to any person, we can assume that they may think of lacy, frilly, revealing clothing that is worn for mere minutes before it is being thrown all over the bedroom. It’s the stuff that we primarily see women wearing that is supposed to get men who are attracted to women SUPER wound up.


Thinking of lingerie in that sense isn’t wrong. The technical definition for lingerie, according to the Merriam Webster dictionary, is “women’s intimate apparel.” Once you think about this definition, the obvious loophole is that “men can wear this stuff, too.” So the definition there has already changed, since it’s not strictly just for women.


After breaking down that wall, we then have to think about whether or not traditional “lingerie” would be attractive for women who are attracted to men. Would they enjoy seeing their boyfriend in that sort of apparel? Or would they rather have him wear something on the more masculine side? Would it still be considered lingerie even if it’s not feminine?


A lot of these questions were spurred by this one picture from the internet:




We know it’s not a definitive statement, because every woman is going to think differently about what sort of clothing will attract them to a man. However, it got us thinking about whether lingerie can really be condensed into just one standard of clothing. Because lingerie is primarily meant to arouse a partner, why WOULDN’T a suit be considered lingerie for some people? If it turns them on in the bedroom, why not have their partner wear a suit and have them consider it as “lingerie?”


Unless wearing other types of clothing for sexual arousal is mostly considered “fetish”…but then is lingerie just a TYPE of fetish? Or does it just belong to its own category?


As you can see, this has become something puzzling to our brains at XDress. However, we would like to know what you all think of this! What do YOU consider “lingerie” to be? Is it primarily the frilly, feminine clothing that we think of first? Or do you think it’s broadened out to be so much more?


Have a wonderful day and happy XDressing!


Team XDress


Really enjoy reading the comments. Lingerie to me means expressing my sensuality. I love the feel and look of beautiful lingerie on my body. Seeing my silhouette in a long sheer nightgown is so arousing, stimulating and uplifting. It looks beautiful on both sexes. It calms me and takes away any stress I have at the end of the day.

John October 03, 2021

I am a hetero-sexual straight male and I have grown to love lingerie. For me though I think of lingerie as totally things worn under clothing thoguh I also see it as loungewear in the privacy of your home. Also I do see lingerie as something sensual. I don’t put it on to be sexy by any stretch of the imagination but rather because I like the silky feel of it. I would never by lingerie that is cotton or anything other then soft satin or silk like charmuse. I also see lingerie as something that tends to show your privates in one way or another either do to the see thru nature of it or simply the thinness of it, or the tightness of it along with its thinness. I also enjoy speghetti strap lingerie. I don’t have a good reason why except I guess it is less on. I don’t like wearing a lot of clothing to bed and would never wear any lingerie that is long sleeved for sure. I like the older bodysuit’s that xdress and bodyaware had more then the new rompers though I don’t mind the new rompers either. But I liked those body suits that was speghetti strapped based with most of the bare back being exposed. It comes fairly close to just wearing underwear except of course it covers the from but not as much the back which is exactly what I like. The reason I like the rompers is because of the sensual feel of it as is true with the speghetti strapped bodysuits. I would tend to wear the rompers however in colder weather since it covers more of the body but given the thinness of these I see these as lingerie as well but not to the same degree as the bodysuits, teddy’s. and others. I am not really big into straps, high heels or stockings primarily because they don’t seem to me as something that is soft, silky and sensual to the feel. I am not really looking at lingerie as something that would arouse anyone though I am aware it can and does but for me lingerie is more or less loungewear or sleep wear to be worn in the privacy of your own house, room, or if you perhaps had a lingerie party. At any rate in long lingerie for me is thin soft body clothing that thinly covers private parts and is sensual but certainly shows the shape of those private pars or at least can.

Bo December 07, 2020

Lingerie is just so sexy! To me it is a great part of loving the body. As we get older, men and women, tend to put on a few extra pounds or develop stretch marks. Lingerie covers those blemishes and makes you still look great! Now, I have been a fan of women in lingerie for many years! They look awesome in it. I was into panties but did not go down the men’s lingerie path. Still thinking about it as it does look sexy.

Scott August 17, 2020

LLevo ya muchos años usando lencería pero ahora al final mucho más y tengo 67 años, comparto con mi mujer que unas veces la acepta más o menos, pero claro empecé con bragas y ya tengo mi lencería propia, con medias, ligueros, bragas y sujetadores en los colores blanco, negro y rojo. Así mismo bodys y saltos de cama preciosos. A veces en casa los llevo todo el dia y mi mujer lo sabe y hay dias que lo acepta y otros que no, pero lo vamos llevando, lo que si es cierto que a veces compramos juntos en las tiendas y le pedía opinión de lo que me gustaba y no tenía reparos en que me comprase bragas y asi luego pasamos a las medias y ligueros y los sujetadores al final he comprado yo solo porque ella por ahi no entraba, pero bueno al final poco a poco va aceptando que es mi gusto aunque con algún que otro disgusto pero repito lo vamos superando. Creo que el hombre tiene el mismo derecho de usar lencería que ellas usan patalones, corbata o trajes; pienso que el futuro es que sea todo unisex y no se bautice ni ropa ni lencería eso de mujer o de hombre. Eso ya pasará a la historia en breve.

I have been wearing lingerie for many years but now in the end much more and I am 67 years old, I share with my wife who sometimes accepts it more or less, but of course I started with panties and I already have my own lingerie, with stockings, garters, panties and bras in the colors white, black and red. Likewise bodysuits and beautiful bed jumps. Sometimes at home I wear them all day and my wife knows it and there are days that she accepts it and others that she doesn’t. It is true that sometimes we buy together in stores and ask my opinion about what I liked and had no qualms about buying me panties and then we went on to stockings and garters and bras. In the end I bought them just because she didn’t fit in there, but well in the end, little by little, she accepts that it is my taste, although with some other annoyance but I repeat we are overcoming it. I believe that men have the same right to wear lingerie as they wear pants, ties or suits; I think that the future is that it is all unisex and that neither clothing nor lingerie is destined just for women or men. That will go down in history shortly.

Juan May 03, 2020


I wear lingerie in my daily life, for a long time. First because I like it, I feel very comfortable and my femme side is more exalted. My boyfriend loves that I look good every day, he often asks me to put on a pair of underwear that he likes and I think it excites him during the day to think how beautiful I look for him. And when it comes we make love intensely. For me lingerie means sensuality, secrecy and love!

Nuno January 24, 2020

I wear lingerie, panties, because it excites me and arouses those that see me. Which is my reason to wear intimates…!!

Fran January 04, 2019

Interesting question, I wear ‘traditional’ male underwear as well as feminine underwear, but when I think about lingerie I suppose I tend to think
more about my sexy silky feminine underwear rather than my day to day panties/knickers or even my silk or designer boxers. I’ve always found the idea that underwear has a sexuality weird anyway, can’t wait for the day when I go to a mens underwear section in a shop and see a pair of briefs with little bows on them, we’re getting a little closer with more cuter/flamboyant patterns, bolder colours and silkier/stretchier materials for men but women still have a massive lead on us lol

Andy November 14, 2018

Ultimately it is whatever turns one on. The stereotypical image of lingerie is unarguably feminine and certainly the term “lingerie” is linked inextricably with “sexy”, “seductive” etc. I buy in to that image but don’t see why it should be restricted to women either in fantasy or reality. I prefer lingerie to be underneath a woman’s outer clothing and feel the same about myself and other men. I adore lingerie on both men and women and the thought of either myself and/or my partner (Whether male or female) wearing lingerie is intoxicatingly sexy.

Fritz October 17, 2018

I feel like rockstar in my silk boxers because when I wear them under my slacks I feel totally in control and ready to score big. The cool fabric and awesome boxerstyles I wear everyday makes me feel like a millionaire.

Kieran October 17, 2018

Lingerie means to me, excitement both feminine and masculine. Complete freedom to feel nice under my clothes. But also there is something intoxicating seeing a well presented female in nice underwear.

David October 04, 2018

Lingerie to me means the explicit expression of my gentle, feminine side. Deliberately dressed to show you I care.

Ally October 02, 2018

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