What Got You Started?

August 20, 2018 21 Comments

What Got You Started?

Greetings, my dear readers. First I want to express my appreciation for your responses to my blog postings. It is so rewarding to know that there are so many of you that share this common experience with me that we call, loosely, “crossdressing”. Perhaps a better term is “gender fluid.” That pretty much works for me, as we all have a sense of who we are that is much broader than the confining role of the traditional binary male. I can’t imagine going back to being the macho male I once pretended to be (I say “pretended” because that was never who I really was) and wearing those heavy, scratchy underwear. Thinking about this fascinating journey of embracing the inner femme that we know ourselves to be, I started wondering about what got us all started on this journey.

 

 

I’ve read a lot of posts on various sites, regarding crossdressing folks like us, and have found there are many starting points. Some have sisters, and got started by exploring their sister’s panty drawer, or closet in search of the perfect skirt or dress. Others went foraging in their mom’s closet and dresser. Others didn’t have a sense of their femme self until later in life and lived, or do live, in fear of discovery by their wives. Others, the most fortunate of all, have a spouse that is totally okay with the feminine side of her husband or significant other, and lives happily in the gender fluid world with him.

 


So, I have a question for you: what got you started, and at what age? When did you first slip on that luscious pair of panties and know you were hooked – that this was a part of who you are? When did you first try on that first bra, or blouse, or skirt, and know that this was something you just had to do? We all had some starting point that led to where we are now, and I would love to hear your stories. By reading the blogs here at Xdress, surely by now you know you are far from alone in this fascinating world of the gender fluid; you are part of a virtual community here at Xdress.  Tell me your story – I would love to hear it!


Fondest regards,

Angie


21 Responses

Tim
Tim

February 28, 2019

I’ve always been a butt man so when I finally realized I wanted mine to look good also there were no thongs being made for men that I knew of. Now this was long ago. My wife bought me some women’s thongs and that’s where it took off. I started wearing them to work and always whenever I put on a tight pair of jeans. I really love how my ass looks wrapped in lace boyshorts, my new favorite. Just bought the Lace Brazil Brief in purple! Purple has always been my fav color. Normally always bought women’s panties but usually a hole develops in the front. So excited to have a pair of lace panties w/ a pouch. I have several mens pouch panties but no lace ones and hoping these fit my butt perfectly!!
Needless to say, those first panties my wife bought me just started the whole process of me trying to have the cutest butt out there!!! Interesting when I read the blog this morning about to pouch or not. Surprised so many said no. For me though, its all about how my ass looks in my panties. Hope my order arrives before this weekend…

Marsh
Marsh

January 30, 2019

I am not a cross-dresser, yet! My wife likes me masculine. So, far I shave my legs, chest, and sex, and she lets me. I have chosen the sexiest men’s underwear I can find, and she lets me, so far. String bikinis are good as well are an imported thong. She objected to some lace panties. I really want to get some lace panties!

Yes, I have accepted that I am fully gay or nearly so. And, am trying to figure things out?

Sammy
Sammy

January 11, 2019

I started in early pubescence not knowing anything about sex except I liked girls, they have a calming effect on me. I started trying by trying a bra on in our home laundry. It was electrifying for me from head to toe. I felt warm and relaxed, all my problems went away. Still, to this day, I know something is causing me anxiety or distrust with my wife, out comes the bra. fake boobs a skirt and sweater. It’s become a form of anxiety treatment, feeling warm and secure in a bra and my private sanctuary.

Stevie
Stevie

January 09, 2019

Yaniv, great story
As lve said before some women are into it and if they are its bliss on both sides

Yaniv
Yaniv

January 07, 2019

My lust for lingerie started at the age of 12. The trigger was stockings that blew my mind. The first time I wore at first my mother’s panties, stockings, robe and heels. Since adolescence I have been feeling less manly than the other boys/men around me… for years I was fighting against my inner feelings and lusts and felt shamed and even avoid intimacy with women.

In 2006 I met my beloved wife and few months after we started going out, she ordered herself a sexy corset that came with a black sheer thong… I wore it after few years of “abstinence”… i felt so sexy and knew that I must tell her… few hours later I asked to wear this thong.. she was shocked but after I wore it she was so turned on and everything is history… we’re together 13 years, got married and have 2 kids. During the last year I started to crossdress more and more and my wife supports me more and more. She love me as a man and also as her sissy… I hope to be less shy and to crossdress more and especially outside

Stevie
Stevie

January 06, 2019

Chrissy
I m no expert but trying to hide it is probably a bad idea. See if you can wearsome male lingerie thats not too obvious to get a feel for what she’d say!
But best is to be upfront and honest with her about your desires

The clothes here are fantastic
I dont look at wearing these items as crossdressing because they are mens garments with some femme styling. Women do it all the time wearing boyfriend style jeans and other male styled things

Chrissy
Chrissy

January 06, 2019

I recently discovered your blog. Have read most all of it. I enjoy your openess and breath of knowledge.

Some months ago I discovered my wife’s razor in the shower, started to shave my legs and everything else! My wife challenges me about my shaving but, so far she has accepted my excuses.

I wear some very brief and sheer bikinis to bed. My wife has not connected the bikinis with my shaving. Hope not! I want to get some cross dress items, but my wife wants me to stay masculine!

I was surprised when she told me, “See those women? They are gay!” Why? Because they are wearing the same rings! I would never notice this detail!! So, what is going on? Is my wife gay or does she just have sensitive gaydar?

Any thoughts?

Stevie
Stevie

January 04, 2019

Rhonda
I get what you ate saying
I m not gay or “femme” but i love women’s clothing and I love wearing pretty sexy stuff.
i really like the contrast of the male female

Jess
Jess

January 03, 2019

I had always enjoyed looking at all the women in panties featured in department store ads in the Sunday paper. Then one day I wanted to know what it felt like to wear a pair of satin panties. I then noticed that my older sister had a few pairs of pure satin panties. I couldn’t help myself and had to try them on. I immediately got so very excited. I couldn’t help but touch myself. Since then I have explored my lust for wearing panties everyday, at times cross dressing, and getting excited seeing other men wearing panties.

Rhonda
Rhonda

January 01, 2019

I can’t remember exactly when I started wanting to wear women’s clothing. My first attempts were with my older sister’s and cousins underwear. At first they did not have bras, but as they got started, so did I.
I have never tried to pass in public, has always been my personal secret.
Now I am blessed with a wife who accepts me as I am, and understands that I am not actually gay (although have had a couple of experiences) and not really a femm. I just like the style and feeling of female style clothing.
This site has been a real blessing, as finally I can get sexy clothes that fit me!

Stephen
Stephen

December 31, 2018

I got started at the age of 13 when my mum bought the wrong pair of tights. She bought school girl tights instead so I grabbed them went to my room and tried them on and I loved the way they felt on my bare legs. So I’ve been wearing tights ever since and graduated to stockings and suspenders and bra’s then panties. Then when things & G-strings came out I thought wow got to buy some so I did I’m now 50 and started wearing other women’s clothes like mini skirts and tops and go for walks dressed up at night round the local lake I don’t wear a wig. But I feel that doing this distresses me and calms me down. The first time I did this I went to the local Tesco big store I got some looks but I didn’t care I also bumped into a couple I knew not seen them for at least 18 months then that weekend they invited my wife round to theirs that weekend and they told her not heard off them since but I didn’t care anyway I still go for walks late at night dressed up.

slipj
slipj

December 31, 2018

I was on holiday with my uncle, aunt and niece (who is year older than I am). We slept in an holiday house and shared a bedroom.

After she had a shower she came back in the bedroom ad started to get ready for bed. As she was standing in her undies I could not help getting an erection. She got cross and said It is wrong to get hot over family members. After being a bit ashamed I said it was her silk undies that made me hot. She relaxed and we went to bed. After a few days of me getting an erection and her obviously enjoying it she asked if I had ever touched a pair of panties and she grabbed a pair form her suitcase. She gave it to me and I got really embarrassed. She said it was fine and that I should try it on to see how soft it feels. So I did and slept in it that night. I have never stopped wearing panties since.

When ever I see my niece she still always asks me If I still like it.

Ma
Ma

December 18, 2018

Hello, I am 36 years old, I started two years ago buying a women’s thong. After I started wearing men’s thong. Now I bought a babydoll and I’m impatient to get it to wear it and understand the effect it has on me.
If it will be beautiful, as I think, I will buy a skirt and a bra

Helene
Helene

September 29, 2018

About the age of 9. A school play. I had tights and wore nail varnish. Chassed that feeling ever since

Alli B
Alli B

September 26, 2018

I started when I was 5 or 6 my sister and her best friend were playing a game in her room I went in and asked if I could play too they were playing a dress up game and had great fun dressing me up in my sisters clothes ever since I snuck into my sisters room and tried on their underwear and dresses and shirts high heels and felt so good doing it when they moved out I started to buy my own ladies clothes my fiance didn’t know for about 8 years until she found a pair of ladies underwear in my drawer she thought I was cheating until I told her everything I had been buying her clothes for years but really they were for me she wasn’t too happy at first and taught there is something wrong with me but after a while she seemed ok with it and now I can wear whatever I want when I want I even wear a ladies nightie to bed every night I was caught twice once buy my uncle he saw me in full dress heels tights skirt bra top makeup and wwe. He thought it was very wrong and decided to tell my parents who didn’t really say anything at all and more recently buy a work colleague who came into my hotel room while I was sleeping and saw me wearing ladies underwear and bra and a silky nighty he went on to tell all my other colleagues who had a right laugh but I don’t really care I do what I do and it makes me happy f*** everybody else!

Sammy D
Sammy D

September 14, 2018

I too was around five or six when my elder sister decided to dress me up as a girl. I thought the world of my sister and would do anything she wanted, and this was something that I immediately enjoyed. Throughout my pre-teen and teen years I would sneak into her room and “borrow” her panties, but once I left home after graduating high school, I stopped my secret celebration. It wasn’t until my new bride bought me a male thong for valentines day that I felt liberated once again. For the next few years I had few sexy panties to choose from, then about ten years ago I found xdress and bodyaware. I have one drawer dedicated to panties of all shapes and sizes, made for men, but definitely as sexy as I felt in my sisters panties the first time I wore them. I love wearing panties, wear them everyday, and prefer a thong because I can forget I what I am wearing until I undress. Oh and my wife…she is a good sport. She seems indifferent about what I like to do, and I am loyal to her only, but I only wish she was a little more interested or excited in this fetish of mine, because you know that if she had the bug to wear sexy panties/lingerie, I would be excited and supportive of her…plus I would probably never take my eyes off her (or the bedroom walls for that matter).
Be satisfied with your choices that do not harm others, enjoy life, and know that every day is a great day!

Andy
Andy

September 11, 2018

My first memories of dressing up are of my older sisters dressing me in their dresses, skirts and make-up, I must have been about 6 I suppose, but I don’t really remember that much about it all. My next memory is from when I was about 9 or 10 and we were on holiday and my mum forgot to pack most of my stuff so I had to wear my sisters knickers, I vaguely remember being a little upset about it but I was quite a laid back child and so after the initial fuss I just accepted it as okay as long as it was just for a weeks holiday. The next big memory was from when I was about 12-13 and touching & feeling my sisters knickers in the airing cupboard, they just felt fantastic and soft, what boy could resist so I slipped a pair into my pocket and headed for my room, off came my trousers and boys underpants and on went my sisters nylon knickers, it felt so wrong yet so right, lol. After that I was a regular visitor to the airing cupboard borrowing her knickers but my favourite item was her teddies (blush) they felt awesome against my body underneath my regular clothes. As with most of us I tried to stop myself (impossible!!! Once those silky frills have been slipped on I defy any man never to go and try them again, lol) and partially succeeded until I was 17 by then both my sisters had moved out but had left behind a fair stash of their unwanted clothes (some of which mysteriously made their way into my cupboard). At 18 I was regularly wearing knickers to work and to the pub (such a rush), again I tried to give them up but I made the mistake of sending for a male underwear catalogue from the back of a newspaper (days before the internet) it turned out to be Apres Noir and eventually I just gave in and when at home now wear knickers/panties 24/7 and when away with work as much as possible.

ARMD
ARMD

September 07, 2018

Back in my country, it was hard to find sexy underwear for men. I think it was around 14 that I became aroused with women’s stuff. I held it off for many years, but my wife has known about my bisexuality. However, it was only recently that I decided to replace all my briefs and trunks with g-strings, briefs, thongs. I specially love lace. It gets me all going. I have a lot of fancy, lacey panties, but I mostly love the feel of very tight, under-size g-strings inside my ass line. My wife is now turned on with those and she has even purchased some of those for me. Every day, she asks me what I’m wearing and checks on it. She pulls the thong up on my ass line because she knows that I love such feeling. Wearing women’s stuff is great. I have stockings, a small skirt and lots of panties to go around. Wouldn’t change that for the world.

Chris
Chris

August 29, 2018

At about six years old or so I remember liking to look at catalogs we had Sears JCPenny etc. I liked looking at the panties and I remember at about age twelve i tried on my older sisters panties and I was immediately aroused. That was the last time trying panties on for fear of getting caught (very religious family). That was until about eight years ago I came across bodyaware.com website and bought the TLC Brief, the closest thing to a panty I dare wear being married with older kids. My wife didn’t think anything about them other than she liked them so I replaced all my fruit of the loom briefs. Six months ago I went back to their website to find out they’ve been discontinued. That’s when I came across xdress.com and saw all the sexy panties for men and couldn’t resist buying a few pairs and wearing them in private without my wife knowing and it felt so great so I bought more and a couple of bras. One night shortly after, I told my wife that I have always been fascinated with women’s panties and bras and bought some that were made for men and since the panties are made for men I think I feel it’s ok for me to wear them. In fact I was wearing a pair of panties and a bra under my sweatshirt and sweatpants.and she wasn’t to sure what to think. I assured her that I wasn’t gay and that a lot of straight men have the same fetish. She needed time to think she said and I said ok, I need to go to bed so I laid up there pretending to sleep when she came to bed and she started to feel the front of my T-shirt and she knew i was wearing a bra then she put her hand under my sweatpants and could feel my panties. She than put her hand up my shirt and couldn’t stop playing with my bra and started kissing me and that’s when I took my T-shirt and sweatpants off and she was all over me and we all know what happened after that. Since then she’s been just fine with me wearing panties. However I don’t wear a bra that often since its summer and I don’t want someone to see a bra line under my T-shirt. I feel so much better nowadays to be open with her and myself about my fetish, and for any other guy reading this that hasn’t wanted to tell there girl, just wait till the right time and and be upfront and honest. And tell her THEY’RE MADE FOR MEN SO SHE CANT WEAR THEM!😊😊😊

Ally
Ally

August 28, 2018

Thank you Angie. I began wearing my sister’s clothes from a very early age. It wasn’t until my early twenties that I began going out in panties and make up though. The acceptance of it being a real and valid part of me hasn’t been until relatively recently though. I guess it could have been a lot sooner if I’d accepted the invitation of a very sympathetic and kind female shop assistant who helped me choose some clothes I was browsing in the ladies wear department one day. Who knows how things would have turned out!

Arthur Grun
Arthur Grun

August 28, 2018

I don’t know why it has taken me so long to find this wonderful website. Although happily married for many years, I have been aware since my teenage years of my fascination with what has always been recognised as “womens’” lingerie. The look and the feel is hard to put in to words. However for sure such lingerie has played a prominent part in my sex life and after all these years will continue to do so. How wonderful to discover a supplier who caters for such lingerie for men. Hooked…as if I wasn’t already.

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