A Shift in Energy - Part II

A Shift in Energy - Part II

In my last blog, I discussed the feeling of an energy shift when getting dressed.  Wearing certain items of clothing or wearing specific colors can shift you energy from a more masculine energy to more of a feminine one.  At this level, I believe that it is a feeling that we create for ourselves.  We are making a choice on how we want to feel.  In this blog, we are taking this a step further, the part of you that isn’t a conscious choice, but a part of who you are. 

There is quite a bit of information out there regarding masculine and feminine energy, just go to Google and check it out.  As an example, Tony Robbins talks about it, and there is even a quick quiz you can take to evaluate which energy you primarily have: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient-4/ 

Masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with and is beyond gender.  It is your Yin and Yang.  These energies define and are a part of your values and inner nature.  We all have both masculine and feminine energies in our body, but one will lead or present itself more than another.  You can also show those energies when in different scenarios, for example, you want to dominate a conversation or situation, you will be showing your masculine energy, should you want to bring peace and harmony to the situation, you will bring your feminine energy to the forefront.

Generally speaking, one energy will dominate the other in your day to day world.  Feminine energy feels softer, gentler, kinder, compassionate, and loving, whereas masculine energy feels more focused, determined, logical, leadership and action.  The feminine energy is more creative, flowing, collaborative, with idea creation and attracting the things you want in its own time. It is about sharing, and seeing the big picture, and working with others to create a feeling of community.  The masculine energy is about getting things done within a time frame, setting up the plan and structure to get it done to see an end result. Relying on oneself to problem solve and make sure that things get done.

The thing is, you cannot have one without the other, otherwise you will feel unbalanced.  If your masculine energy is too dominant you may feel undervalued or not appreciated.  If your feminine energy is too dominant you will feel unfocussed, scattered and unstable.  The trick here is to understand and allow the energy that you naturally have to come through, and not try and force or correct it. 

So, how does this play out in accordance with this site and the people that connect within it? You can be the company executive who has to make hard decisions during the workday, and make sure that projects get completed on time, then can’t wait to slip into something soft, sexy, and feminine at night or on the weekends to find that balance and feed that energy, it has nothing to do with gender.  Maybe you wear the suit and tie, but wear panties, bra, and stockings underneath to find that balance.   The other option is to wear a skirt and heels, but make sure that you make your point, win the argument, and GSD (get shit done).  

The interesting thing is, one’s not better than the other, there is no right or wrong, they are part of who we are, and we need to learn to embrace them. Allow them to shine and just be who you are.  These energies are playing themselves out no matter what you are wearing, the question is, are you supporting it? 

I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences when playing with these energies.  I know that as a hetero-sexual male that my dominant energy is feminine, and that is why XDress is so great for someone like myself to be able to fulfill that part of my being.   What is your dominant energy, and how do you balance yours? 


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Being a school teacher, it would be tough for me to show up in heels, thigh highs, a skirt, and a sheer top with a bra full of “D” forms. Would I? Daily. So until society gets there, I wait to get home and slip into a matching set and lounge around with my wife. She’ll occasionally surprise me with something pretty-I love to go panty shopping with her. Miechelle


I have an amazing job as a massage therapist. My caring, nurturing side is dominant, as well as the fact that I get to hang out with woman. I also practice meditation and chi gong, which are perfect for balancing when things feel slightly wonky. To be honest, for me, being too male is depressing, its like wearing a suit of armour , its taken me a long time to work that one out. I live as man, Ive told my wife about my femme side and for the most part feel content with my inner woman, although I’d love to express that part of me more, the fact that I’m owning my authentic self, means that the clothing, makeup etc isn’t always necessary, as I write this, I also know that, i wish i could dress more than I do.
Blessings for this amazing site and the honest responses, Ive been searching for something like this forever.

Stu xx

Stu Lee

Mick, fantastic! What a great place to be; sharing with your Sig other! Free to b yourself! Its such an incredible feeling and it creates closeness and intimacy; and its great to be loved for the complete u! Get your lingerie on Stevie


Great blog, thank you.
I’m very aware of energy & how it shifts in my body, depending on what I’m doing or where I am I will shift between male/female energy.
As an engineer mostly on site I will be in male with male traits but once back at hotel much more comfortable in a dress.
I describe it to my wife its like being a wheel with both masculine & feminine energy to make it whole with only one part touching the ground, constantly turning hence shifting energy.
Far happier now I have come to enjoy both sides of my energy & accepted fully my feminine side
My wife also says when “she” is out to play I become a lot softer, she notices the shift in me and likes the result.
Lately I have been working on our home, some days in male clothes & other days in a dress, those days are more creative & a lot of fun. Even the neighbours have gotten used to me shifting.
Keep up the great work, so glad I found Xdress.

Be brave, it’s worth it.


WB again very similar I work on cars lawnmowers etc but I love me some lingerie and when i feel the need I indulge even more than my every day panties


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