In my last blog, I discussed the feeling of an energy shift when getting dressed. Wearing certain items of clothing or wearing specific colors can shift you energy from a more masculine energy to more of a feminine one. At this level, I believe that it is a feeling that we create for ourselves. We are making a choice on how we want to feel. In this blog, we are taking this a step further, the part of you that isn’t a conscious choice, but a part of who you are.
There is quite a bit of information out there regarding masculine and feminine energy, just go to Google and check it out. As an example, Tony Robbins talks about it, and there is even a quick quiz you can take to evaluate which energy you primarily have: https://core.tonyrobbins.com/gender-quotient-4/
Masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with and is beyond gender. It is your Yin and Yang. These energies define and are a part of your values and inner nature. We all have both masculine and feminine energies in our body, but one will lead or present itself more than another. You can also show those energies when in different scenarios, for example, you want to dominate a conversation or situation, you will be showing your masculine energy, should you want to bring peace and harmony to the situation, you will bring your feminine energy to the forefront.
Generally speaking, one energy will dominate the other in your day to day world. Feminine energy feels softer, gentler, kinder, compassionate, and loving, whereas masculine energy feels more focused, determined, logical, leadership and action. The feminine energy is more creative, flowing, collaborative, with idea creation and attracting the things you want in its own time. It is about sharing, and seeing the big picture, and working with others to create a feeling of community. The masculine energy is about getting things done within a time frame, setting up the plan and structure to get it done to see an end result. Relying on oneself to problem solve and make sure that things get done.
The thing is, you cannot have one without the other, otherwise you will feel unbalanced. If your masculine energy is too dominant you may feel undervalued or not appreciated. If your feminine energy is too dominant you will feel unfocussed, scattered and unstable. The trick here is to understand and allow the energy that you naturally have to come through, and not try and force or correct it.
So, how does this play out in accordance with this site and the people that connect within it? You can be the company executive who has to make hard decisions during the workday, and make sure that projects get completed on time, then can’t wait to slip into something soft, sexy, and feminine at night or on the weekends to find that balance and feed that energy, it has nothing to do with gender. Maybe you wear the suit and tie, but wear panties, bra, and stockings underneath to find that balance. The other option is to wear a skirt and heels, but make sure that you make your point, win the argument, and GSD (get shit done).
The interesting thing is, one’s not better than the other, there is no right or wrong, they are part of who we are, and we need to learn to embrace them. Allow them to shine and just be who you are. These energies are playing themselves out no matter what you are wearing, the question is, are you supporting it?
I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences when playing with these energies. I know that as a hetero-sexual male that my dominant energy is feminine, and that is why XDress is so great for someone like myself to be able to fulfill that part of my being. What is your dominant energy, and how do you balance yours?
WB
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Hi Stevie, Yup. You get it. I feel the same way. I can work on my vehicle, or handle difficult business situations one day and take control of the situation, and on another day I can slip into something sexy and create harmony with my SO. It’s how I feel and present myself. It’s my energy and I follow it, vs trying to make it something. It’s me being me.
WB I feel u! I present myself as stylish male with a subtle feminine twist! My energy is male 80:20! The choice is how I choose to show it . The feeling u r correct I can’t choose Does that clarify???
I think it is important to note that not every man wears lingerie for the same reason. I always find it ironic that the first thing that a wife/girlfriend says to her “caught” husband/boyfriend is, “are you gay??” As a gay man, I have to tell you that it is very difficult finding other gay men who wear lingerie. I wish there were more of us. The vast majority of men that cross dress/wear lingerie are in fact heterosexual. I felt that I needed to point that out. Many, if not most men who cross dress state that they do it to feel feminine. Not me. What I love about wearing lingerie (I do not use makeup, wigs, wear street clothes or give myself a feminine identity) is the taboo that as a man, I am not supposed to wear panties, stockings and garter belts. I also really love the way a garter belt looks with a pair of stockings and nothing else. To me, it frames my masculine body and parts similar to how a jockstrap or speedo would. Basically, I like the way it looks.
Hi everyone, Happy Easter, if thats your thing. Ally, I just wanted to approach this topic and you don’t seem to be picking up what I am putting down. Energy is not about preference, or how you choose to show up. It is who you are, then you let that part of you show up. Your energy isn’t a “choice” unless you want to work really hard to try and change it. It doesn’t work. It’s not about feminine and masculine roles, is about how you represent yourself in the world. However you play that out. I would love if you, or anyone else for that matter, would ask direct questions to this topic. Shall we discuss??
Hi everyone
I’m still not sure about this feminine energy thing.
I have characteristics that some might describe as feminine. I also have preferences that that might be described as feminine – particularly the way I like to appear. I’m not quite sure about having an energy that is feminine some time and masculine at other times. I do know that some times I feel like I’ve got lots of energy and some times I feel like I’ve got none at all! Also, my preferences and the strength of them lead me to certain behaviours – particularly in relation to dressing.
I think there are personal characteristics classified as masculine and feminine although these are not respectively or exclusively owned or displayed by males or females. I’d also think we are motivated by our preferences; though whether we have a masculine energy and a feminine energy still feels a bit of a strange idea to me.
Love to you all
Ally x