Greetings, my dear readers. I hope this blog finds you well and in some nice lingerie. I got to thinking about the advantages and challenges involved in the different modes of shopping in which we can engage. There are basically three ways to shop; online, brick and mortar and hard copy catalogues.
Hard copy catalogues are pretty much going the way of the dial telephone, but I have found a nice Capri set and a pretty nightgown in one of the catalogues we get. I found the experience pretty flat, and overall the lingerie was pretty boring. I think it is designed for an older set of ladies, with a lot of granny panties and bras that would probably deflect a speeding bullet.
The internet is ideal for those of us who are shy about our inner femme. There is such an array of nice lingerie out there. We are fortunate to have XDress and Body Aware, who specifically cater to us of the femme persuasion. Thank goodness for XD and BA! There are also some nice ladies sites out there. When looking at the customer reviews on a pair of ladies panties, you’d be surprised how many of the reviews are done by males. We number more than you might think. The upside of the internet is you can shop in complete privacy with no risk of unintentionally outing yourself. One of the risks is the issue of fit. You can’t try it on. To further complicate the matter, what one store considers a size large can differ greatly from another store. You just have to learn by experience.
One thing I really like about the internet is in the shoe department. I have large feet – size 13. For those of you that don’t know, in order to find the right size of women’s shoe, add two sizes to your men’s size. If you are a size 9, you would be a size 11 in women’s shoes. Doing the math, you can see that I am a size 15 in women’s shoes. You don’t just go to the local shoe store to find a women’s size 15. You won’t find them. I can, however, find size 15 online, and I have several pair, from boots, to sandals, to loafers, and of course Mary Janes. Also shopping for shoes online spares you the exposure involved in shopping at a brick and mortar.
Speaking of brick and mortar shopping, there are advantages and challenges there as well. First the challenges. The obvious challenge is outing yourself without intending to. There are ways to deal with that. If you are married to a gg who is supportive of your cross dressing, she is your cover for shopping. My wife and I love to go shopping and we have the closets and drawers to prove it! We’ve gotten to the point that a new skirt means you have to donate one to the charity shop. A new pair of panties? Find an old pair to throw out. Such a nice problem to have! One of the up sides to me personally is just the thrill of being in the store with other women around while I’m shopping. Also, you can feel the texture of things and some things, like women’s jeans, you can try on, eliminating the problem of proper fit.
If you are either not out to your gg or single with no relationship, you can use a trick that I used before I was out to my wife. As with most of us, I started by secretly underdressing. When there was a pair of panties I just had to have, I would also pick up a birthday or anniversary card for my wife. Ah, I’m shopping for her, not me. One time I was doing our grocery shopping by myself at Wal Mart and threw a nice pink lacy pair of panties in, thinking they would be lost among all the groceries. Wrong! The clerk scanned them and said, “I’ll bet you’ll look cute in these.” I just smiled, thinking anything I said would just dig the hole deeper.
The pre-Christmas shopping season is a pretty safe time to do both under and outer wear shopping, as everybody is buying things for others. Pretty safe time to get that skirt and blouse you’ve been wanting.
One of the things my wife and I love to do is hit the thrift shops. You’d be surprised at the quality outer wear you can find if you just look. Men’s shopping is pretty straight forward – shirts in one area, slacks in another. With women’s shopping, it’s more like a hunting expedition. Everything is everywhere. You have to take your time. I have skirts and blouses from higher end labels that I got for cheap. One thing that I don’t get is that some of the thrift shops sell used panties. Really? That is so gross. Would you wear panties previously owned by a total stranger? Not this gurl!
So, I’ve rambled on long enough. How about you – what are your experiences and preferences in the wonderful world of shopping? Please share your thoughts with me, as I always love to read your postings. Until then, let’s get out there and go shopping!
Fond regards,
Angie
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Hi David
Thank you for your kind response. It is what it is – I have got accustomed to the situation although I hate being deceitful. Occasionally, I find I have the house to myself as the family are all out, and I can wear a complete set of lingerie and relax. It feels so good! I sometimes work from home and I’ll spend all day working in my lingerie – those are the best days!
To David @xdress – that’s so good to hear you’re working on a click and collect option for your new website.
I’m sure it will be really helpful for your customers.
And your sales should take off – like panties from a laundry line in a strong wind!
Can’t wait!
X
I’m really happy that this is a place for cisgender heterosexual men to explore and embrace femininity. Femininity is awesome. I’d love to know, though, that this community is as happy to include queer, non-binary or non-conforming, and trans folks, as well. Are we a fully inclusive community? I don’t have a wife. I have a not-so-into-it husband and a super-into-it daughter. Is there room for all of us here?
David — we are so grateful for this space! Personally, I’d love to find a strappy heel, more in the sandal family. Got to show off this pedicure! And I’ll echo Andre — more bralettes!
Tracking my latest shipment like a kid waiting for Santa. :)
Hi Rob,
I am sorry that you feel you have to hide your feeling from your wife, this seems to be a common thread (see Angie’s excellent posts on Getting the Wife Onboard). The ladies appear to be able to wear anything, feminine or masculine, and as a result we feel its unfair that they don’t understand how the desire to wear something feminine is an important part of many of us.. But in actual fact I think women feel just as constrained by society’s conventions of what is acceptable clothing based on their weight, age, looks etc., and particularly by the perceived judgment of their fellow gender. So perhaps women and men are both limited in what they can wear, essentially out of fear of embarrassment or ridicule.
Fortunately the world view is changing and I love to see that the younger generation is embracing gender fluidity, and gender boundary-defying clothing is a common feature at the top fashion shows. For now, online shopping is a great and safe way to purchase lingerie, although hopefully in the future there will be more gender neutral brick & mortar stores like The Phluid Project in New York (thephluidproject.com). Does anyone know of any similar stores? Pluid were mentioned in this interesting article: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/culture/2019/03/gender-bending-fashion-rewrites-rules-who-wears-what/ Apologies, Angie, for going somewhat off topic!