Gratitude makes you feel happier, more optimistic, more empathetic, even improves the health of your heart and the quality of your sleep – or so a quick google search tells me. It’s something that’s currently talked about a lot – you may have participated in some form of “gratitude journal” and noticed that, yes you do feel better as a result of noticing the things in your life that light you up, make you feel happy.
And what does this have to do with XDress and lacy panties? Well, the people who choose this underwear, and their partners are often immensely grateful for this lingerie even existing in the world, and some of that gratitude is expressed on the blog, or in private messages to Kristina and David the founders of this wonderful family business.
I love to read the comments on the XDress blog; they always bring a smile to my face, and make me feel inexplicably happier. That’s the gratitude! And it comes in many forms and for many different reasons.
Gratitude that this more feminine, beautiful, lacy, sensual lingerie exists in a form that actually is made for the male body. Gone are the days of forcing your “bits” into panties, thongs, bras that are uncomfortable for any length of time, and do not fit, that are not even designed for your body shape – the lingerie feels good because it really fits.
Gratitude for the beauty, the colors, the design, the sumptuous fabrics, the care that has been put into the design. All of this makes it just feel good to wear the underwear – it somehow contributes to the body feeling nurtured, looked after and cared for. And your partner can enjoy this too. Of course, he or she can enjoy the visuals, but can also enjoy the way this lingerie makes your body “sing” and come alive!
Men, particularly straight men, also feel really happy that they are not alone, not somehow wrong or weird for desiring to wear this kind of lingerie. It seems it is not at all unusual for straight men to love this underwear, to enjoy wearing it either out and about beneath their clothes, or in the privacy of their own homes with their significant other. Whilst everyone is different, and particularly in the area of sex and sexual expression, knowing there are many thousands of other men out there who share some of the same desires can be reassuring.
People tend to wonder if their desires are “normal”; and whilst my sense is that there is no such thing as “normal” (thank goodness!) when it comes to our sexuality and desire, the community that is developing around the XDress Lingerie can be hugely supportive. Even in the 2020s, this can still be a “fringe” topic if not presented in the right way. However, XDress with its top-quality photography and models presents men’s lingerie in a respectful and attractive manner, showing it’s not a pornographic or an extreme fetish subject that has to be censored or suppressed, but it is something that can be enjoyed by everyone without any sense of shame.
Men and their male and female partners are even saying that this underwear has been a massive contribution to their relationships, even saving their relationships. How can this be so? Well, pretending to be something we are not, in this case pretending to be a happy boxer short wearer or a conventional Y-fronts or tighty whities boy, when you and your body crave something completely different, can literally make you start to feel that you are dying inside.
We get so used to it – pretending to be something we are not to fit in, and this can be amplified in the area of sexuality. It’s the area with the greatest judgment, the most taboo, and can be where we feel the most guilt; having support to live out being who you actually are sexually can literally bring back people’s 'Joie de Vivre!'
Funnily enough, sitting here writing this, I feel happier and happier! It’s obviously true what the experts say about gratitude! I love that this different, bold, beautiful lingerie is available in the world, and also sense that the massive gratitude for it in the community already wearing it is actually starting to invite more people to experience the pleasure of this underwear.
Please join our community of like-minded individuals who offer support unconditionally, by adding your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. It can be totally anonymous; you do not need to give a real name or email address.
Paul, rest assured, you are not alone. I do find it so interesting how we place such rules around these things such as attire, jobs, roles, preferences. I was just having a conversation regarding females who grew up discovering the world in a physical manner such as fixing their bike, taking things apart, playing football and the like, were labeled tomboys, as if this was a masculine activity. What if a male didn’t want to do those things, were they a sissy? Maybe it has nothing to do with being a male or a female, maybe it was just who they were, and how they interacted with the world? I have written blogs here about masculine and feminine energy, every person has both energies in them to varying degree’s. What if you lit up your feminine energy when you dressed this way, where is that wrong? If it is energy, you won’t be able to “think” your way through it. Energy never stops, it just goes where you direct it. What is the worst that would happen if you embraced it? It is yours after all. Something to consider. As Stevie writes, I love the look and feel of this lingerie, and wear it daily, it fulfills that part of my feminine energy. On the weekend, I was fixing my hot tub, changing the oil in my car, and smoking meat, it fulfills my masculine energy. It’s a win in my world.
I’m so grateful to those public figures who cross-dress and who are expanding the realm of what is acceptable for those of us still hidden in the shadows. My heart leaps for joy when I see pictures of well known people cross-dressed, online or on TV. Thank you for your confidence and showing me how I can be.
Paul xdress blog jan 2020 Has a post getting your self on board Check it out may help
Hi Paul I read your reply w great interest It’s different for all of us Wearing materials that that feel good shouldn’t make us doubt our masculinity! Its just a sensual good feeling The social construct brings the guilt. In this era every social construct is being challenged Some i agree with some i dont I do think we should respect all opinions and b allowed to b ourselves I feel no less of a man wearing lingerie I ve often posted here, if this lingerie is male lingerie, am I crossdressing ? Keep being introspective u will figure it out and we are here to help Xdress has tapped into the hidden lingerie wearing male ! And there are so many of us out here Get ur lingerie on I did Stevie
Thank you Stevie, knowing that others have been where I currently am is reassuring. I’ve tried my hardest to figure out why I feel so good when I wear lingerie but can’t seem to nail it. It’s possible that there might be some reason deep in my subconscious but I’ve felt the same since I was nine or ten, so I don’t think it’s rebellious naughtiness like it is for you. I’ve also tried my hardest to dissuade myself from enjoying the look of myself dressed up, and the feel of the materials, cuts and the slight pull of garter straps holding up my stockings, etc., but ultimately I always give in to my desires to get dressed up, and feel great when I do. As for the guilt and shame I feel, maybe this is me questioning my own masculinity (like you explained about yourself) so I will think on this some more. It would be so much easier if I didn’t feel so good when I wear women’s underwear but I’m starting to realise that this is an undeniable part of myself. What I really need is to lose that similarly undeniable feeling of shame. Maybe what I need to do first is to figure why I feel such a strong need to wear lingerie.
Paul! Hi! Welcome! A lot of us have been there. I had to go to therapy! First try to figure out why u feel shame. Then figure out y u want to wear the lingerie For me I was feeling shame because I felt like I was losing or not being a man. What do i get out of it? A feeling of freedom Naughtiness Relaxation Privacy-something for me Sexy feeling Satisfaction of going against the grain The femininity connects me to my mother Figure these things out for urself Who r u hurting I m still the same man that loves sports cars fishing Repairing things etc We re here to help Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Paul, this is a great question you have addressed, and maybe we have some experts in psychology who can give some insight. As an owner of Xdress we find a lot of customers place orders and then within the hour ask to cancel them. This is presumably for the very reasons you mention, they would love to own and wear our beautiful lingerie but then they feel guilty after clicking checkout. As a company this is disappointing as so many people are missing out on the simple joy of wearing what would make them feel happier and less stressed. Hopefully our accepting community who contribute to this blog can encourage those who are hesitant to try their first pair of panties.
My gratitude is for xdress in creating clothing and lingerie that has inspired my courage to live more fully into who I am. Thank you xdress for the creative underdress options that give me confidence, courage and a fashionable flare that this gurl has yearned for. – Tomi
I love to wear lingerie but can’t seem to get to the point where I can confidently accept this fact about myself. Many of you here seem to have achieved this and have embraced your feminine selves and even had the confidence to share it with others. I would love to move past the feelings of guilt or shame I have but, although I can’t resist my compulsion to wear panties, bras, stockings, etc., I always feel that I shouldn’t really be dressing in this way. I know I won’t be able to stop crossdressing and so I’d truly love to know why I feel like this and how I can overcome it.
D , great story! I can relate! I ve been thinking, with so many of us doing this, is it really that unconventional? Or do we feel that because most people don’t know that so many of us are doing it? Food for thought!!! I no longer feel the shame and guilt I accept myself for who i am and what i like! My wife knows but doesn’t encourage! She will see me in xdress panties or bodyaware undies and say nothing We gone gone for pedicures and she has picked the color I keep my toes painted Remember this , no one goes around telling people what kind of underwear they wear. It’s intimate apparel for a reason Get ur lingerie on I did Stevie I’ll take it!
Loving the blossom and the purple satin range , my god how hot is that blonde guy modelling your range , I’ve never had a gay relationship but that guy could have my number anytime .
I’m grateful to my wife.
For as long as I can remember I’ve secretively dressed up in women’s underwear. I would wait for an opportunity when I had time alone and excitedly adorn myself in lingerie. There were times where the opportunity was scarce and, without any chance to get dressed up, I yearned to enjoy the feel and look of myself wearing panties, a garter belt and stockings, etc.
I’ve also experienced periods where I tried to resist my need to dress up. These were times of denial and self reflection – why do I feel so good when I’m dressed up, am I a crossdresser, am I gay, etc., but I always returned to enjoying my secret habit without any answers other than a deep held feeling of embarrassment or shame.
After I got married I felt the need, for the first time in my life, to share my secret. I wanted my wife to know, but how could I tell her? I wasn’t confident enough to have a big confession and so I started out by wearing more risqué men’s underwear occasionally and then very gradually ensured that these became more feminine in terms of the materials and cut. My wife was encouraging with my new underwear choices and so, one evening, I took the plunge and wore a pair of women’s panties without saying anything to her. She was a little shocked but thankfully she wasn’t dismissive. A conversation ensued where she wanted to know if I was gay? – no; did I want to wear other women’s clothing? – only lingerie really; did I think I was transgender – no; how long have I done this – it’s only just developed (I told a white lie here and don’t really know why!).
I am grateful to my wife because she has accepted my habit of crossdressing in lingerie and now encourages me to get dressed up. I am grateful to her because I no longer feel embarrassed or ashamed nor the need for for self analysis about my unconventional choice of underwear and the thrill I get from wearing lingerie…
My spirit is leaping for joy as I read this blog and your comments! I’m full of gratitude and deeply desire to sustain it. Knowing and remembering that lots of other “amab” sentient souls love lingerie ( camis, bras and panties oh my!) which may be lacey, delicate, skimpy and beautiful fills me with gratitude. And helps me to embrace me. I’m not unnatural or weird. And xdress company, models, blogs and patrons help me to embrace me too….And for all that, I too am grateful Thank you! Thank you to each of you.💕🦄 PJ
Grateful that I can dress the way I want. My girlfriend picks out my bra and panty set every morning for me. She picks out my “ things” when I have to travel. I love the selection of styles and fabrics that x-dress has to offer. Would love to see the blossom collection in other colors. Also hope to see more satin and lace bra and panty sets. One can never have enough choices. Grateful to be me, and dress accordingly. My way!
Gratitude for everything in life. Health, happiness, friends and family! All very appreciative of all I have and especially happy to have XDress as part of my daily wear! Love the satin collection and cannot wait any longer for the French maid outfit! The fun and adventure this has brought to my life is no it easy to convey. A great site! Thankful for it!
My thanks Xdress. I have been wearing underwear for 2 years now and enjoy its tenderness and beauty. It inspires, uplifts and of course gives tenderness to my inner world. Honestly, no one but you knows and will not know about it. I just live and enjoy. This is a my world.
I’m a Bisexual Male whom now, only wears Ladies Panties, Bras, Nylons, and Make-Up. It makes me feel so Feminine now, and I’m loving it!
I m so grateful for xdress and other sites like it! I m one of those guys who just likes the lingerie on me and her! I love the fabrics and the styles! I m grateful that the styles are made to fit me! Thank you xdress and the contributors to the blog! Get ur lingerie on I did
I agree with Jeff. The blossom collection is extremely wonderful. I so wanted the garter 😢 but the bra and panties are the absolute best I have in my collection of many many sets. My wife selects my panties and bras every morning for me. Thanks