Gratitude makes you feel happier, more optimistic, more empathetic, even improves the health of your heart and the quality of your sleep – or so a quick google search tells me. It’s something that’s currently talked about a lot – you may have participated in some form of “gratitude journal” and noticed that, yes you do feel better as a result of noticing the things in your life that light you up, make you feel happy.
And what does this have to do with XDress and lacy panties? Well, the people who choose this underwear, and their partners are often immensely grateful for this lingerie even existing in the world, and some of that gratitude is expressed on the blog, or in private messages to Kristina and David the founders of this wonderful family business.
I love to read the comments on the XDress blog; they always bring a smile to my face, and make me feel inexplicably happier. That’s the gratitude! And it comes in many forms and for many different reasons.
Gratitude that this more feminine, beautiful, lacy, sensual lingerie exists in a form that actually is made for the male body. Gone are the days of forcing your “bits” into panties, thongs, bras that are uncomfortable for any length of time, and do not fit, that are not even designed for your body shape – the lingerie feels good because it really fits.
Gratitude for the beauty, the colors, the design, the sumptuous fabrics, the care that has been put into the design. All of this makes it just feel good to wear the underwear – it somehow contributes to the body feeling nurtured, looked after and cared for. And your partner can enjoy this too. Of course, he or she can enjoy the visuals, but can also enjoy the way this lingerie makes your body “sing” and come alive!
Men, particularly straight men, also feel really happy that they are not alone, not somehow wrong or weird for desiring to wear this kind of lingerie. It seems it is not at all unusual for straight men to love this underwear, to enjoy wearing it either out and about beneath their clothes, or in the privacy of their own homes with their significant other. Whilst everyone is different, and particularly in the area of sex and sexual expression, knowing there are many thousands of other men out there who share some of the same desires can be reassuring.
People tend to wonder if their desires are “normal”; and whilst my sense is that there is no such thing as “normal” (thank goodness!) when it comes to our sexuality and desire, the community that is developing around the XDress Lingerie can be hugely supportive. Even in the 2020s, this can still be a “fringe” topic if not presented in the right way. However, XDress with its top-quality photography and models presents men’s lingerie in a respectful and attractive manner, showing it’s not a pornographic or an extreme fetish subject that has to be censored or suppressed, but it is something that can be enjoyed by everyone without any sense of shame.
Men and their male and female partners are even saying that this underwear has been a massive contribution to their relationships, even saving their relationships. How can this be so? Well, pretending to be something we are not, in this case pretending to be a happy boxer short wearer or a conventional Y-fronts or tighty whities boy, when you and your body crave something completely different, can literally make you start to feel that you are dying inside.
We get so used to it – pretending to be something we are not to fit in, and this can be amplified in the area of sexuality. It’s the area with the greatest judgment, the most taboo, and can be where we feel the most guilt; having support to live out being who you actually are sexually can literally bring back people’s 'Joie de Vivre!'
Funnily enough, sitting here writing this, I feel happier and happier! It’s obviously true what the experts say about gratitude! I love that this different, bold, beautiful lingerie is available in the world, and also sense that the massive gratitude for it in the community already wearing it is actually starting to invite more people to experience the pleasure of this underwear.
Please join our community of like-minded individuals who offer support unconditionally, by adding your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. It can be totally anonymous; you do not need to give a real name or email address.
Thank you!
Fiona
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Paul! Hi! Welcome! A lot of us have been there. I had to go to therapy! First try to figure out why u feel shame. Then figure out y u want to wear the lingerie For me I was feeling shame because I felt like I was losing or not being a man. What do i get out of it? A feeling of freedom Naughtiness Relaxation Privacy-something for me Sexy feeling Satisfaction of going against the grain The femininity connects me to my mother Figure these things out for urself Who r u hurting I m still the same man that loves sports cars fishing Repairing things etc We re here to help Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Paul, this is a great question you have addressed, and maybe we have some experts in psychology who can give some insight. As an owner of Xdress we find a lot of customers place orders and then within the hour ask to cancel them. This is presumably for the very reasons you mention, they would love to own and wear our beautiful lingerie but then they feel guilty after clicking checkout. As a company this is disappointing as so many people are missing out on the simple joy of wearing what would make them feel happier and less stressed. Hopefully our accepting community who contribute to this blog can encourage those who are hesitant to try their first pair of panties.
My gratitude is for xdress in creating clothing and lingerie that has inspired my courage to live more fully into who I am. Thank you xdress for the creative underdress options that give me confidence, courage and a fashionable flare that this gurl has yearned for. – Tomi
I love to wear lingerie but can’t seem to get to the point where I can confidently accept this fact about myself. Many of you here seem to have achieved this and have embraced your feminine selves and even had the confidence to share it with others. I would love to move past the feelings of guilt or shame I have but, although I can’t resist my compulsion to wear panties, bras, stockings, etc., I always feel that I shouldn’t really be dressing in this way. I know I won’t be able to stop crossdressing and so I’d truly love to know why I feel like this and how I can overcome it.
Paul
D , great story! I can relate! I ve been thinking, with so many of us doing this, is it really that unconventional? Or do we feel that because most people don’t know that so many of us are doing it? Food for thought!!! I no longer feel the shame and guilt I accept myself for who i am and what i like! My wife knows but doesn’t encourage! She will see me in xdress panties or bodyaware undies and say nothing We gone gone for pedicures and she has picked the color I keep my toes painted Remember this , no one goes around telling people what kind of underwear they wear. It’s intimate apparel for a reason Get ur lingerie on I did Stevie I’ll take it!