I don’t know about you, but this last year has been interesting to say the least. I have seen it as a year that has forced us to pivot, discover our inner strength, show our resiliency, and find a way to stay positive. I think that it was also a year to reflect and spend time on the things that really matter. Looking back, it seemed that being busy was a badge of honor, and as long as you were getting things done, it was considered success. What I discovered in this last year, was that people were trying to do things that really mattered and trying to find meaning and purpose as this was how they were trying to find success. The great resignation was a big problem, and a big issue this past year as companies were struggling to retain their people, and the people were struggling to find alignment and purpose in their lives.
Where I am going with this, is that with the stress and strain that this pandemic has placed on each and every one of us, it has forced us to stop long enough to reflect on what is important. Since you are the most important person you know, have you stopped to reflect, and put the energy into just being yourself? In the last blog by Jill, it was interesting to read how she would buy some things for herself, then feel the guilt or shame and throw them away. Only to do it all over again, and again. Feeling guilt or shame about something that you desire, is not giving yourself the freedom to be yourself. Not giving yourself the luxury of that freedom based upon the expectations of “societal norms”.
My SO and I play crib, and there is always a wager on the game. So, the loser gets to buy the winner some lingerie, so there is really no loser. We often go shopping together and share in the experience. The look on the clerks face when she say’s these are for him is always fun. When I have to put on men’s underwear because I am going to play hockey, I get “the look”. You are wearing those? Right, you have to play hockey. She picks out my bra and panty set in the morning and has it laid out on the bed for when I get out of the shower.
Now that we are hopefully coming out of this pandemic, and you took the time to reflect on what is important to you and the decisions that make you happy and fulfilled, what will you do for you? Will you put on your glistening satin and lace bra and panty set and head off to work? Will you dress up and sip wine and read a good book? Will you not feel shame when dressing up because damn it feels good? As we head off into 2022, I would love to hear what decisions that you will make for you to be you? XDress is a great place to satisfy those needs, share your thoughts with others who feel the same, and a great place for my SO to shop when she loses a crib game. Here’s to another New Year, for a New You. It would be great to hear your stories.
Take Care,
WB
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Scott, Thanks for the kind words. Isn’t it great to leave the negativity behind? Well done. Isn’t shopping with your SO fun? Yes, the satin series is pretty spectacular. But, I will refrain from having it part of my hockey gear. Jenni, sorry that you are / were feeling weird. The good thing is, is that you have this blog, site to be able to express how you are feeling. In my opinion, if others had, or didn’t have a fantasy like yours, would that make it ok, or not ok to have yours? How will you ever know if it is something that you would like, or not like, unless you bring it into reality. Have the experience, see for yourself, and leave the judgement at the door. Just my 2 cents. Andranik, if you let her know what you like, it would be great to hear how she responded.
I like this blog as it makes me feel not quite so weird. My new me would be to dress and act like a sissy. Its very embarrassing to even write this, but I am consumed with the fantasy of being a sissy and giving control to a mistress or master (preferably a master if I was most honest with myself). I have a maids dress and actually look quite pretty (I am 31 and slim build), but I would love a girl’s frilly party dress complete with frilly knickers. I live alone near London and work in tech from home so I am lucky that I can wear what I want, but the whole covid situation has restricted any social life I might have enjoyed. As I say this is just a fantasy that comes and goes with the associated guilt and shame, and I am not sure the reality would be something that I would really like. Am I unusual in getting obsessed with a fantasy like this? I am OK with wearing lacey panties and bras under my clothes when I go out and of course at home, I think that is no big deal, but I worry that I am going too far, at least in my mind. Does anyone else have fantasies like this?
Very interesting post. These hard days really gave all people a chance to be a little bit with themselves… to reflect… to re-evaluate events. find support, communicate and help each other .. Last year I started wearing beautiful feminine, but masculine underwear from XD, I really wanted to … and I bought … I went to the gym in it, for walks. ..and I felt more complete… my female part living in me helped me become a more whole man … in the new year I began to wear it to work… yes, there were embarrassments… but by the end of the working day I I felt that I had already become a different person … a friend recently appeared in my life … she saw me only in thongs … but I hope she will understand that I like to wear bras .. sleep in a delicate and beautiful nightgown … I know maybe I should tell her about it myself .. then show her .. but I can’t stop wearing bras anymore …
Joshua You look amazing in the lingerie Wish the store was brick and Norse to visit and try on in person.
Nice blog WB! I have taken the time to reflect on a lot of aspects in my life. I have tuned out the negativity and committed to treating myself and others with positivity and love. I no longer engage with the ignorant and invest in the ones willing to learn and hear both sides of an issue because when you communicate, you find common ground. As for my inner femme, I have embraced it since before the pandemic and my SO has been very supportive. We too shop together and love the looks we get. However, I do like the XDress satin series the BEST! I wear panties at work, when I travel, at the gym and just about everywhere. Probably the only time I wear the gross men’s underwear is when I am doing yard work but have worn a thong in these scenarios once or twice. My guess is your hockey friends would rib you for wearing panties but I also bet 1/3 of the room was wishing they had your confidence. Of course, if you are wearing satin panties on the ice, that just might ruin a good pair of panties! Stay safe, stay femme and wear them with pride!