By José Rosa
When did you first start wearing panties or lingerie and what motivated you to try it?
I started wearing lingerie during the pandemic. I wanted to give my Instagram feed a different vibe, and it began as a bit of a game, something playful and a little naughty. Once I bought a couple of pieces, I got hooked. I remember that what inspired me was the music video for “What’s Your Pleasure?” by Jessie Ware. Seeing that model wearing “feminine” clothing and lingerie struck me as incredibly sexy.
How has your lingerie journey changed over time and how often do you wear it now?
At first I only wore it for photography, as something occasional. Later I started using it as a bit of a fetish with some guys I was seeing… and since I began collaborating with brands like XDress. I’ve started wearing it daily, it’s so comfortable! I’ve normalized it so much that sometimes I even forget I’m wearing it, and when I change in the gym locker room I get some suggestive looks.
What are your favorite lingerie styles and fabrics and why do they feel right for you?
I love anything in pastel colors and fabrics like satin. Pink, purple… bows, silk, lace… I think it contrasts beautifully with my muscular build and body hair. It creates such an aesthetic look, I absolutely love it.
Do you wear lingerie every day or save it for certain moments and how do you decide?
As I mentioned, I’ve incorporated it into my daily life. That said, stockings or more special pieces with lace or satin (my favorites) are usually for special moments… there’s a bit of a thrill and fetish to it. I feel very sexy wearing them.
How open are you about wearing lingerie and who in your life knows about it?
Completely open. I post a lot of content with these kinds of pieces on Instagram and I love showing them off; I don’t hide it. Even my mom follows me on Instagram, hahaha. I think it’s time to normalize that men wear lingerie and that there’s lingerie made specifically for us…
How has wearing lingerie helped you connect with your feminine or softer side?
A lot — I actually feel very masculine wearing it. I think being a man or having a muscular, hairy body shouldn’t limit you to just briefs or the typical jockstrap (that was all we were “allowed” before). In my case… good lingerie, combined with a masculine attitude and a masculine body, feels like the sexiest thing in the world… we need to break stereotypes.
What made you move away from traditional mens underwear and try something different?
The idea of not having to wear what society dictates, of breaking the rules, motivated me. I love wearing traditional briefs, but I also love lingerie. I don’t think you should stick to just one thing — ideally, you can switch it up, play around… every day you wake up differently and want to look different. On my sexy days, I definitely don’t want to wear a classic white brief, hahaha.
What advice would you give to a guy who is curious about starting to wear panties or lingerie?
They should try it — they’ll end up hooked. And above all, they should start with brands like this one, Shop X Dress. It’s super important that the lingerie is made for us, designed for our genitals… they need to be bold. There are many brands that are really for women, and it’s not the same. But once you give it a go, it’s addictive… nothing else feels the same.
How has wearing lingerie impacted your confidence or self expression?
A lot. It has brought me the sexy side I was missing. I love taking on the dominant role and surprising people… usually, it’s thought that the bottom is the one who wears lingerie and the top wears briefs… I flip that idea, and I love breaking that stereotype and showing that a confident top can also rock lingerie and be 100% themselves.
What does XDress mean to you and how has it supported your lingerie journey?
A lot. I’m forever grateful because thanks to them I’ve discovered real men’s lingerie and many unique pieces for men — unique colors and really special designs. Plus, whenever I’ve worn their pieces in private, it’s always been a total hit and incredibly sexy.
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I’m younger and still figuring out who I am, so stories like this honestly help a lot. Sometimes it can feel isolating when your interests or style do not fit what people expect. I’m still in uni and slowly replacing all my boy undies with panties. I discovered xdress on instagram in an ad and fell in love immeditely.
This sounds so much like my own experience. I started out just trying panties every now and then, but now I wear them every day without even thinking twice about it. It is just what feels best for me now. I really love the feminine feeling and the confidence it gives me throughout the day. It has honestly helped me become more comfortable with myself overall.Thanks for continuing to create for this community. I’ve started to notice other brands do cool lace, I wish xdress would do that. All your lace is sold out and the same floral pattern. BORING!