"Topic of panties peeking out - is this frowned upon? I'm not sure what the general consensus is of how others feel about this. With low rise pants becoming common and panties that ride up, it seems inevitable. I'm conscious enough to try to prevent it. But it happens. I don't have a kink for that at all and I don't want it to seem like I'm involving others in a kink since that's never what I intend. It can be difficult to avoid. Same goes for the locker room in a gym, in a way."
I think panties and other things that we wear under our clothes are personal and intimate. I don't feel that my panties are for the world to see, and I wouldn't want someone to see what I am wearing unless I choose to show them.
I think panties and other things that we wear under our clothes are personal and intimate. I don't feel that my panties are for the world to see, and I wouldn't want someone to see what I am wearing unless I choose to show them.
It can happen by accident, and like you, I am hyper aware of potential risks. Low rise pants, a belt that is not tightened properly, crouching down... These are elements that can cause that. But when people choose an outfit BECAUSE it will show off their panties (or boxers), then I feel it is a little tacky. I really don't want to see someone else's underwear without my consent, if you will.
I should clarify that the setting matters. If I were at the club I wouldn't be surprised if an outfit was more revealing, but I think it's a little inappropriate to see the same style at the grocery store. As you said, I also do not want to be a part of someone else's kink. I think decorum is something that we have lost. Sex, and everything that is or can be part of sex, HAS to be consensual.
I present as male for much of my life, including when I go to the gym. The gym I go to has private change rooms which I use and that prevents anyone from seeing my panties.
For me, I am super careful about this for other reasons besides etiquette. I really don't want people in my life to know what I wear. If someone sees your panties, intentionally or not, then you are opening yourself up to however they choose to react, and it might not be very pleasant. I think we all know what COULD happen. Afterall, most of us keep this side of ourselves a secret from the majority of the world and we do this for a variety of reasons. One reason why I keep what I wear to myself is that I do not want to have "The Talk" unless it's my decision. If my panties peek out, and a coworker or a family member or whomever sees, there's the chance that they will ask why I am wearing panties. Of course, it's none of their business and I think it's super weird to ask about someone else's underwear, but let's face it, some people are very nosy and have no sense of etiquette.
Of course, if someone does indeed see your panties (or a bra strap), it's very possible that they may not say something to YOU, but possible that they may say something to everyone else. All of a sudden your coworkers are all discussing your panties because let's face it, office gossip is a very real thing and for many people, it's a lot more fun than working. It won't take too long for people to start cracking jokes and soon things spiral out of control. You may not care what other people THINK about you, but you may be bothered by what other people SAY about you.
Love, Hannah
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I have this “fear” also Hannah. To the point that I don’t wear my bras outside the house unless I have a coat or jacket to cover up even more. I’m not ashamed of the underwear I choose to wear. It’s other people’s opinions I’m not ready to deal with.
Really well articulated, Hannah – you do write so well, thank you. Yes, it’s no one else’s business whether or not I wear panties, or indeed a bra, or anything else. My wife knows and is happy for me to wear panties and a bra, and indeed fact blouses. I am so, so fortunate. But no one else knows except the owners of the two lingerie boutiques where over the years I have purchased my sets. Looking back, I can’t think of anyone who has known, except maybe a previous girlfriend, but they never minded actually. Luckily, I generally work from home, so I have the luxury to dress as I want, and my co-workers simply are not aware at all, and that is fine with me.