While perusing the magazine section the other day, I came across an article in OUT magazine called “When Your Wife’s Bra Wont Fit You” by Chadwick Moore which talked about the underground world of support groups for gender diverse people and their families. Specifically, the article featured the New York-based group Crossdressers International (CDI) - a members only support group that works in tandem with Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls. Ironically, the academy is run by a woman named Veronica Vera who operates the school out of her Chelsea apartment.
Part of Miss Vera’s mission is to “help wives understand and embrace their husbands’ cross-dressing desires.” The academy also offers a locker room so that closeted crossdressers and people in transition can come together to get dolled up, get make-up and wig lessons, practice walking in heels, or just relax in peace. Anonymity is crucial so real names are never used. Essentially, it is a day spa for crossdressers.
Similar organizations in the USA include:
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CHIC (Crossdressrs Heterosexual Intersocial Club)
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Over the Rainbow Transformations in Portland, OR
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Carla’s Boutique in San Jose, CA
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Tris Ess Crossdressers
I am definitely a fan of these organizations because, let’s face it, it’s hard out there for a crossdresser, especially heterosexual crossdressers who can’t seem to find a place in this ever evolving world that has to put a label on everything and everyone.
We would love to hear recommendations from our UK/EU customers on similar support groups on your side of the pond! Let us know in the comment box below if you are a member of any support groups or crossdressing organizations. Are they useful? Do you know of any other groups? Would you join one?
Until you have found your support system, Xdress is proud to be your outlet. You can always rely on us for cross dressing topics, trends, and of course, amazing panties! So, put on some heels, let your hair down and fix yourself a cocktail. It’s happy hour somewhere!
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Hello I am Rachel I am 64years old I have been wearing the clothes of my true sex which is female since I was 16 I hate boys clothes they are so uncomfortable all my girlfriends new I wore knickers and tights and did not have much of a problem with them really my wife of 40years bought me knickers and tights she liked me to wear when we were courting i use to dress up at home when we got married but when children arrived that had to stop but I had a very strong urge to dress as a woman and could not stop because I knew deep down in my heart and mind I was a woman so 35 years ago I introduced Rachel to the outside world I drove out of town so I did not meet anybody I knew I was very nervous and my appearance ie make up etc was not great but the next time I was a little more confident and with practice my make up was getting better every time till it was as nice as any other lady It is important that you are confident in yourself and look forward do not look down that’s a total give away to the public make sure what you wear matches and not clashes and do not wear high heels unless you have practiced at home as there is an art to walking in heels any woman will tell you they are not comfortable to use to walk for long periods I always walk in flats or kitten heels till I get to were ever I am going to let say a restaurant and then slip on my heels also my advice is do not drive in heels also a lady’s feel on top of the world after they have been to the hair salon so make sure your hair (wig) suits your appearance and look after it as hair to a woman is so important so make sure you get it right as it does not matter if you go to a lot of trouble
getting a lovely outfit and pretty shoes beautiful
tights + jewellery etc if the hair style is wrong or the wind has messed it up make sure you check it out and have brush or comb in your handbag to put matters right obviously you should also carry a mirror in your bag but it a lot easier to use the mirror in the lady’s wash room that’s another hurdle you must get over when you can pass as a woman outside you should have the confidence to use the lady’s room to me it’s normal to use the lady’s room all my life I have had a problem using public toilets as It felt wrong having to use the gent’s one day a lady friend accompanied on a day trip I need the lady’s my friend waited outside I went in but as I came out of the cubical there was a male cleaner in the lady’s wash room I was in a right state when I rejoined my friend waiting outside what’s is wrong with you love I told hear she burst out laughing because a man was in the lady’s but she understood how I was feeling I feel sorry for any girls who are not confident enough to go out dressed and have to stay at home as you are missing out on so much fun it’s lovely to hear an assistant say hello madam good bye dear excuse me while I serve this lady or go into a restaurant or a bar that I use regularly and they address you as hello miss or hello Rachel how are you I have never had anybody work out that I am a woman who was given the wrong plumbing between my legs and been nasty to be truthful if any one has spoken to me its nice things and how pleased a have not hidden my true self away.and I am able to be the woman I know I have always been my only regret that I could not afford to get
my plumbing altered years ago but I have known from about age 12 that I was mentally a female in the wrong body I wish I could meet people in the England Wales Scotland who would like to take there feminine side outside but need someone to support them
I 💖 wearing panties & stockings around my apartment & when I go out have fantasy of finding others like myself & playing dress up.. Is that normal.?
I have been interested in wearing women’s clothing since I was a little boy. It started when I found my mother’s pantyhose in the laundry hamper many years ago. I’m now 45 years old, and I still dream about wearing pantyhose and high heels and I indulge in this practice whenever I have the opportunity. I am married now, and I brought this up to my wife many years before we were married. We tried it once but I didn’t feel she was interested and I have never mentioned it again. We’ve been together almost nine years. I don’t like doing this behind her back but I don’t want to be pushy and force her to feel obligated to do this. So for now I dress when she is not at home. I would love direction on how to handle this situation.
Like many I began experimenting in adolescence. Today I have a loving supportive SO who also enjoys my cross-dressing, however it’s kept behind closed doors. We would love to socialize with other couples with similar relationships. Here in middle Tennessee, the buckle of the Bible belt, when I let my hair down or up and apply a perfect acrylic Mani and pedi socializing isn’t an option.
I wish there was a group in my area(Chicago suburbs. I would like to meet other men and talk about outfits and such. Some one who could help my girl friend understand I love her but enjoy wearing a sexy outfit also. It feels great to come home after work and slip into my lingerie and relax.