Hello dear readers! I would like to start by sincerely wishing you all the very best during these troubling times. Today, let us take the time to discuss the art behind femininity, and how each of us has our own unique style(s).
So what exactly does it mean to be feminine? The dictionary describes it as "having qualities or an appearance traditionally associated with women, especially delicacy and prettiness". Even in this definition, it states "traditionally associated with women", which means you certainly do not have to be a woman to be feminine. Femininity can be displayed in various ways, whether it is our clothing, makeup, hair, or personalities. Standard feminine personality traits include gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity.
Now that we understand the basics, let's discuss further. Of course, I will start with clothing. Typical feminine styles that I adore are lace, frills, ruffles, and ruching. These can all be found in a plethora of colors in all categories; skirts, dresses, blouses, and lingerie. I often am drawn to the most feminine styles because that is at the core of who I am. I usually pass on plain, unimaginative designs in favor of beautiful styles that you can't help but admire constantly. This is very easy to do when you get to wear such exquisite designs, so thank you XDress!
As many of you might know already, I am a goth, and with that comes a whole new subcategory of styles and clothing that is not found as commonly. I would say it is the most beautiful fashion out there, as it specifically revolves around materials that are rich in color and that emphasize romance. Satin, leather, lace, mesh, and fishnet are such materials, typically found in black, or deep reds and purples. My favorite types of gothic clothing are latex skirts, velvet blouses, leather leggings, and lace lingerie. As I mentioned earlier, femininity is an art, and this is my specific style.
Let's move on from clothing and talk about makeup! Now when it comes to my personal style, I of course wear goth makeup. This usually emphasizes the eyes by making them appear very luscious, with heavy eyeshadow and eyeliner, with gorgeous long lashes. This is all completed with a flawless foundation and lipstick. This look is one that certainly makes me stand out, and I always appreciate the compliments I get on my appearance as I spend hours every day to achieve my femme goth style.
Personality/ behavior traits is a whole new subject. Since I began dressing completely on a daily basis, I've noticed a shift in my attitude. I am more patient and understanding, while also becoming more empathic and sensitive. This has actually done wonders for my relationship, and I've never been so happy with my girlfriend. I personally think every man needs to get in touch with their feminine side, as it opens up so many wonderful opportunities even excluding clothing.
Beyond personality, femininity is also apparent in the way we move. Men typically are very stiff, with their shoulders being the focal point of their movements. Women are much more graceful, appearing to move in a fluid motion. This is achieved through the legendary hip-swaying and a delicate swing of the arms. Walking this way takes much practice, and I would personally recommend wearing heels accompanied by a corset if you want to practice. This will force you to keep your shoulders immobile while making your hips do all the work. A more in-depth blog on feminine movement can be found here on XDress as well.
As you might gather, femininity plays a part in so many different aspects of who we are. Our bodies are a unique canvas in which we all portray our personalities through the use of clothes and makeup. I cannot imagine my life without feminity, and I hope one day all men can express themselves in such a beautiful way as we all do here.
That wraps it up for this blog! So what are your thoughts? In what ways are you creative through clothing/makeup? How has femininity changed your life? I can't wait to hear your stories!
-Nathan
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Hi Ally Great points Freedom is the ability to be yourself in any situation Negative energy needs to be extracted from our lives Wear what you want when u want Panties daily for me Nail polish on my toes all the time Bras occasionally Womens jeans and tops Wear something pretty today i am
Hi Nathan – thank you for writing this blog on such an important topic. Since more openly expressing my femininity in the way I dress and make up, I have also simultaneously adjusted my interactions with people who display more characteristically masculine behaviours. Those people are on the fringes or gone from my life completely now and I feel so much better for it mentally. Being able to outwardly express my femininity in the way I dress and behave and to be around people who accept that makes me feel so much better.
The change I feel makes me wonder if choicee of expression of femininity needs to be encouraged at a much earlier age rather than leaving people unhappy and to warily unfold who they are over a long period of their lives. I remember when I was a child and my mother had to dress me in a skirt one afternoon and how different it made me feel. The pressure to ‘behave like a boy’ seemed to fall away and I felt so much more relaxed and happier. School uniform requirements should be much less gender specific. Boys should be allowed to wear skirts if they want to and without fear of bullying.
Like Stevie (hi Stevie) there are things that I do that might be thought of as masculine – but girls do those things too. The much more important aspect of my femininity is the way I choose to dress and my more naturally feminine behaviours. Perhaps my appearance is an outward expression of my values and who I see as my clan. By being myself I have found I attract people who appreciate me as myself. Life becomes so much easier.
Love to you all
Ally x
Thanks for all your thoughts. Much appreciated and gave me many useful tips!
Thank Nathan. Provocative post For me I have a feminine side that yearns to be heard. I struggle with my fluidity for at times i wish to portray what is considered “femme” I love heels and painting my toes I love short dresses and stockings Skinny jeans and stilettos I love pretty lingerie I m exploring make up. But I m so male too! Lol! Cars football engines Lawn mowers fixing things etc I guess my femme side expresses itself in my personality as well. I m often called humble , nice , gentle. I love this blig its a lifeline for me to express my thoughts and share others as well Wear something pretty today i am Stevie