I am very interested to see how many men have gone to a brick-and-mortar store to shop for lingerie for themselves? Have you thought of going, and then talked yourself out of it? Have you ever gone to the lingerie store, looked around, and were too embarrassed to actually buy something for yourself? How about, making the purchase, then asking for a gift receipt, or asked for it to be wrapped making it look like it was a gift for someone else. If you have gone shopping for yourself, have you had a cautious eye to see if people are watching? Have you made a rushed decision so that you could get out of there faster without being “discovered”, only to find out that you bought the wrong size, or found out that the “fit” didn’t really fit, then felt disappointed with the purchase? Or the quick buy, when you discover that the fabric you thought looked so nice in the store, doesn’t feel so nice when adorned, and now you are at the office, which will make for a very long day. I wonder if there was a bead of sweat trickling from your forehead when you got to the cashier nervously making your purchase? Did you go to the store at Valentine’s or Christmas, because then, clearly that purchase wasn’t for you. What if someone at the office, or a neighbor saw you? What would you say then? Any of these situations sound familiar?
My girlfriend and I went out this summer to buy matching lingerie; matching satin lounge pants, nighties, and satin robe to go over top. Now, if you looked at the sizing, it was obvious who’s was who’s. The woman behind the counter said, oh, matching outfits, and gave me a look, when my girlfriend jumped in saying “yes, Brenda is going to love it”. I did wonder if I would have jumped in and said, yes, we are going to enjoy them very much. Secretly, I think she had figured it out. We went out shopping today, and I was wanting to get a longer flowy skirt (I love skirts), and a top to go with. If asked, I was going to tell the salesperson that we were having a themed dinner party, and that I needed to get clothes for the event. But no salesperson helped us, so, alas, I was not able to use my little trick. I’ll keep that one in my back pocket. Use it if you like. I must admit that when I have shopped for lingerie for myself, my girlfriend has been with me. Now, I got to take my time to pick out what I wanted. It wasn’t always that way, but at least I always had an out.
Here's the thing. I think that it would be fair to say that most men would feel nervous or scared purchasing lingerie for themselves in a brick-and-mortar store. And yet again, I wonder how many don’t go buy what they truly want. You know that you want it, you know it would be a bit of a thrill, yet you stop yourself from getting what you want.
Now, if you are reading this blog, you obviously found this site. I admit that finding the XDress website was a godsend. First, reading these blogs allowed me to not feel so alone in my journey, second I could purchase sexy lingerie from my couch, third, I found lingerie that actually fit properly (for obvious reasons), and forth, my lingerie arrived in plain packaging.
What is also great about the XDress site is also the selection of lingerie that is available, plus the consistent new items with varying colors and styles. I am personally very excited about the new satin line, having a matching satin bra and panty set, and then having a satin skirt to complete the outfit. That makes coming home and dress up something to really look forward to. Kudos to the XDress team for doing such a great job to give us men, and their significant others, the opportunity to fulfill our desires to wear pretty and luxurious lingerie. You give us the time to pick what we want, get the right size, experiment with things that you not have otherwise purchased, such as bras or garters, with zero stress.
What will you buy as an undercover lingerie buyer? As always, I appreciate your thoughts.
– WB
23 comments
I have felt all those same feelings when going to a brick and mortar store. I have been Xdresing for over 3 years now and at my age I’m (75) not concerned with what others think.
I love shopping on XDress and do love the satin items they have come out with.
Great blog!
I’m sure we’ve all been there at some point-I can certainly relate to just about point made!
The worst thing was actually biting the bullet, going in, buying, then discovering that the bra or panties which looked so inviting either didn’t fit or were so uncomfortable….
Not having an SO does put you on the spot, but since I discovered breast forms I’ve found it much easier-well easier anyway! I try to wear them as often as possible, and always if shopping for lingerie-somehow it seems easier to talk more openly to the sales teams about lingerie for yourself-especially bras, when it’s obvious you’re wearing forms. And there haven’t really been any awkward moments-everyone has been helpful, sympathetic, and it’s just so lovely to have an open conversation-that makes the whole visit worthwhile.
Best wishes to all
Georgina
I really do not think it is that that big of an issue today as it was back in the day. With everything being so gender fluid, and Xdressing being so much more acceptable today. Not so many years ago society made you think it was wrong/strange or something to be embarrassed about not so much now. I remember being quite nervous/scared/embarrassed years ago when I was only buying just panties at VS or other brick and mortar stores with or without a partner. I will say though it is much easier to buy today at a brick and mortar store (still mostly just panties, because I don’t/can’t pass nor do I want to try), but haven’t interacted with salespeople. Given a chance/need to I would like to think I would be comfortable to. I don’t shop at brick and mortar stores much, mostly because Xdress and other online sell stuff that just fit much better when they take into account the male anatomy.
I have bought a neon pink bra and garter from a lingerie shop with my partner present. Thankfully the shop and girls were LGBQTI friendly and were quite understanding.
I bought knee length healed boots from a Op shop and the woman there made a scene saying “you know those a womens boots?” Very loudly across the length of the shop so everyone could hear it. I said “So!” But my partner said “i have the same size feet, he’s trying them on for me” i was quite imbarrassed still.
I have had nasty things said by other shoppers just for touching panties looking in department stores.
I am affraid to try panties on in the shop because of the looks i will get going into the change rooms.
I must say though the women that see the satin gear from Xdress are in ore of how pritty the garments are and how good the look on me. I run adult parties so I can (cross dress) or be me really “genderfluid” and parade around in my Xdress lingerie.
I do it all the time. Love to go shopping for thongs, bikinis, bras, panties, blouses and whatever is on sale. I do it openly. No need to feel ashamed. I love female underwear so much and for the past three years I have only worn panties. I wear bras at home and if I’m going out of town. Would love to wear them all the time, but they would show through my clothes. I love tight-fitting, ass cheek-cutting panties that hold everything in place. Love that feeling.