I am very interested to see how many men have gone to a brick-and-mortar store to shop for lingerie for themselves? Have you thought of going, and then talked yourself out of it? Have you ever gone to the lingerie store, looked around, and were too embarrassed to actually buy something for yourself? How about, making the purchase, then asking for a gift receipt, or asked for it to be wrapped making it look like it was a gift for someone else. If you have gone shopping for yourself, have you had a cautious eye to see if people are watching? Have you made a rushed decision so that you could get out of there faster without being “discovered”, only to find out that you bought the wrong size, or found out that the “fit” didn’t really fit, then felt disappointed with the purchase? Or the quick buy, when you discover that the fabric you thought looked so nice in the store, doesn’t feel so nice when adorned, and now you are at the office, which will make for a very long day. I wonder if there was a bead of sweat trickling from your forehead when you got to the cashier nervously making your purchase? Did you go to the store at Valentine’s or Christmas, because then, clearly that purchase wasn’t for you. What if someone at the office, or a neighbor saw you? What would you say then? Any of these situations sound familiar?
My girlfriend and I went out this summer to buy matching lingerie; matching satin lounge pants, nighties, and satin robe to go over top. Now, if you looked at the sizing, it was obvious who’s was who’s. The woman behind the counter said, oh, matching outfits, and gave me a look, when my girlfriend jumped in saying “yes, Brenda is going to love it”. I did wonder if I would have jumped in and said, yes, we are going to enjoy them very much. Secretly, I think she had figured it out. We went out shopping today, and I was wanting to get a longer flowy skirt (I love skirts), and a top to go with. If asked, I was going to tell the salesperson that we were having a themed dinner party, and that I needed to get clothes for the event. But no salesperson helped us, so, alas, I was not able to use my little trick. I’ll keep that one in my back pocket. Use it if you like. I must admit that when I have shopped for lingerie for myself, my girlfriend has been with me. Now, I got to take my time to pick out what I wanted. It wasn’t always that way, but at least I always had an out.
Here's the thing. I think that it would be fair to say that most men would feel nervous or scared purchasing lingerie for themselves in a brick-and-mortar store. And yet again, I wonder how many don’t go buy what they truly want. You know that you want it, you know it would be a bit of a thrill, yet you stop yourself from getting what you want.
Now, if you are reading this blog, you obviously found this site. I admit that finding the XDress website was a godsend. First, reading these blogs allowed me to not feel so alone in my journey, second I could purchase sexy lingerie from my couch, third, I found lingerie that actually fit properly (for obvious reasons), and forth, my lingerie arrived in plain packaging.
What is also great about the XDress site is also the selection of lingerie that is available, plus the consistent new items with varying colors and styles. I am personally very excited about the new satin line, having a matching satin bra and panty set, and then having a satin skirt to complete the outfit. That makes coming home and dress up something to really look forward to. Kudos to the XDress team for doing such a great job to give us men, and their significant others, the opportunity to fulfill our desires to wear pretty and luxurious lingerie. You give us the time to pick what we want, get the right size, experiment with things that you not have otherwise purchased, such as bras or garters, with zero stress.
What will you buy as an undercover lingerie buyer? As always, I appreciate your thoughts.
– WB
23 comments
After buying for long time, lingerie, online, I wanted to go to the real store and buy for me, some sexy lingeire. Almost all the times, there was an nervious feeling at the shop, but it came from the salewomen or the other women around and it was bad experiences. One or two times, I was the first customer at the shop and it was much nicer. I miss this a lot
I love going to a brick and mortar store to buy lingerie and dresses for myself. I enjoy going to a store where the sales people really want to help you. They always ask what size does your lady wear, and that’s when I say it is for me which surprises them a little. Once they get over the surprise they are more than willing to help. I even had the sales lady measure me for a bra. For me it is very exciting to purchase and try on women’s cloths.
You still can’t beat xdress
This is a great blog! I have never been ashamed of shopping for lingerie but have made it appear as though it is a gift for someone else. It just seemed easier that way. I have left disappointed after the purchase by a poor fit or fabric and regret not trying it on first, although I don’t typically try on underwear, I just buy it. I do like the variety that certain stores offer, big national stores, that have a broad selection, not only panties but also lingerie. However, I do like XDress better as by twig and berries usually spill out of women’s panties, especially thongs or Tangas. XDress should consider brick and mortar locations as I would think it would elevate the game and offer a broader acceptance within the “normal” community. I would maybe start with P-town, MA as they have a broad offering of stores there that would allow XDress to “fit right in”. XDress is a great site and I am very happy I have found it. I enjoy the selection and fit of their items. I like how they are open to suggestions for new product! Satin is THE BEST in my opinion and love it! Thanks for the blog! Great topic!