I don’t know about you, but this last year has been interesting to say the least. I have seen it as a year that has forced us to pivot, discover our inner strength, show our resiliency, and find a way to stay positive. I think that it was also a year to reflect and spend time on the things that really matter. Looking back, it seemed that being busy was a badge of honor, and as long as you were getting things done, it was considered success. What I discovered in this last year, was that people were trying to do things that really mattered and trying to find meaning and purpose as this was how they were trying to find success. The great resignation was a big problem, and a big issue this past year as companies were struggling to retain their people, and the people were struggling to find alignment and purpose in their lives.
Where I am going with this, is that with the stress and strain that this pandemic has placed on each and every one of us, it has forced us to stop long enough to reflect on what is important. Since you are the most important person you know, have you stopped to reflect, and put the energy into just being yourself? In the last blog by Jill, it was interesting to read how she would buy some things for herself, then feel the guilt or shame and throw them away. Only to do it all over again, and again. Feeling guilt or shame about something that you desire, is not giving yourself the freedom to be yourself. Not giving yourself the luxury of that freedom based upon the expectations of “societal norms”.
My SO and I play crib, and there is always a wager on the game. So, the loser gets to buy the winner some lingerie, so there is really no loser. We often go shopping together and share in the experience. The look on the clerks face when she say’s these are for him is always fun. When I have to put on men’s underwear because I am going to play hockey, I get “the look”. You are wearing those? Right, you have to play hockey. She picks out my bra and panty set in the morning and has it laid out on the bed for when I get out of the shower.
Now that we are hopefully coming out of this pandemic, and you took the time to reflect on what is important to you and the decisions that make you happy and fulfilled, what will you do for you? Will you put on your glistening satin and lace bra and panty set and head off to work? Will you dress up and sip wine and read a good book? Will you not feel shame when dressing up because damn it feels good? As we head off into 2022, I would love to hear what decisions that you will make for you to be you? XDress is a great place to satisfy those needs, share your thoughts with others who feel the same, and a great place for my SO to shop when she loses a crib game. Here’s to another New Year, for a New You. It would be great to hear your stories.