I truly enjoy contributing to these blogs, appreciate the comments, and I hope that they create thought provoking changes in your mindset. I realize along my journey of reading and writing these blogs it has done many things for me. It has made me realize that I am not alone, there is nothing wrong with me, and that I can build my confidence to share my stories, and hopefully in turn, inspire others to do the same. All we can do is try.
Something recently that has come to mind is what would “she say”? There are many when I have read comments on the blog that they truly enjoy the feeling of wearing lingerie. The enjoyment of the feeling it gives them, it lets them experience the feminine side of themselves, but yet they hide it away from their significant other. Now, understandably so. With my former spouse of many years, if I would have expressed this aspect of myself to her, well, let’s just say that the divorce proceedings would have come a lot faster than they did. I’ll leave it as; I wasn’t allowed the freedom to be myself. Judgment proceedings would have been swift, and the stories around it would have followed. How people love to tell stories. This was the past.
Let’s move into the present, and how I got here. When I met my significant other that I am with now, I made a commitment to myself that I would only be with someone who accepted me, for me, panties and all. (no warts involved). I made a commitment to myself that I would not settle, not hide, and to be with someone who I could share all of me with. Why hide a part of me that found joy, sensuality, and freedom. My way of expressing it is mine, but it truly has no meaning until it’s shared. So, early on when dating, I decided to pull off the band-aid so to speak (place holy shit here), and over a face-time video as I was out of the country, I told her that I enjoyed wearing women’s panties. Then, I waited for the response. Time stalled at this point. To which she responded, well, I would like to see it and experience it for myself and then decide if this was something that I would enjoy and accept. Thus, it was not a no. (place whew here) At that point, I knew that I was dating someone who was opening minded enough to at least consider accepting all of me. So, the journey began. Truth be told, she went to XDress online shortly after and ordered me my first pair of blue Valentina panties. Which we now dub as “the originals”.
Fast forward, she has possibly bought more lingerie on XDress for me than I have. We have gone to brick and mortar stores and bought matching lingerie. Each and every morning when I am home, we pick out each other’s bra and panty sets in the morning and have them at the ready when we get out of the shower. Often, we get ready in the morning together in our bra and panty sets in the bathroom. We have matching nighty and panty sets for bed. The request has come on numerous occasions for me to do a cat walk for her. When the new satin skirts came out from XDress, she was like… so??????? I will say that our intimate times together have gone to a completely new level. If I decide to put on a skirt and clean the house, she decides that cleaning the house is no longer a good idea. You take it from there.
So, to my point. For you are out there, and you know who you are, and if you decided to open up, be vulnerable, and be completely honest with your significant other, what would she say? Do you think that you will be pleasantly surprised by her response? Do you think she would be aghast at the idea? Would you have to explain that you are not gay, you love her, but have a feminine side that needs to be expressed? Would she understand? What would it look like on the other side of one simple question? I know that I have read about the situations where it has worked brilliantly and taken their relationship to a new level. I don’t think that I have read the alternative on these blogs. Would love for you to share your stories. Communities support and learn from each other, why don’t we do that? So, what would she say???
WB
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I crossdress secretly. My wife doesn’t know and I don’t intend to change that, partly out of concern about what she might say. However, I have put myself into a difficult situation and am looking for quick advice. My wife is away for work this week and so I have had the opportunity to dress up every day (I mainly work from home). Yesterday I decided to visit a salon to have a facial, giving myself a clear base to apply my makeup, this being something I do from time to time. While I was at the salon, on impulse, I also asked if the beautician could tidy up my eyebrows and give them a bit of shape. After some waxing and threading I was pleased with the results and after applying makeup later on I felt that I looked great. Today, however, I am looking at myself in the mirror and clearly have very femininely shaped eyebrows. wife is due back in 2 days and I am at a loss over how I might explain my new look. Any thoughts will be greatly welcome.
Thanks, Gus
I have enjoyed reading through this discussion, and particularly the comments from the female perspective. I really love dressing up in women’s lingerie and spend many afternoons slowly adorning myself in lace, satin, stockings, etc., and then admiring myself in the mirror. I have shared many pictures of myself dressed up over the internet but have never shared my secret with my wife because I’m worried about what she would say. However Amelia’s story has given me an idea. I’m now waiting for the right moment to do exactly what Amelia’s husband did when he slipped into her panties whilst she slept. I’m hoping for a similar outcome and am excited to see what happens.
Amelia thank u! That’s amazing! Some of us can show comments like these and Sarah’s to our SO’s to help them understand how hot this can be. Get that lingerie on! I did!! Stevie
My husband wears lingerie and I love it. He didn’t do this before the wedding nor through the early years of our marriage, at least not that I knew about. It all started one morning when I woke up next to him and he was wearing the panties I had been wearing the evening before. I was definitely taken aback, somewhat shocked and didn’t know what to say. That being said, I also really enjoyed touching him in his clearly excitable state barely contained in the material and cut off my brazillian style panties. Afterwards I asked him why he had put on my underwear and he passed it off as just a bit of fun, but also that he had been really turned on by the experience. I wanted to know whether he had done this before without me knowing but he said that this was the first time he’d tried it. I wasn’t sure I believed him but it didn’t seem like a big deal really, and so I suggested that we should get him some similar panties of his own, particularly as we’re not quite the same size. A few days later he came to bed wearing some new satin and lace panties and, I have to say, was even more passionate than usual. Over the following weeks and months he bought several more pairs of panties and we both seemed to enjoy it. I realised that I actually find it quite a turn on seeing him wearing women’s panties. Over time he has introduced other items of lingerie and we have developed a habit of both wearing stockings and gently rubbing our legs together. I have a great secure folder on my phone with many pictures of him dressed up in lingerie, with my favourite being the one of him wearing a basque, panties, stockings and some platform heels. I tease him that I could blackmail him with the photos but also that I love having a husband brave enough to push boundaries. More women should be open to the idea of their man wearing women’s underwear. It’s fun, exciting, sexy and risqué. Men also look pretty hot wearing lingerie, at least my one does.
Sarah you’r amazing! Thank u for ur input. Hopefully it will inspire others to b open to their husbands love of lingerie! It can b very sexy ! Very erotic!