Loving yourself starts with accepting who you truly are. Being a crossdresser is a perfectly normal thing and should never be thought of in disdain or disgust, especially when you are thinking about yourself. This can be a difficult habit to shake due to the conditioning of those around you, or the comments of others. One of the best ways to combat such feelings is by surrounding yourself with those that are supportive. Even if you do not have friends or family to rely on, luckily there are websites like XDress where support is exactly what you will find (as well as amazing lingerie that will fit perfectly).
You will find that loving yourself definitely gets easier with time, just like anything else. One of the most efficient ways for me to feel wholesome within myself is by being consistent with my morning routine. Putting on my makeup in my favorite underwear, then picking out an outfit for the day is just a truly therapeutic experience. Looking in the mirror and seeing your outfit and makeup together brings a sincere feeling of validation, as you know this is you in your purest form. This feeling can be heightened even further if someone compliments you on your outfit or makeup, completely alleviating any prior worry of judgement.
Of course, treating yourself to your deepest desires and buying yourself clothes and lingerie is another fantastic way to love yourself. I personally love anything black as most of you know, and anything satin or silk in particular. If you don't know what your favorite colors or fabrics are, go shopping! Xdress has any and all colors from the more vibrant neons, to the rich romantic shades to suit any individual. There's nothing quite as soul-cleansing as buying yourself new clothes or lingerie, trying them on, and finding how much you love them. Don't stick to just lingerie either! Skirts, dresses, shoes, makeup or whatever else you can think of, just buy it!
Don't just buy it either, wear it all the time! Simply going about your day fully dressed or underdressed has an immediate effect in aiding your confidence, so why not do it everyday? And since you wear it at home, why not wear it out too? The nervous feeling will quickly subside, and you will feel absolute euphoria as you enter your favorite stores/places dressed the way you always wanted to be. I personally dress up fully everyday and my feminine clothing and lifestyle has simply become second nature, I no longer even feel the slightest guilt for it. This is something you must train your mind to do; to just be yourself unapologetically. Once you start fully dressing, you will not imagine living life any other way.
After all, wearing a beautiful dress or lingerie is something that makes women feel sexy, and there's certainly nothing wrong with it making men feel the same way. I personally adore the moments I spend with my girlfriend where we are both dolled up and go out together, only to end the night in intimate embrace as our souls connect on the deepest level. Embracing your femininity will lead to many amazing places, but there is none better than the arms of someone who loves you for who you are. And if you're single, loving yourself will soon lead to others loving you as they cannot resist your confident energy.
So, do you love yourself? What methods do you use to further build your confidence? I would love for us all to lift each other up and share any experiences that have helped you love yourself.
-Nathan
23 comments
John no mix up. Don’t feel u have to be gay to wear sexy pretty lingerie! Lots of hetero men who love panties bras stockings skirts dresses. Does not mean u r gay, if u r so be it but don’t feel forced because of a style of clothing Stevie Get ur lingerie on
Yes, people on here seem to be on my wavelength. I’ve got hundreds of pretty panties, and perhaps need to thin out the collection to just the ones I love to wear. Favourites are real micro panties which hold the front in nicely and form a jockstrap to frame a shapely bottom. Especially when there are some nice thin straps, and pink is favourite colour.
I am hetero, and married; it’s the girls that catch my eye. I do have a feminine side, love to wear pretty panties, and the feel of wearing a mini (even micro) skirt with silk stockings. I just wish that I had the courage to go out dressed like that. In a big city you have anonymity, but in a small conservative town I’d end up being the talk of the town! So, I just keep my panties and stockings to myself. I’d like to go to a gay bar/ club, or better still an underwear party, but fear being expected to have male on male sex, which revolts me. A bit mixed up.
Jean Great comments. Thats whats so cool about this site . We all love to hear everyone’s expressions and views. I love bras and skirts w a thong. As for the pouches i tend to like them hold everything together but i still like the flat front panties. Anyway i love hearing from everyone Get ur lingerie on Stevie
I agree with Angel that the idea of wearing female panties is very sexy and I did so myself for many years, until I discovered Xdress. In practice though, I found women’s panties not to be very comfortable for long term wear as the crotch is so narrow that it cuts across the boys, and at least for me I found that there was far too much fabric in the back coverage. Plus of course there is often no elastic to keep everything in place. So I like XDress panties because there is plenty of room in front and they have flat plus pouch styles, both of which I buy. I was put off bras years ago when I tried a women’s bra it looked plain ridiculous on me, as I have a flat chest. I now have a couple of Xdress pull-on bras that work much better as they don’t have large defined cups, so look more normal, so I do wear them from time to time, but usually under a loose shirt or sweater so the straps don’t show. I also love the camis available on this site, they are super sexy and look good on me.