Loving yourself starts with accepting who you truly are. Being a crossdresser is a perfectly normal thing and should never be thought of in disdain or disgust, especially when you are thinking about yourself. This can be a difficult habit to shake due to the conditioning of those around you, or the comments of others. One of the best ways to combat such feelings is by surrounding yourself with those that are supportive. Even if you do not have friends or family to rely on, luckily there are websites like XDress where support is exactly what you will find (as well as amazing lingerie that will fit perfectly).
You will find that loving yourself definitely gets easier with time, just like anything else. One of the most efficient ways for me to feel wholesome within myself is by being consistent with my morning routine. Putting on my makeup in my favorite underwear, then picking out an outfit for the day is just a truly therapeutic experience. Looking in the mirror and seeing your outfit and makeup together brings a sincere feeling of validation, as you know this is you in your purest form. This feeling can be heightened even further if someone compliments you on your outfit or makeup, completely alleviating any prior worry of judgement.
Of course, treating yourself to your deepest desires and buying yourself clothes and lingerie is another fantastic way to love yourself. I personally love anything black as most of you know, and anything satin or silk in particular. If you don't know what your favorite colors or fabrics are, go shopping! Xdress has any and all colors from the more vibrant neons, to the rich romantic shades to suit any individual. There's nothing quite as soul-cleansing as buying yourself new clothes or lingerie, trying them on, and finding how much you love them. Don't stick to just lingerie either! Skirts, dresses, shoes, makeup or whatever else you can think of, just buy it!
Don't just buy it either, wear it all the time! Simply going about your day fully dressed or underdressed has an immediate effect in aiding your confidence, so why not do it everyday? And since you wear it at home, why not wear it out too? The nervous feeling will quickly subside, and you will feel absolute euphoria as you enter your favorite stores/places dressed the way you always wanted to be. I personally dress up fully everyday and my feminine clothing and lifestyle has simply become second nature, I no longer even feel the slightest guilt for it. This is something you must train your mind to do; to just be yourself unapologetically. Once you start fully dressing, you will not imagine living life any other way.
After all, wearing a beautiful dress or lingerie is something that makes women feel sexy, and there's certainly nothing wrong with it making men feel the same way. I personally adore the moments I spend with my girlfriend where we are both dolled up and go out together, only to end the night in intimate embrace as our souls connect on the deepest level. Embracing your femininity will lead to many amazing places, but there is none better than the arms of someone who loves you for who you are. And if you're single, loving yourself will soon lead to others loving you as they cannot resist your confident energy.
So, do you love yourself? What methods do you use to further build your confidence? I would love for us all to lift each other up and share any experiences that have helped you love yourself.
-Nathan
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Hello. I’d like to respond to Adam, who asked about straight guys wearing female underwear. Well, I’m one of them, and I’m a sucker for lace. But it’s interesting to point out that I, for one, love female underwear that can fit me more than made-for-men underwear. I do not like panties with the front puch for a man’s bulge. Instead, I love female panties, lace or otherwise, that can fit me. I love underwear that’s extremely feminine, and all my wardrobe is filled with flowers, bright colors and other traditionally feminine looks. I also love panties, thongs and G-strings that cut through my flesh and keep me on a tight leash. Oh, God, how I love those! And the latest trend for me are bras and skirts. I wear them at home all the time now, and bras even to go out. But I have to be discreet about them, so I mask them with an overcoat or a jacket, which I would not like to do. I feel so good in my bras and skirts, not to mention my panties (already have over 70). So there’s my feedback, Adam.
Well for one I m hetero married proud crossdresser! But, I didn’t tell people what boxers I wore so why do I need to tell them I’m wearing panties or a matching bra? Do I need to tell them I’m wearing toe nail polish? The best thing to do is tell the SO early in the relationship IF you think its going somewhere! They hate it if you tell them 20 yrs in If its outerwear then that’s a whole new conversation! Lots of hetero men wear panties. The community is very diverse! All genders ! Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Stu I love it So happy to have you here I m 56 and finally accepted myself at 50! I love wearing lingerie! Makes me feel sexy confident and alive as well as a little naughty This is a great clean blog Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Can I ask how many guys in this thread (or any other thread) are straight with a female partner? When I look into male lingerie, men who love lace underwear, men who wear stockings and make up etc it definitely seems to be mainly the gay community who embrace it with confidence and lack of judgement and to be fair they always look amazing, I am interested in how many hetro and traditionally ‘masculine’ men are out there who are into this and how they navigate through fear of judgement and being open about loving wearing these items. I would love to just be open and confident without fear of my friends and families judgement (as at the end of the day it’s just material!) But I really worry that people would find it ‘wierd’ and be uncomfortable!! I wish I could just be confident and fly the flag for clothes having no gender but I guess I’m scared. Would love some feedback ☺️
I feel like Ive come home when I read this blog. Always on point with the subject. Ive been dressing for 35 years and the guilt and shame I felt afterwards always made it hard to accept my femme side. This is changing rapidly since telling my wife, although she still struggles with my femme side, the fact that she’s ok about me dressing whilst home alone, has helped me work through the shame and guilt, allowing to actually start loving myself for who i am and not what the culture expects me to be. Ive always loved women’s clothes and too be honest, I’d dress more if I could. I’m making time for my girl days, almost in a ceremonial way. I shower, i slip into my fav knickers and always a camisole, applying my make up is joyful, even when I cant quite get my eyeliner perfect, its possibly the most creative experience i can give myself, that transformation !!! I turned 50 recently and love chic, sexy, outfits. When I look in the mirror, I smile at myself, I don’t do that much in male zone. Ive just been shopping, during my lunch hour and purchased some new eye make up brushes, bangles, rings and the most amazing polka dot blouse. Giving yourself permission to be yourself and love who you really are is illuminating. Feeling sexy and femme is powerful.
Keep getting your girl on.
Stu x