Loving yourself starts with accepting who you truly are. Being a crossdresser is a perfectly normal thing and should never be thought of in disdain or disgust, especially when you are thinking about yourself. This can be a difficult habit to shake due to the conditioning of those around you, or the comments of others. One of the best ways to combat such feelings is by surrounding yourself with those that are supportive. Even if you do not have friends or family to rely on, luckily there are websites like XDress where support is exactly what you will find (as well as amazing lingerie that will fit perfectly).
You will find that loving yourself definitely gets easier with time, just like anything else. One of the most efficient ways for me to feel wholesome within myself is by being consistent with my morning routine. Putting on my makeup in my favorite underwear, then picking out an outfit for the day is just a truly therapeutic experience. Looking in the mirror and seeing your outfit and makeup together brings a sincere feeling of validation, as you know this is you in your purest form. This feeling can be heightened even further if someone compliments you on your outfit or makeup, completely alleviating any prior worry of judgement.
Of course, treating yourself to your deepest desires and buying yourself clothes and lingerie is another fantastic way to love yourself. I personally love anything black as most of you know, and anything satin or silk in particular. If you don't know what your favorite colors or fabrics are, go shopping! Xdress has any and all colors from the more vibrant neons, to the rich romantic shades to suit any individual. There's nothing quite as soul-cleansing as buying yourself new clothes or lingerie, trying them on, and finding how much you love them. Don't stick to just lingerie either! Skirts, dresses, shoes, makeup or whatever else you can think of, just buy it!
Don't just buy it either, wear it all the time! Simply going about your day fully dressed or underdressed has an immediate effect in aiding your confidence, so why not do it everyday? And since you wear it at home, why not wear it out too? The nervous feeling will quickly subside, and you will feel absolute euphoria as you enter your favorite stores/places dressed the way you always wanted to be. I personally dress up fully everyday and my feminine clothing and lifestyle has simply become second nature, I no longer even feel the slightest guilt for it. This is something you must train your mind to do; to just be yourself unapologetically. Once you start fully dressing, you will not imagine living life any other way.
After all, wearing a beautiful dress or lingerie is something that makes women feel sexy, and there's certainly nothing wrong with it making men feel the same way. I personally adore the moments I spend with my girlfriend where we are both dolled up and go out together, only to end the night in intimate embrace as our souls connect on the deepest level. Embracing your femininity will lead to many amazing places, but there is none better than the arms of someone who loves you for who you are. And if you're single, loving yourself will soon lead to others loving you as they cannot resist your confident energy.
So, do you love yourself? What methods do you use to further build your confidence? I would love for us all to lift each other up and share any experiences that have helped you love yourself.
-Nathan
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Ally You got it all right! If u r not in a situation where u can dress as you like there are some things u can do to satisfy your cravings. Underdress! Panties bras camis women’s tanks Nail polish on those toes! A pedi with clear polish! Women’s jeans! Stockings in the winter Sports bras! Women s sweaters in the fall A man bag Clear finger nail polish Lingerie at night Bubble bath Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Hi there croosdress lovers!
Great article and comments. So true.
Even if you have to keep your dressing secret, love yourself by making time for it. What you do, doesn’t have to be approved of by others for you to love yourself.
Find times or places where you can dress and feel good. I’ve recently found the time and the place for a walk where I can wear one of my favourite skirts and shoulder bags and enjoy the fresh air around my legs whilst walking on paths through long grass. It makes me feel so free and is what I owe to myself.
Not everyone is in a situation where they feel able to dress how they would like to from morning until night. Think about where and when you can do something though, and start from there. You owe it to yourself to love yourself and claim the right to be how you want to be.
Love dressin’
Ally x
Chris yes u r right! We should live for ourselves and b true to ourselves! Panties make us feel good look good and satisfy an inner craving! Get ur lingerie on Stevie
Haven’t we learned from the last 18 mos. that life is short. Do what makes you happy…..wear pretty panties, put on a lacy bra, feel the yummy material under your work clothes and smile!! The best way to start the day off right is to open your panty drawer, choose some feminine panties, slip them on and then go “give em hell!” Good luck from a true panty lover ❤️
Jose this is THE BEST support site you will find. Not creepy pics and sex stuff but real people in real situations real struggles and good advice . Chime in to the topics and welcome Get ur lingerie on Stevie