Greetings Dear Readers!
I hope you are well and wearing something pretty. First, a shout out to Nathan, who suggested a blog topic about lingerie. Thanks, Nathan. What a fun topic! Because the word “lingerie” covers such a large array of clothing, I’m going to limit this blog to the topic of panties – a topic I know you are all totally into, as am I.
The great majority of us got our start in cross-dressing with panties. A good number of us started by exploring mom’s or sister’s panty drawer and then progressed to buying our own. Some folks, once they are adults, limit themselves to underdressing under their everyday male clothing, while others of us progressed on to bras, hosiery, and finally outer clothing.
I was a late starter, having begun with underdressing in middle age. Do you remember the thrill of that first time you slipped into a pair of panties? I was so amazed by the choices. With men’s underwear, you have a choice of tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you could expand that to uh, tighty whities or boxers. Of course, you can also find male thongs, usually in, of all places, swimwear. With panties, you’ve got this amazing variety of styles, colors, and fabrics. Xdress/Body Aware has a huge selection, ranging from pretty grannies to bikinis, thongs, G-strings, tap pants, tangas – ah the list goes on! And the fabrics! Lace, satin, cotton, polyester. I’m all about comfort, and men’s underwear does not begin to measure up to the comfortable styles and fabrics of Xdress panties.
It’s interesting to me that, although I’ve been underdressing for many years now (I have one pair of men’s underwear that I wear for my annual physical with my very conservative doctor) that it is still a treat every morning to pick out the day’s panties. When I wore men’s underwear, I didn’t give a thought to the selection of underwear, as they all looked the same. Not so with panties. Every day it is fun to decide on what panties to wear. Is it like that for you?
Online panty shopping is the safest way to go, and Xdress/Body Aware panties are designed with the male physique in mind, in terms of the width of the gusset, which gives a very comfortable fit. It is also fun to go to the “other side of the store” and explore the panty section. I am very fortunate to have a very supportive wife, and we go panty shopping together. I find that shopping in stores appeals to my feminine side, plus it is just a bit risky, making it all the more fun. Part of the fun for me is wearing a very sexy pair of panties under my women’s jeans and nobody has a clue how hot I look under it all. Speaking of jeans, if you try on a pair of women’s skinny jeans, you’ll never go back to men’s jeans. I know, that’s off-topic, but I just had to throw that in there.
Okay, so there are my thoughts on the topic. How about you? Are you a full-time panty wearer or limit it to weekends or special occasions? How old were you when you started underdressing? What are your favorite styles/fabrics? What is your preferred style of shopping – online or brick and mortar? Warm-up those keyboards guys/gurls. You know I love hearing your stories!
Fond regards,
Angie ♥️
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Hello all, I’ve been reading the comments and I got very inspired by everything you were saying.
I will never forget the feeling when I got in a shop to buy my first knickers… it was so liberating. After that (around 3 years ago) I started researching online and found out about xdress. Since the beginning I shared about this experience with my girlfriend and at first she got confused. She asked, but you also want to be a woman? She became very supportive about that and today we choose what will be the next knickers together.
I wear them when I am in the mood. Sometimes just to sleep sometimes to spend the day, go out, etc. As long as I don’t feel super self conscious about showing off my thong by accident I am fine. It makes me feel super sexy and comfortable.
But there is one reason I still having boring ‘male’ underwear. Is that you need to be able to afford a collection of good panties… and the true is that it is expensive. I am not talking about the quality that is amazing. But would be fantastic to see this kind of underwear becoming more popular and accessible for everyone!
Lots of love, from Glasgow.
xx
I personally disagree with your definition of a cross dresser if, only because it is so limiting, really crossdresser is a blanket term. It is a blanket term in that that the reasons people do it and to the degree they crossdress vary wildly. For some crossdressers, it is just a matter of enjoying female clothing, for others its purely a sexual fetish, and for others like Kenneth its a way of connecting with a more feminine side of their personality (when society tells them they cant have one). Personally for me its a mixture of all three though I know others who don’t care for the sexual side of it at all. And sorry many crossdressers often put just as much effort into looking feminine as any drag queen, just in different ways.
I think typically, the difference between drag and crossdressing as you allude to, is drag is more of a performance art where crossdressers do it for more personal reasons. Additionally drag takes typical everyday femininity and bumps it up to 11. Their clothing is ultra flamboyant and feminine. Their makeup is used to give them exaggerated feminine features. Their movements, vocal inflections, and mannerisms are all done in a exaggerated ways when compared to women. Personally I admire the skill it takes to do what they do. And yes, for some crossdressers, it is as simple putting on some lingerie and/or clothing and calling it a day(to be clear I find that perfectly acceptable). For other crossdressers the goal to go for a more natural feminine look and natural mannerisms when compared to drag, with the ultimate goal of passing as much as possible. That often means shaving, wig, body shaping, clothing, makeup ect ect…. Personally it takes me hours to go from my masculine self to Amy.
I will say one last thing though, at the end of the day none of that matters. As long as a person is able to express themselves in the manner they find most comfortable(with in reason) its all good. You do you, I’ll do me, and we can both be friends.
Dear John
You are so right. For guys raised to be masculine yet desperate to release their feminine side, feminization trainers or support is definitely the way to go. You can however take small steps yourself by practising your own deportment a little every day; the way you sit with your legs together or lift your posture a little more when you walk for example. Sit up straight. Swing your arms a little less when you walk. Relax your face and open your eyes a little more. All these things are gentler ways of moving through the world and showing respect for yourself and others. Far easier by far if you’re wearing beautiful xdress panties and a bralette too. Shed that agressive masculine mask and be gentler with the world.
Ally x
John,
You are absolutely right, having someone there to support you is absolutely essential. It can be a significant other, friend, family member, counselor… anyone that will support you. Sharing your feelings about this side of yourself with someone who won’t judge you completely changes your mindset about it. You will no longer feel ashamed but instead feel encouraged to be yourself, which we all deserve to be.
Nathan: good advice. I am currently building up a panty and bra collection so that I can put away my male underwear and try to wear only panties. I’ll see how long I can do it without reverting back to male underwear. You are absolutely right about comfort and I think that’s one of the many reasons I abandon panties frequently; it’s so hard to find a comfortable fit. Xdress is really helping here but it’s good to have variety, there are so many sexy choices for women. I think what the world needs is feminization trainers (you know, like the gym fitness trainers?). These would be people who would coach you, support your choices and guide you in the right direction until you have permanently removed the toxic programming and are completely comfortable with expressing femininity.