There is a pattern that I have noticed when it comes to the blog posts on XDress. I must say that I do truly enjoy writing posts for the site, but what I enjoy more is reading the responses to those posts. I truly appreciate and respect the different perspectives that people provide, the experiences that they have had, and how everyone can relate to them on their journey in their own way.
The pattern that I allude to is that once a blog post gets released on the site, there are a couple of responses, and it may end there, or there may be a multitude of responses, and then it just stops. It never seems to be an ongoing conversation, and in my opinion, this is such a safe and open place to share our experiences and opinions.
I also appreciate the fact that every post is also moderated, as I can only imagine what comes in. Thank you XDress team. So, the reason that I wanted to create a blogapalooza is to get more engagement on the site. The more we share, the more we learn, the greater our confidence, the more we give ourselves the permission to be ourselves, the greater the world becomes.
So, I have 3 questions when it comes to the blogging on the XDress site. Here it goes:
- What is your favorite blog? Of all the blogs that you have either wrote, or read, which one stands out the most, and why?
For me, I truly love reading the responses from people, and openly sharing their experiences. I just wrote the blog called “What would she say?”, and I really enjoyed Eddy’s story on how he got “caught” in his wife’s lingerie, and after some good communication, he now has a drawer of his own, and how it has taken their relationship to a new level. I appreciated this blog, because it also gave me the affirmation within my relationship with my girlfriend. I also have a drawer full of satin and lace goodies that she gets to choose form every morning. So, what is your favorite blog, and why?
2. Is there a reason that you are not contributing?
I have to admit, when I started on this journey, there was no way on God’s green earth that I was going to contribute and respond to any blog post on this site. I had a hard enough time thinking about ordering panties or even entertaining the thought of clicking “add to cart” for a bra. But, bit by bit as I felt understood, and built confidence, I would start to add comments to the blogs, and it felt good to be able to contribute hoping that it would help others along the way. The next thing I knew, I was writing blogs, and I do hope that it has given permission for others to do the same. So, ask yourself, is there a reason that you are not contributing? Are you sacred? Shy? Don’t know what to say? Here’s my challenge: try it, see how it feels, and if you do, put a WB at the end, so I know that it’s your first, and I’ll respond back to keep the conversation going.
3. If you were to write a blog?
If you were to write a blog, what would you write about? If you go back in blog history, there is a long string of posts. Some are about energy, some about personal grooming (remember, you can’t grow grass on a playground), and David even had AI write a blog post. (It only had 4 comments). Scott also had a great post on Summer Stain Lingerie Refresh (2 comments). There are so many various topics that have been discussed. I have always tried to write about things that would either try and create interest, and therefore comments, such as the What Would She Say? blog post. Or, write about things to help people have reflection, such as my post on A Shift in Energy and to see things from another perspective. If you were to write a blog, what would you write about? Let’s hear what you have to say!!
I want to thank David, and the entire XDress team for the opportunity to write these blogs, to provide such amazing lingerie that we love so much. To be able to share our stories on this platform. Until XDress, I would have no idea where on earth I would be able to go to share my thoughts and experiences, and to know that it’s ok.
Wrap up- What’s your favorite blog and why? Why are you not contributing? If you were to write a blog? Let’s create a blogapalooza!! Panties, bras, stockings, and heels on!!!
Cheers,
WB
14 comments
Hi WB, great blog and thanks for the shout out! My favorites have been “Am I Gay?”, “Where did it begin?” And several others that date back a few years. I am a frequent contributor to XDress and Body Aware blogs as I really enjoy these sites and the products they sell. The community is very supportive and I always enjoy this support. I write as a release from daily stress of work (Sales) and when comforted by the satin (or other material) that XDress has, I get creative. Some blogs are crap, some are better than others and some spark interest in new ways. I don’t have a set goal for writing these blogs and often find that what I write is something i have been thinking about for a while. Does that even make sense? As for what I’d like to see in a blog. Just more people writing them. No matter what the subject matter is, just write. I really never worry about the amount of feedback or “likes” that I get as I just enjoy the site and contributing to help others in their journey. Really enjoyed this and hope others feel safe and secure and supported by this community to write more. It is anonymous with just your first name so don’t be scared! Type away! Or comment with your thoughts! No wrong answers here.
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Editor’s comment… Thanks, Scott for your thoughts and contributions. I would like to second Scott’s invitation, we really would love to hear from more of our readers, please add your comments to any of the blogs. To any budding writers out there, if you would like to submit a blog (to be published anonymously), send it to all@xdress.com and I will get back to you. Best wishes to all our Xdress readers, David
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Hi WB, and thank you for your efforts to keep these conversations going. I find it helpful to read the blogs and the comments, they have helped me realise that I’m not the only one and therefore not as weird or shameful as I once felt.
My favourite blogs have been the ones that cover the psychology connected to subject of wearing or dressing up in lingerie and/or women’s underwear (the “Where did it begin” blog being a good recent example). I also really enjoy reading the stories that different contributors have shared regarding their experiences, particularly about the reactions of their partners after discovering the truth or when someone is able to be open about their desires (“Her side, his side” or “What would she say” are, again, good recent examples).
I have contributed to the conversations on a few occasions, but always anonymously or by using an alias because of my long held but irrational fear of being discovered. I don’t contribute regularly because some of the blogs cover particular perspectives that aren’t always connected to my experiences or the reasons why I dress up in lingerie. Incidentally, I’ve decided to stop being anonymous and am posting this comment under my real name, with the hope that this might help me to be more honest with myself as well.
If I were to write a blog, something I’d love to try one day, it would aim to raise several questions about the feelings generated when we decide to do something that is generally taboo, or the aesthetics and experiences of being or seeing ourselves when we’re dressed up in our favourite lingerie, including the experiences of our partners when we’ve been able to be open about it, or support and advice for those that haven’t yet.
Thanks again WB, I’m hopeful that by keeping the conversation going more people will be provoked into contributing and that each conversation will be a small step towards the subject of men wearing lingerie becoming more acceptable to more people.
J J
I love them all. This forum has really important to me! It allowed me to express my feelings and not feel alone! It allowed me to think about things i d never thought about. The one I liked the most was the one about the significant others input. I contribute all the time. I love this site; its clean, relevant and insightful. I too wish the threads would be longer in terms of responses. The reason I like the significant others input, is because it gives us hope that there are women who will accept and participate with us in our clothing choices So that’s my take. Be you and wear panties if you want !