The Excitement of Dressing-Up!

The Excitement of Dressing-Up!

In no way do I believe that the way I feel about cross-dressing is the way everyone who cross-dresses feels. And that includes people who are born male but identify as female or those that are on a male to female transition journey – we all have our own feelings. But I find a simple happiness in recognizing, and accepting, that I find it all just so exciting!

And what’s wrong with that?

I don’t ask anyone to accept my preferences for wearing lacy and satin underwear and stay-up stockings. I’m kind of OK that the majority of the world won’t accept my cross-dressing as ‘normal’. To an extent I would feel comfortable going about my daily business dressed ‘en-femme’. Heaven knows, it might even feel less exciting if I got to do it on the daily amongst others!

The excitement of wearing gorgeous lingerie, skirts, tops, heels and make-up (I can’t get used to wigs) began, for me, at an early age – like it did for many of you, I guess. It remains today. I’ve purged, I’ve tried to control my feelings – but it comes back just as strong. And why should I resist?

Our old friend Aristotle thought of a life of pleasure as enough for a good life or a life well-lived – alongside a life of honour, wealth, health, or eminence. Take your pick. Some psychologists suggest a good life is a mixture of pleasurable, meaningful and varied experiences. Others say that hedonic goal pursuits (e.g. having fun) may be just as important for our well-being as long-term goal pursuits (e.g. learning something new to get a better job).

On that basis, a little of what I fancy ought to do me good!

In truth, I wonder if I can even justify - as if I need to – my cross-dressing as something that puts me in touch with my feminine side. After all, what is either feminine or masculine about clothes?

Do I wear women’s clothes? No, I wear my clothes. It’s just that most people probably associate my clothes with those mainly worn by women – whereas Aristotle and his friends probably knew a thing or two about wearing a skirt, or ‘a chiton’ as it might have been called.

Do I feel feminine when I wear my lingerie and dresses? Well, how would I know what feeling feminine feels like? I’m not even sure what feeling masculine feels like. Do women spend their lives feeling feminine any more than I spend my life feeling masculine? Probably not. Although, there seems to be a lot of evidence to suggest that people have a male or female experience of the world, I think that’s probably a little different to feeling either masculine or feminine.

Maybe what I do in cross-dressing is construct my own feminine ideal and find that exciting to occupy for a little space of time. I find it hard to imagine that, in general, women feel as excited as I do when dressed in what they wear on a daily basis. However, I can also imagine that some women might do.

British artist Grayson Perry has said that people accept his cross dressing because he is an artist – he’s “allowed to be weird”. At the same time, he accepts that attitudes towards him might be different if he were a banker. Though in no way should this permit intimidation, aggression and exclusion towards people that harmlessly digress from societal norms.

In day-to-day life I’m probably more banker than artist. My dressing remains hidden, subtle, or in accepting company.

I don’t want to tell you what the reasons for cross-dressing are or should be. It’s good enough for me to be excited by the looks I can create. A creative act or even a delusional one at times – I’m no cat-walk model. Should it matter? Like any craft it takes time, practice, and experimentation to create a satisfying work.

Do you need to find reasons for what you do? Or is it enough discovering the fact that 'It’s All Just So Exciting!'

 

Justin

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34 comments

I have enjoyed crossdressing since I was about 12. It started with sneaking some of my mom’s lingerie into my room and slowly developed from there. I have purchased many sexy sets through the years. I have never told my wife about it and I still keep it hidden. I still get such a thrill from wearing a sexy bra and panties under my clothes out in public. I was so happy to find this site. I just ordered a corset, stockings, and a garter belt. Those might be a bit harder for me to hide but they make me feel pretty and that is what matters most.

Joe

Hi everyone Pleased to see this post has prompted so many to open up about the way they feel about cross dressing. If it’s something that excites you, I think it’s probably healthy to accept that rather than fight it or seek some rational explanation. What you do with that is up to you and your business – unless perhaps it actually interferes with someone else’s life. Have fun over Christmas and may your dressing dreams come true. Justin

Justin

Hi everyone

Pleased to see this post has prompted so many to open up about the way they feel about cross dressing.
If it’s something that excites you, I think it’s probably healthy to accept that rather than fight it or seek some rational explanation. What you do with that is up to you and your business – unless perhaps it actually interferes with someone else’s life.

Have fun over Christmas and may your dressing dreams come true.

Justin

Justin

I just love full brief black knickers.all my life I have been deprived from any experience of enjoying the thrill of sharing having sex with a likeminded blacknickerslover. Am I a one off?

Blacknickerslover

I’ve been turned on by wearing girly clothes since I was a little boy. I found where my mom had a pair of naughty panties – black sheer with some lace and they were crotchless to boot. Lol. I was like 8 so…🤷🏻‍♂️ Several decades later I’m buying pink lace boy shorts and wearing them under my jeans all day. I have had so many pairs over the years. It’s super exciting and a major turn on to me both doing it and seeing other guys dressing so sexy. I understand it’s not for all and some will never accept us, but I don’t see that it causes any harm at all.

Thom

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